(Question restated to be clear) Should I say this to her?

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I'm retyping this to be clearer. I want to say this to her directly but I'm changing certain things, like telling her I need her. I'm asking guys what they think and girls what to change and everybody how to make it shorter. We haven't talked for ten months and I haven't tried to talk to her yet and I have not ben stalking her or anything else that bad or whatever. It's just that I at least want her friendship back amd this is my 1st and final try because I've been trying to move on. (Continued in additional details.) (Sorry it's long)

Hey. How are you? Ever since we stopped talking, I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I remember the first thing you said was that I harassed you. It's kind of funny really, that was the last thing I ever wanted to do to you but I guess I did anyway. If you said that because I called you every weeknight, it as only because when we were at school we'd only talk for two minutes. I never really got to talk to you when it'd be just me and you. Even when I called, someone else would always called. And then, I had a sort of "calling plan" you see, I would call you at 9 and if you didn't answer, I'd wait 1 hour and try again, and if you didn't answer I'd just talk to you the next day because I didn't want to bother you. I was always afraid that I was doing something wrong to make you not like me.

I also remember that you told me I obsessed over you. I guess I did and I'm sorry, But what boy wouldn't obsess over a amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you? Especially if he did't want to lose you. A special girl like you is hard to find. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad. I still haven't found a girl with your bright smile.
I remember the last thing you said was I don't know you. You told me before that, when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me! I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you and I need you. You're special to me. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid. I should have understood then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.

I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, I realize that's worse. So, for all these three things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. Maybe we could chill and hang out somewhere sometime as just friends, because I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you.

I have not tried to speak to her in the time of us not talking, I've ony called once then hung up out of fear a long time ago, basically I haven't tried hard at all. The ignoring thing seems like it's taking too long and that's just not me. I guess I'm just mister nice guy.

Also, I'm quite aware that I'm obsessive, I'm working on that, and I do have a life

Answer 1

OK I hate to admit this but i have wrote a letter like this before and it doesn't work. But to my surprise a year later she sent me a email to say whats up just like nothing happened and we just don't talk about the letter or our fight. I think you should try this approach with her because the letter makes you look weak. Pretend like that was the old you and you have moved on and there are none of those feelings left. Just say Whats up? How have you been and start rebuilding from square one. She probably doesn't even remember the details of the argument so why remind her of them.

Answer 2

Sounds like your worshiping someone who has no interest in you, I do think that you have serious feelings for this girl but she sounds like a waste of time. Your being sensitive to her feelings and she could care less how you feel. obvious by the lack of notice she took in the your little ignoring bit.
Either way wish you lots of luck.

Answer 3

Okay this girl seems a little creeped out by you or really full of herself...reconsider what you want and send her the whole thing if you think it's what you want.

Answer 4

Its too late to start over just to be "friends" I think you did and said way too much. Just, let her go and go on with your life without her. Seek therapy if you have to, but let her be.

Answer 5

sounds like you need to get a life

Answer 6

its too long i didnt read even haf of it b4 i quit