Alright my gf told me 2 days ago she wants a baby and at first I was in shock then I tryed talking to her about it but her mind was set. For the past 2 days I have been thinking about all that I will be throwing away since I'm starting college in the fall and I'll be a few hours drive away in t.o. I will never be a 100% sure about this cuz I committment issues but I'll do this for her and before we do anything I want to sit down and plan things out with her and keep saving money like I have been since I was younger. Do you think I'm doing the right thing? Am I crazy? What do you think?
2007-03-10 17:16:17 · 38 answers · asked by spayhappy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are wondering my age I am 17
2007-03-10 17:26:13 · update #1
Don't do it! You'll really set your life back! You're too young. I would not be the least bit surprised if this girl is ALREADY pregnant by some other dude. I say that because it seems unlikely that a 15 year old girl would want a child at her age. The best thing you can do is to break things off right now. If she turns up pregnant for some reason, be sure to get a paternity test. I don't want to be a pessimist here, but you have to watch your back. She could be pregnant by some loser (or be considering the possibility that it's him) and trying to pass that child off as yours because you are going to college and you have a future ahead of you. Again, don't jump to conclusions . . . but don't be ignorant either. Good luck!
2007-03-10 17:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You talk like having a baby is like giving her a friendship ring....just another small thing to do for her! And does this ever say just how mature you both are!
Do you think a baby is just a toy to play around with? For heavens sake stop and think ...and fast!
The reality is that girls think about becoming mothers from the time they are 2 years old...that is normal and natural...but to do it now willbe a disaster for all of you...your girl friend, your own future, and your child's as well. Doesn't your child deserve to be born into a family with two, well prepared parents...who can start her in a life that will be safe, secure and well provided for...so that child will have the very best future it can?
A child is not a doll. Tell your girl friend to take the class where you carry a baby around day and night, it wakes, it cries, it wets, it gets sick, and you can never rest from it, its care is a constant thing...and then get a REAL picture what having a child is all about. Just getting thru the pregnancy alone is a major thing....let alone what comes after that!
Do both of you a favor and before you make a major mistake, forget sex for awhile, go off to college like you planned and think about any kind of commitment after four years.
You'll be glad you did! Then you can write and thank me!
2007-03-10 17:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy don't be stupid having a baby isn't a huge responsibilty it particularly is a huge accountability. It sounds sturdy and all however the bith of you have numerous time to agonize approximately issues like that. She's no longer even sixteen yet and in basic terms tell me how the the two one among you will suppot a baby. don;t be egocentric while it includes babies they don ask to be here and in case you're actually unable to totally commit it sluggish and love and economic help for a baby then you particularly could wait till you're arranged. And please understand which you do not have babies just to get somebody to love you or be with you because of the fact it in basic terms does not artwork that way. you may tell this female that the the two one among you're particularly youthful and which you don;t think of that it may be in the superb pastime of the youngster at the instant. sturdy success
2016-09-30 12:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by bebber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is an age difference and you may be looking at jail time for statuatory rape.
Second, do you think a 15 year old girl is ready to be a mother? Do you think that bringing a baby into this situation is right? If you answered yes to either of these questions then you are not being honest. At 15 there are serious health concerns for her too. You're not even married or even commited. You're going to be supporting this baby for a long time and you think you are going to do that while you are a college student.
What is the upside? Neither of you is ready.
2007-03-10 17:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me, a 15 yr old is a child. I have never met a 15 year old that is responsible enough to become a mother. what she needs is to finish school and not think about kids right now. Alot of young girls think a baby is what they want because its something to love and take care of. Sure get her a baby. One of those dolls that act like a real child. My little sister had to have one for health class. After one day she was ready to give the baby back. I bet you a million bucks that if your GF had that doll she would change her tune. Focus on college. that's what you NEED to be thinking about.
2007-03-10 17:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you think you are grown-up. But you are not, you are a child. That is why the adults in your country have decided it is illegal for you to impregnate another child. Think about this: the law is there for your own good, because the adults know things about life (your life) that you do not. It's not that they're smarter than you (there are plenty of dumb adults), it's just that they have some knowledge that only comes with age.
You do not know about life. You might think you do but you do not know what you don't know. You cannot even comprehend what you do not know about life, there is so much stuff.
Do NOT have a baby with this girl, you are too young, simple as that. Wait until she is 18, then think again.
2007-03-10 17:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sixteen is very young to have a baby. You are not telling us your age, but if you are also 16 it is a lifelong commitment to have kids.
You both will miss so much of your last years of high school if you have a child now. It is best to wait until you have both settled into where you want to go and what you want to do with life. This would be after high school (and maybe even after college).
2007-03-10 17:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by dam_9191 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's 15, she may want a baby now but later in life she may regret all the things she missed out on because she was pregnant or at home with the baby. and especially if your not married and can't be there to help her, it'll only put way more pressure on her. if she likes baby's, this is what i do, she should go volunteer at a nursery or daycare center, until she's old enough, and married to become a mother.
*God loves You*
2007-03-10 17:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by katiegirl52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, she's way too young and she won't have time to finish high school. Plus, I seriously doubt you guys have the money to raise a child and do you even know how much work it takes? You can't just have a baby and then change your mind about it. WAIT until you get older, otherwise you'll regret it.
2007-03-10 17:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Halley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's telling you not too you're too young and they're absolutely right. Think about this though when a young girl wants a baby they're looking for unconditional love they haven't gotten at home. That's not a reason to have a baby. Babies take and take and take you don't receive that unconditional love as often as they need it from you.
2007-03-10 17:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋