i want to share my life with my boyfriend but im afraid he will think badly or even change his mind about our relationship we have a relitivly strong relationship i havnt told anyone about it yet and started at a very tramatic time in my life as a way of coping with stress. the binging is getting better but i still feel the need to purdge almost everyday. i know he loves me but im worried that this will change things between us.
2007-03-10 17:09:54 · 5 answers · asked by summerres 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am bulimic, my fiancee caught me thats how he found out. He wasnt mad at me, he was concerned. I told him that I didnt tell him out of fear that he would make me get help and make me stop or maybe that if I wasnt able to stop that he would leave me. We are still together and that was five years ago. He never pressured me to get help and never tried to play the daddy role and tell me to stop. When I explained to him why I did it and how it made me feel he understood. Tell him but before you do make sure that he understands that he cant be your savior and that he will let you deal with that part of your life. I still binge and purge, Its an addiction and a hard thing to give up. Bulimia is about control, Im sure that you feel that is the only part of your life that you can control. Good luck, with both the bulimia and your BF.
2007-03-10 18:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by NightRose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, I don't think it's the right time to share this with your BF. I think you should get counseling, you are getting better, but you've got to stop altogether. What helps is knowing why you binge and purge (you said stress to start with). What now? A counselor can help you with all your fears and doubts. You do know you are slowly killing yourself. The acids in the partially disolved food that mix with the acids in your stomache are hurting your throat real bad. I know, I used to binge & purge as a way of staying slim. After you have been in therapy awhile, I'm sure you'll be able to talk to you BF, why he might even be very supportive of what you are doing to help yourself. Good luck!!
2007-03-10 17:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he loves you he will support you and help you whenever you need it. he may even help to get help for you. minimal binging is great. but what really gets you is that you are destroying your throat every time you purge. what you purge has acids from your stomach and that's what erodes your asophagus. I did a project on the difference between bulimia and annorexia.
2007-03-10 17:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by lovelyhorsefriend06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen im 12 and i cut myself. i at one point was so stressed and depresed i attempted suicide. it was my way of coping with stress. write your bf a letter. u dont have to be in the room when he finds out. i told my best freind in a letter. sweetie u need help pls tell someone before it it to late
2007-03-10 17:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anne M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he really loves u, he won't judge u. he will help u get through ur illness. good luck
2007-03-10 17:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by J-Dawg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋