do I stay or do I go?

Question

I am 31, single, no kids, only child w/ a deceased mother. I live in the same city as my dad. My future career will almost require me to move. Part of me says go and live my own life, the other part says stay and be with my dad,,,,, HELP???????????????

Answer 1

I understand the conflict between going forward with your career and life or staying where you are with family.It's a tough one to decide,yet think about this question;
What is the one thing that any parent wishes for their child(ren)?
They wish for them to have a happy-health-fruitful life and that all their dreams would come true.

With that in mind I think you would wonder "what if..." the rest of your life if you don't go.And if heaven forbid something would arise with your father you could always take a leave of absence from your job to fly back to see him.
This is a tough decision I wish you the best of luck either way you go.

Answer 2

That is a tough one. Why not talk it over with your dad all parents that love their kids want what is best for them and I am sure your dad wants what is best for you. Talk to him about your plans, what area you want to move to and your concerns about leaving him behind he might be the one that can help you with your difficult decision. It almost killed me when my son went away to college but now he has graduated and is a teacher I still miss him so much but I am happy he has a good start in life if you decide to go I am certain your dad will feel the same about you.

Answer 3

If a new job requires you to relocate then talk to your dad and see if he would be willing to move along with you. If not then you need to make the decision as to what is more important to you. You only have one dad, but job can come and go. Good Luck

Answer 4

Stay home for what reason?? You won't go so far that you won't be able to communicate like everyone else does. You have a chance for a job?? So take it . If dad isn't sick you can go and even if he does get sick, there are nurses and services available. Has dad even mentioned staying home??You don't mention his feelings here.Do what your heart says but don't ruin your life, needlessly.Good luck

Answer 5

Do what your heart tells you to do. Have you considered asking your dad to move with you? It is hard to leave, but you have to do what is best for you. Your father will understand, if he doesn't want to move with you. You can always go home and visit as many times as possible.

Answer 6

Maybe you should suggest to your dad to move to the city that your moving to. I know this probably depends on what he does for work, if he owns property, if he's retired etc...

Answer 7

If your dad is not too old, in good health, is independent and
does not need you, go ahead and move for a few years..
later on if he needs you....
You can either send for him or move back to be near him...

Answer 8

Does your dad have any other family in the area? How old is he? If he has other family close by I would move. I wouldn't leave him if he has no one else but you. Also, if he is really old I wouldn't leave.

Answer 9

Hey! I know it seems selfish to look after yourself, But dad can take care of himself. You should introduce him to the computer and show him how to keep in touch with you. Show him how to chat with people his age. y grandfather did that after my grandma died and he ended up moving away from us. Talk to him if you can't resolve your feelings. People understand more that we think and they want to see us happy.

Answer 10

your practically being handed an oppurtunity on a silver platter. i wish i wasnt anchored down, go for it. taking a chance can be scary, but youll only regret not giving it a shot.