I was in the kitchen when I was yawning, not loud but kind of in the middle. He told me to shut up, yelling at me in a rude way as usual. He does it all the time but 10 times louder, and when I tell him in a nice way to stop he does not care. So when I did it the second time he pushed me by the shoulders. I did the same, so he pushed me harder. We kept doing that; even though I was hardly pushing him, he kept doing it harder. Told me stop, I told him why he touched me? When I did that he just kept pushing me harder. He grabbed my sleeves to control my arms. I grabbed his sleeves harder, told me why I was pinching him, he did the same. He told me to let go of his sleeves while I hold them really hard. So he just grabbed my hands until he tried hard to pull away my hands. So I punch him in the stomach and in the nose. I didn’t give him a bloody nose, sense he backed away a little. I gave him a scratch though so it was red and a little bit bloody.
2007-03-10 16:54:04 · 7 answers · asked by Lin S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Than I threw the garbage can at him, and I walked away.
He went to his room mad talking **** saying how much he was going to hurt me and I was going to regret it.
He’s actually 200 pounds while I’m 116 pounds.
2007-03-10 16:54:36 · update #1
It's not the first time this has happened. He has done lots of emotional abuse sense the day I was born. I still remember as a child that all he did was yelling at me. This year I’m waiting to be 18 so I can move.
2007-03-10 16:56:57 · update #2
Just so you know, he does not work. It's being almost 5-6 years sense he has not had a job. My mom does, so don't tell me I should respect him.
How the heck should I respect someone that does not respect my mom, me, and himself. Im just sick of it that I don't care if I get killed, or if he kills me.
2007-03-10 16:59:39 · update #3
While I was reading your question, I just remembered the following, Please do read this carefully........
An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.
The father asked his son, "What is this?" The son replied "It is a crow". After a few minutes, the father asked his son
the 2nd time, "What is this?" The son said "Father, I have just now told you" It's a crow".
After a little while, the old father again asked his son the 3rd time, what is this?"
At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the son's tone when he said to his father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow".
A little after, the father again asked his son the 4th time, "What is this?"
This time the son shouted at his father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"
A little later the father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his son was born. On opening a page, he asked his son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary:-
"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".
While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the father asked his son the same question just 4 times, the son felt irritated and annoyed.
So, If your father shouts on u, do not repulse him or look at him as a burden, but! Speak to him a gracious word; be cool, obedient, humble and kind to him. Be considerate to your father. I know its difficult but at least try because he is your father although his behavior might be rude & unacceptable but after all he is your dad. The man who brought you to this world, a man who gave you the gift of life. Don't forget dear that, without him you wouldn't exist in this world!!!
Just try to spend sometime with yourself. Tell your self that: "I want to see my father happy. He has cared for me ever since I was a little child. He crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today, its now my turn to make him happy".
Do take care of your father & mother. Ask a person whos father is dead, how much pain he feels? How much he misses his parents? Parents are gods blessings. Do accept them. There are people who lost these diamonds (Mother & father) while they were busy in collecting stones!!!
Finally, say a prayer to God, "I will serve my father in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear father, no matter how he behaves. Don't forget to say sorry for your behaviour.
May god bless you,
Best of luck dear :-)
2007-03-10 19:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear it, but you should respect him, being that he is your father. If nothing else, respect him for that. Maybe you two should consider counseling, because it seems that this has been an ongoing problem, and there may bey an underlying cause, as to what the real problem is. Again, by you giving him a little bit more respect, you will most likely find that things will be a lot better between the two of you. I hope this helped, good luck.
2007-03-10 17:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are saying that you and your Father had a fight, and that it ended with you giving your Dad, a scratch. You say that your Dad has always been mean to you, and now that you are older, you are starting to defend yourself from him. I am going to give you some advice concerning the situation with your Dad, when Parents, start being abusive to the kids and do not show them that they are special, and are Loved, the kids start getting older in that environment, is when they realize that they are no longer going to be humiliated by in your case, your father. They get perplexed by the way the son/daughter start reacting with the way they are treating them. But I have always said to my family and even friends, God gave you children to raise and to Love them and to teach them right from wrong, but when the Parent start being abusive, what do they expect when the child starts fighting back and will not tolerate being belittle by the Parent.I hope that this problem with your dad does not get into a fighting match, again because it is not right, by that I mean, not right the way your Father does not see reason as to not be so abusive with you, and you, should not pay attention to your dad, walk away from him, and try to stay away from him as much as possible. I hope that when you can move away from your father's House, you will be able to have some peace, and that you will be able to get on with your life, and be Happy.
2007-03-10 17:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your counselor at school about this. You will be helping yourself and everyone else involved.
2007-03-10 17:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt ask a question.. im confused.. but i do think thats sad, and i dont blame you for not respecting him
2007-03-10 17:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad and i do that on our good days!
2007-03-10 17:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you????
2007-03-10 16:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋