I’m attractive/intelligent & find myself chasing a COP! He is attractive/fun/intelligent/great lover. He is one of those cops that will give a ticket 2 his own mother 4 breaking the law! I’ve known him 4 a few months & live 2 hours apart. We have not had a real date. I drive 2 see him w/ a chance 2 C him for 20 minutes due 2 evening shift every weekend. He is not open w/ his feelings & I am. We have had 2 fights. 1st was my fault. I was playing a game 2 C if he was interested. He said he didn’t want the drama. 2 weeks went by & I called & he said we should try 2 B friends & not bf/gf. I didn’t want 2, but agreed. I would drive 2 C him 4 a little bit of time & call him. He returns 1/5 calls saying he is busy. Fight2: He worked the day shift & when I found out he had plans. I said “u could have called me once out of my 50 calls” & he hung up & asked me not 2 call. Am I wrong 2 think if he were interested he would have asked me 2 go on a date instead? Any hope 2 move past this nonsense?
2007-03-10 16:44:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Moving on.
2007-03-10 19:24:41 · update #1
Thanks for all the great responses! No, I didn’t call him 50 times (I exaggerated) during a shift & actually they were most txt messages (over a 2 week period) w/ funny messages and sometimes asking him to call if he got a chance. No, I am NOT the total drama queen and I defiantly am NOT desperate or crazy! Perhaps to you it seems this way. Yes, I did call him after he asked me not to, but only a few times and it was because he said “now I don’t care”. This made me think he did actually care that perhaps he was not able express his feelings & I jumped to a conclusion. Yes, I did do some things that were immature, but I just wanted things to work out and didn’t want to see what it really was. I expressed my feelings toward him & he would give me a positive line or two only when I was ready to back out. I have my wakeup call. Trust me; I know I will find another man. I won’t wait for his call, but if he happens to call I will talk. Moving on.
2007-03-10 19:26:21 · update #2
I hate to sound rude, but being bisexual, I have to deal with men and women and the games, and here it is: If you know for sure that he is a "great lover", and you haven't yet had a "real date", he sees you as easy and you were fun when you didn't want anything mature and realationship-wise out of him. Sorry. Also, if you keep calling him repeatedly, and he shows no interest and has asked you at least once to no longer contact him, you sound needy, petty, controlling and desperate. I don't know about him, but when girls do this to me, it makes me resent them. And the whole "testing him with a fight" thing sounds pretty juvenile for someone who is supposedly old enough to be with a cop. That in itself will drive a man to look elsewhere for a relationship or friendship with benefits. Also, if he is so law-abiding, and has asked you not to call, he may get a restraining order=not lots of fun for you. From what you report of him saying that he is a great lover and wants to be friends and not in a relationship with you, he saw an easy target to get some (sorry, but....) and you were definitely it if you didn't even have any real dates beforehand. He may be a cop, but my fiance's brother is a cop and he is never so busy that he can't spend time with the people he wants to spend time with. He may have a woman already (or 2 or 7), and that's why he doesn't want you around or calling. You may hate me for saying these things, but hopefully you'll think this through before you end up completely shattered because of bad choices on your part mostly. He used you, and you let him, and I know it hurts, but if you have to keep persuing him so adamantly, he is not interested in your feelings, just his end outcome of a few one-night-stands. Be wise and find a man who is compassionate and open with you. When even men hide things, they aren't good babe. Sorry your ♥ hurts.
2007-03-10 17:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what you have has never been at the "relationship" stage. Sounds like he has a life, is trying to be a professional... he's said he does not want to be boyfriend/ girlfriend.... he's made his feelings clear.
Really and truly, it sounds like you have a crush on this guy. Maybe just admit that to yourself and move on.
**EDIT** Good luck, hon!! There's a guy out there worthy of you... keep fishing!
2007-03-11 03:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has asked you not to call and you still are, don't you think maybe you are harassing him? The whole cop thing is irrelevent. I had a woman like you who practically stalked me for months. She still tries to call every now and then. Fifty calls, he doesn't want you to call? Go find someone co-dependent to cling to. I'm not trying to be mean, I really think you are obsessing.
2007-03-11 01:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to grow up. Why the hell would you call a police officer 50 times during his shift?
Playing games - very juvenile.
2007-03-11 01:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This relationship is doomed from the start if there is this much DRAMA going on. You should look for a better match to your personality closer to home. Good luck.
2007-03-11 00:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by dwjohnsonkonduz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Find somebody else. Maybe he has not asked you out because he is broke. Most cops survive on what they can get for free. I guess he had you for free as well.
2007-03-11 00:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you might have answered your own question.
You drive to see him, he doesn't drive to see you. You call & he only calls to return your call 1/5th of the time.
He says lets be friends, tells you not to call, sounds like you play on his terms or not at all.
So be it, don't call him, don't be easy to get hold of if he does end up calling you. If he doesn't call move on to other adventures.
2007-03-11 00:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by K C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop Breaking the LAW @$$hole!!
2007-03-11 00:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
you sound crazy
2007-03-11 01:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋