My daughter was at skate class today and was practicing during all-skate when this other little girl skated by her and said "you suck at skating". Both girls are about 7/8 years old. My daughter just started skating about 6 weeks ago... she's just beginning, but she honestly doesn't "suck"... she was actually one of two in her class promoted to intermediates already. The other girl has been skating a little longer, but they are very similar in abilities. I know that I really shouldn't let these little things bother me, but it was just mean. I told my daughter to just ingnore her (they've never even talked before) and that people who aren't happy with themselves act that way toward others. I didn't think that it was worth talking to her mother about... I often see her talking about others, so it's not surprising that her daughter is similar.
Anyway, any suggestions for next week?
2007-03-10 16:34:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You did about all you can do, just keep your daughter strong. Life will throw these things at you for ever, just have to stand tall and not let things bother you. You can never please everyone and some people you can never please.
2007-03-10 16:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well its hockey. I know it's female hockey but they still very aggressive the older they get. I would love it if that was the worst thing that was told to me when I was even that age. And now if someone told me that (I'm 18) I would laugh so hard. Don't let it get to you. Because no one is friends on the ice besides teammates. And even they can say super mean things. So just know the worst is yet to come. It's hockey and a very rough emotional sport. Even for kids, even for females. I've seen some great women hockey players over the years but the main word in that is HOCKEY. The fastest sport and some of the most aggressive people just wanting to win. Sorry that happened to your daughter. I'm not trying to be rude but it's going to get worst. The best players are always targeted to get them off their game and into their heads. Best of luck to her! Hour she enjoys playing the best sport in the world!
2014-09-13 14:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Casey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to my daughter about being a better person than the other girl by not talking bad about others and let her know she does not need to compare herself to others in any way because she is unique and not a copy of anyone else. I don't know why parents have to stroke their ego by having their kid be THE BEST at everything but you are smart to ignore her and her mother. Maybe you can encourage your daughter to think she is not there to be the best but to have fun tell her she looked like she was having a great time. You might not have the best skater in the class if you don't push her but you will end up with a sweet well raised daughter that will never make you ashamed of her because she has to hurt someone else so she can feel better about herself. You daughter is lucky to have a mom like you I feel sorry for the other girl that will never be good enough for her mother. If you need to speak to mother or daughter just talk about the fun you and your daughter are having and you don't care how well she is doing as long as she is having fun maybe you can teach them something.
2007-03-11 00:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by curtianmaker 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it happens again next week tell your daughter to say to her I would rather suck at skating than be a mean brat like you.
most likely reason the girl said this is jealousy that your daughter has reached her level so quickly.
2007-03-11 06:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like...like mother like daughter. I think you should follow the advice you gave to your daughter, because that was pretty reasonable advice. I think we all know the results of feeding into personalities like the ones you are talking about with this mother and daughter, it will probably just make things worse. People like this thrive on attention whether it be positive or negative. They are so worried about going unnoticed that they will actually perform negative acts to be noticed. It is really sad they are this way. You should continue to raise your daughter in positive manner and try to raise a confident daughter who will not be shaken by the insecurities of others. Also, let her know that this other girl is probably intimidated by the fact that she is excelling, without giving your daughter a big head.
2007-03-11 00:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly7887 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but kids can be down right mean!! Its not always the parents fault I have caught my kids say some mean things to people in the past and I totally do not accept that. Kids do learn from there parents though like you said she tends to talk abt people all the time so that would be no surpise that her daughter is learning from her. Theres nothing u can do on their behalf. I think u did the right thing to tell your daughter to ignore it tell her they are just jealous and sometimes kids just are trying to impress their friends by being mean to other kids. I know deep inside u must have wanted to stick ur foot out and trip that brat! Your a good mom shes lucky to have you. :)
2007-03-11 01:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by melissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
outside of punching her in the mouth!
Kidding of course...
Ignore them. Have a good talk with your daughter that she's making great progress and that everyone has to start learning from scratch. Your daughter can be as good as she wants to be if she just keeps trying... She should also know that if she doesn't like skating and doesn't get any better then she is now thats fine too.
It's about having fun first.
2007-03-11 00:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by RainKing 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter that not only are people like this other girl not happy with themselves, but that they like to pick on other people to try to make themselves look good. If her mother has the full blow adult version of this attitude, don't waste your breath on her.
Myself I would say back something like "I didn't know I could fit 'skating' in my mouth to suck!" but I like confusing people with petty comments. I love the dumb looks on their faces.
I think you handled it all you can.
Tell your daughter that Micheal Jordan didn't make the cut for his gr 9 basketball team... (true)
2007-03-11 00:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell the girls they are not aloud to talk that way to you or your daughter. It works everytime for me. 7 or 8 is pretty young and they are likely to be more afraid of you and still respect your position of authority.... and it's too young of an age to fight your own battles.
2007-03-11 17:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's ryan Vaughn's fault
2014-08-30 05:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that there are all sorts of people on this earth and some are not kind. Use it as an example of how not to be and ask what she would do if she thought someone was not a good skater. ie...would she offer help, make fun, etc....
Just stay away from her.
2007-03-11 21:59:28 · answer #11 · answered by SGT T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋