2 Kids at 22 what do i do?

Question

I just had my first but my girl had a son already b4 we had ours i don't what to do I moved out of my apartment to come live with her and our kids at her moms until we get a new apartment because of the drive back and forth to be with her and see the kids, I get soo frustrated I feel trapped and stupid, am I doing the right thing? Im gonna be there for my son but am I jumping through too many hoops to do it? I care about my girl but i feel like a failure I haven't lived with anyone since I was 17, and now I'm 22 with 2 kids, what do i do?

Answer 1

don't stress yourself out!! i am 21 with a 1 yr old and i am 3 Mt's pregnant so when i am 22 i will have 2 kids as well but i think that you do need to be with her she really needs you probably and you need to be there for your son i believe you when you say you love him but be there to show him love good luck!!!

Answer 2

I'm 22 with 2 kids--a 5 year old and a 1 year old. You probably moved so you could save money, too, right? If that's not one of the reasons, it needs to be. My husband and I went through a lot of sh*t when our son was born. He lost his job and my aunt and uncle (who raised me) supported us for a while. He felt like a failure, too, because he couldn't take care of his family like he wanted. (He also has 3 kids by his ex that he pays $1000 a month in child support for) It takes time. With us, it seemed like everytime something good would happen, the door would slam in our faces. We've been together for almost 7 years now, and the past year has been the best time of our relationship. We moved to my hometown, he got into a different job trade (oilfield) and we had a little girl. For the first time, we can afford to pay every bill before we get a late notice, plus his child support (which comes first anyways since it's taken out of his check) and have the money left over to do and buy what we want. There's no reason for you to feel stupid because you did what you thought was best. The only thing you can do is hang in there--it may take a while but things will get better. Caring about your gf is not the same as being in love with her. If you don't love her, then you're just putting yourself and her through unnessecary pain and frustration--not to mention what it will do to her son. If you love her and want to be with her, and make a life with her and the kids, you have to work at it--it's frustrating and can be hard as hell, but it will work out in the end. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm 22 with 2 kids a 17 month old and a 4 yr old. Just chill. I guess our situation is different though because i have had my own place since i was 16. Why did you move out of your apartment to live with your girls parents. Why didn't you move them (gf and kids) in with you? you probably know what you should do. If you want a more straight forward answer you need to ask a more straight forward question. Feeling trapped is normal. Even married people who "planned" the birth of their children can feel "trapped". I am glad that you are making an effort.

Answer 4

First off, birth control if it is SO awful to have kids. Second off, people do it ALL the time, one day at a time. I am 21 with a two year old (turn 22 this year) and we are trying for another baby. I just recently had a miscarriage so that has put our plans on hold for a few months. But in reality, I am 21 (going on 22) and I REALLY have THREE kids, my fiance has two boys from a previous marriage. Also, last I checked this WOMAN you are with, is not a GIRL!!!

GROW UP!!!!!

Also, why did you move OUT of YOUR apartment to be at her mom's until you GET an apartment of your own??? First off you HAD an apartment, she should have just moved in with you and second off if the first apartment was too small then you should have found ANOTHER apartment!!! That was just too much moving and unnecessary stress that was YOUR fault!!!

I'll repeat, GROW UP! It is TOO late for this crap you are spouting out here!!!! TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS!!!!!!

Answer 5

Deal with it. You chose to date her and knew she had a kid. You chose to have sex with her and had a kid of your own. You talk about bailing out, well she can't bail out so think about that. You need to start putting aside your personal feelings and living to support and raise your kids and the mother of your child. You have to do what you have to do to raise your family. Yeah you haven't lived with anyone for awhile, well get over it. You have more important issues at hand right now like taking care of your family. You can go ahead and up and leave, but beware. She WILL come after you for child support and you WILL have to pay it. By the way child support usually leaves men broke, so think about this before taking off. Oh and if you DON'T pay, they will throw your butt in jail. So if your new family isn't enough to keep you around, maybe the aforementioned will keep you in place for awhile.

Answer 6

Depends on what you want. If you want to be with the girl, you need to stay there until you can both get on your feet. Be thankful that you have her mom to help you both out! Don't you think that your son would rather you be living with him than somewhere else? I don't get how you are jumping through hoops!

Answer 7

Man-Up and deal with the situation. Take care of your kids thats the main thing, they will always be your responsibility. Even if things dont work out with the mother take care of the kids. If you dont want to be with her, move back out and get your own place one that is closer so you can see the kids when you want.

Answer 8

I'm a 21 year old mother with a 4 and 3 year old single no family. Hun, if I can tell you something that is, stay strong not for you but for your kids everything will be alright!

Answer 9

Too late to rethink things. Deal with it. You are making the right decision to live with your girlfriend. You need to take care of your kid. Dont seperate your child from its mother or yourself. You made a grown up choice to have unprotected sex now deal with the consequences of those choices. If you ruin your life your arent just ruining your own, you are ruining your baby's and baby's mamas.

Answer 10

Nope there is no longer something incorrect with you in any respect. I purely grew to become 26 and that i even have 2 young infants, I nevertheless sense very youthful, and while i pass out human beings stare, i think i seem youthful than i'm, and that i'm specific they ask your self. And out of all my acquaintances, i'm the only one with young infants, and there constantly asking me to pass out, and purely won't be able to appreciate that i won't be able to easily pass away while ever i desire. i'm no longer married yet, or engaged, yet residing basic regulation, have been with the father for 8 years now. in any case i desire to pass out too, and that i on occasion do, and you will possibly be able to desire to harm out now and back to maintain your sanity. I oftentimes think of of ways my existence may be like without young infants, and how ordinary my acquaintances' lives are. yet fact of the subject is there maximum in all probability gonna be having young infants of their previous due 30's, then i would be giggling because of the fact mine would be grown by making use of then. i think of its the wonderful to have young infants while your youthful, now and back its no longer ordinary to relish what you have till its too previous due, yet its your existence, so make the wonderful of it. your infants will love you for it.