Showering together?

Question

I used to shower with my 3 year old daughter but I stopped becasue my girlfriend who lives with us (but she is not my daughters mother) said I could go to jail for it. But she and my daughter still shower and bath together. What is the difference between me and my daughter showering together and my girlfriend and her doing it? We are both 17 so age would not be a factor. Any opinions?

Even though I already said this I will say it again my girlfriend is not my daughters mother. She lives with us. My daughters mother had no intrest in her and I am raising her.

Answer 1

I see nothing wrong with parents showering with their kids. However some people feel that it's inappropriate for parents to shower with their kids if they're of the opposite sex. The fact that your girlfriend isn't your daughters mother might translate into a problem for some.
I feel that until your daughter notices that daddy isn't the same it's ok for you guys to shower together.

Answer 2

Either way make sure you know what the laws in your state are. A rule of thumb 3 is a bit old to be bathing with an adult. This practice should probably be stopped. As far as bathing her she is your daughter and it is a bond. As her father you need to do what is right for the both of you. No offense but you sound a bit young, this girl is a girlfriend. Relationships come and go. You are your daughters only stability you know that your the only one that will be there in the end. As her father you need to protect her. Keep in mind single mothers have to bathe their sons.

Answer 3

I think it has to do with you being a man. No offense but most people think if a man takes a shower with a girl that he might do something sexual to her. I know from experince. Anyway either way it is still wrong. It's good that you stopped but you should tell your girlfriend that since she is not your daughter's mother she has no buisness telling you how to raise your daughter and tell her she needs to quit taking showers with her or you'll break up with her and not let her near your daughter which you could do anyway.

Answer 4

My husband was showering my daughter up until she was about 4. When she asked about the apparent "body differences" is when he decided to stop. I have bathed (although not showered together) my step-sons when they were toddler/pre-schoolers. Personally, I think that if you are not doing anything inappropriate, you are not wrong! By the way, girls in gym class and many other situations shower together, so I don't think it's wrong for your girlfriend to shower with your daughter. Sometimes, it just saves time!

Answer 5

It is the perverse people in the world that make it not ok for decent people. In my opinion if it isn't ok for you to bathe with her, the girlfriend shouldn't either.
My husband and I both shower with our 18 month old and recently decided that once she can start recognizing our body parts, is the time for both of us to stop. You don't want your daughter to know what her dad looks like naked...no child wants to know that, though at this age she won't even remember. If you still want to shower or bathe with her then where some underpants, or a bathing suit...just so there are no questions.

Answer 6

Go to jail for showering with your daughter?
Sounds like something a 17 year old would make up.
Legally, Ive never heard of any such law been passed.

Common sense wise, I myself think when baby girl is at about age of 1 or 2, I really dont want the topic of men and women differences to come into play just yet.
So Im not going to let her see my naked body at that point.

Its innocent, but thats my own POV.

If you dont see anythignwrong with it, I dont see what should be the problem.
It will just bring about your daughters curiosity more than not showering with her would bring

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with a parent bathing with their small child, though I'd have a HUGE issue with a non-family member doing it. Can't believe you'd let your girlfriend shower with your child! Somewhere between 3 - 5 I'd say stop showering with her, but you MUST supervise her bathing. You can not go to jail for this unless you are molesting your child, which I doubt.

I wouldn't let your girlfriend naked around your child, if I were you.

I have no concern about the girl knowing boys and girls are different, this is a good thing to know. Don't listen to these sexually repressed people who likely like to "think of England" anyway. I say to stop it before age 5 for the sake of personal development and independence, but she DOES need to be supervised in the bath.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

You will find out what's wrong with it if your daughter ever goes to school and says to the teacher "my dad and I shower together"
If I were you I just wouldn't do it or wouldn't allow my girlfriend to. At some point and time you just have to see that she's getting older and her curiosity is growing.
Man there is a lot of people that could think of what you are doing as one of the worse things in the world and before that happens just stop doing it.

Answer 9

Ok first off I want to say well done for being a man and raising your daughter by yourself. Most grown men can't handle it, so you are great.
Now I know it seems natural and normal to just quickly chuck your daughter in the shower with you and get it all over and done with. But others see it as gross and inapropriate as you are a male and she is female, so they may see it as a form of child abuse.
Personally my BF and my daughter and I would all shower together it was quicker and easier. Or we would just chuck her in with one of us. It saved time and was easy to get her washed if someone else was already in there. She stopped showering with her Dad when she was about 2 years old, becuase one day she pointed to his penis and asked what it was. After that he was uncomfortable to let her see him naked, as she was aware there was a difference between her Daddy.

I really is up to you to decide when it is no longer approriate to shower with your daughter. Although I do think that time is soon. It really wouldnt be appropriate if she was much older.

I think your daughter is old enough now to not have to need to shower with you. And I certainly wouldnt be letting her shower or bathe with a person that wasnt her mother. I think that is wrong and sick. Not sure about the going to jail thing either.
But from now on I think its best that neither of you shower with the child.
And watch out if she is saying you could go to jail as she might call the cops. So I'd just stop and let your child have a bath or shower by herslef, obviously with you supervising and washing her if she hasn't learnt to do it properly by herself yet.

And again good on you for being a man and raising your daughter.

Answer 10

My little ones are plenty older now, yet I continuously bathed my 2 youngest mutually. I even have 4. The oldest is a woman, accompanied by skill of a boy and then 2 extra females, who're 2 a million/2 years aside. It replaced into too complicated to run 4 diverse baths. I comprehend your concern, yet till the oldest is approximately age 5 you are going to be ok. I too heard a horror tale approximately 2 little boys interior the bathtub. The oldest replaced into 6, the different 2. I artwork interior the youngster Care marketplace and function had extensive training interior the dep. of youngster progression. it type of feels that the age of interest is approximately 5, whilst they start college. as long as you're making it sparkling that we shop our palms to ourselves whilst it includes very own aspects, issues could be advantageous. it particularly is no longer regular for 2 infants to test on the age your 2 boys are. relax and enable them to have exciting with the water. i'm particular there's no longer a area to be concerned approximately.If issues get unexpectedly quiet interior the bathtub, pass examine, in any different case provide them toys and bath crayons, squirt toys etc to maintain idle minds busy in this time.