it has to do with your mother loving you. you sound like a terrific daughter. don't blow your mom's trust by sneaking out on a date-once trust is gone, it's really hard to win it back. trust your mother, you don't need to date at 14. you might try asking her if she would object to a group date for a daytime activity. let your mom meet any prospective date and trust her judgement. it can be tough, but it will be worth it.
2007-03-10 16:09:58
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answered by billyjoemikey 3
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GOOD FOR YOUR MOTHER!!!! You sound like a great person. You are focusing on your education and that will serve you well all your life. You have plenty of time for dating but you're just a bit too young for that. Don't try to rush things. Your teenage years will go by so quickly and then responsibilities will hit hard. I know it seems unfair to you when so many kids are dating at 12, 13, and 14 but they're really the ones who have the disadvantage. If their parents were more like your mother, there would be far fewer serious problems for teenagers to have to face. Their grades would be better; their future would be brighter, and their lives would be safer and healthier. Give your mother a big hug from this parent for taking good care of you.
2007-03-10 16:09:56
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answered by missingora 7
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Wait until you are 16. Then worry about dating. Right now neither you or the boy you may like can afford to go anywhere without asking for money from an adult, or a ride for that matter. At least when you are 16 the boy may have a small job and can actually do something for you.
For right now, just stay friends with boys- they truly are more hassles then they are worth at this point in your life. Go out "group dates" with your friends and go places like skating or to the mall or wherever.
Your mom trusts you- you sound like an awesome kid- but she doesn't trust the world. That is normal so please dont hate your mom for that. She has been there- done that and knows what life is about right now at your age since she was there.
If you are truly dead set on having a bf- see can you invite the young man to your house for dinner or at your house for a movie or whatever but keep your distance.
As a mom- i give my daughter enough lee-way to make her own decisions but i have banned dating until she is 16. She accepts it because she respects me. If she does something to lose my trust then she loses privileges to do other things.
2007-03-10 16:08:14
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answered by glorymomof3 6
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There are a lot of families who don't let their daughters date except in group situations until they're 16 years old. I don't see anything unreasonable about it, as long as you get to go hang out with your friends and socialize. They're just looking out for you, since 14 is still pretty young ... which you'll understand a lot better when you're the mother of a 14 year old daughter!
I got my first boyfriend at 15. It completely took over my entire life, affected my grades, I could think of nothing else. Your mom doesn't want that to happen to you.
2007-03-10 16:05:18
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answered by Bad Kitty! 7
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Well, your mom is right. Love is complicated and you shouldn't be involved with realtionships especially since you are doing so good in school. Its a lot of stress. However you should start dating boys too because its a good experience. You mom is just afraid that you'll have sex, like most irresponsible girls do, and get pregnant. She's just worried and wants you to stay away from all that trouble. But if you have found someone who you think is right for you and really loves you, then explain to your mom.
2007-03-10 16:11:48
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answered by Anonymous
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Sorry, but I kind of agree with your mom. Now, before you throw this answer away, understand that I'm 14, too, and I can relate. There have been guys that I've really wanted to be with, but my parents don't want me to. I know, it sucks. But you gotta remember that a boy really /doesn't/ make things better. I find that the best way to deal with a you-like-him-and-he-likes-you-back situation is just to "be friends" and not give each other the title of boyfriend/girlfriend, but you guys can still hang out like as if you were. (just keep it G)
Once you turn 16 (only two years away) you can probably con her into it. :)
2007-03-10 16:07:28
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answered by abcdefgh 2
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I am sorry but I would have to agree you are too young to date.....but then on the other hand if my daughter (age 10) wanted to go to the mall (public place) with a group of friends including a boy that she may like. I would allow it, I probably be the mom taking the group.....But that would be the extent of dating I would allow at the age of 14!
2007-03-10 16:07:41
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answered by Cassie C 1
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Haha. I love the story. I'm 13 and in 8th grade. I can date though. Some parents are strict but its okay. Your mom wants the best for you. Just keep your realtionships with guys to a minimal level and dont get too over excited. Guys come and go but PARENTS+FRIENDS last forever.
2007-03-10 16:06:42
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answered by tootifruitiapple 2
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Here's the thing; you feel older, you feel mature, but you really are still quite young. There's no need to rush into these things. You will have plenty of time. Enjoy being a kid--it will be over all too soon and you can't have it back. This is what your mom knows--she was 14 once too.
2007-03-10 16:04:34
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answered by Gen•X•er (I love zombies!) 6
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Hate to say this but she is right. You live with her , she pays all of your bills, buys all of your clothes, you may be responsible but you don't work or have a job or provide for yourself. You should listen to her. You won't understand her viewpoint to you grow up but she is doing you a favor. What would happen if you had sex and accidentally got pregnant. The child would become her responsibility. You would not be able to care for it. You need to appreciate you parents while they are still here.
2007-03-10 16:06:38
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answered by primamaria04 5
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Its so nice to see somewhere where I used to be and feel. I remember I was 14 yo when I met the love of my life. I am not 23 yo. Trust me honey. At that age you only need associates or friends but a bf your too young. Instead of worrying about a man, try to enjoy your life because you cant back up.
2007-03-10 16:05:29
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answered by eyeofthedove 1
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