It's already been two months. He has told me over the internet that he no longer loves me and tat we will never get back together. We go to the same school and have the same friends but he dosn't look or talk to me. I know I should get over him, and that it should be easy concidering the way he is treating me but I can't. I have tride to focus on myself, my friends, and my school work, but nothing can take my mind off him. He was my frist love and I was his. It was special, but then it all fell apart so quickly. We broke up because he said half of him still loved me and half just wanted to be friends. But now were not even friends. I'm not going to try and force him to be my friend either because he seems so happy now and that's what is really important. Even though we will be with our friends it's like I don't exsist to him. And it hurts. How can I get over him? He is obviously over me.
2007-03-10 15:58:38 · 23 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont do anything girl your love seems to be special if its true he will surely come back to you if not then just keep it in your mind that those who have true love for someone get it in return not necessary from the same person but from someone else who loves you even more than that.
So be kool...and wait for the miracle
2007-03-10 16:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time. After a certain amount of time (could be months, could be years), you will stop being preoccupied with him. For now you should trying doing things to take your mind off it. Just remember that if you two were meant to be then it would work out. You can't force it, if you do, all you'll get in the end is pain. You are going to meet a lot of people in your life and you will find the right person when it is time. First loves are a big deal for people, you never really forget them, but you have to remember them for what they were and not what dwell on it. If you do, you are just missing your chance at meeting someone better!
2007-03-10 16:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by maggielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer I can give other than focusing on the other stuff you have tried, take up a new hobby or try something new. Not only will you learn something new, it will better you as a person and help to take you mind off of the guy. What also may help is being honest with yourself, like you said you still love him, sometimes people never fall out of love with their first love. It is natural and normal. The best thing is to move on and find what will make you happy. THAT, my dear is most important, yes his happiness is good but your is most important. You will get through this and someone is out there waiting to get to know you. We all have first love's and many a times we loose that first love. It takes time but you will get through this, best of luck. Keep your chin up, enjoy yourself and have fun. Don't worry about it, and have a great day!
2007-03-10 16:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I had the same exact thing happen about 9 months ago. We have the same friends. We knew eachother for a long time, but one night after the 4th of july party things got hott, and later he asked me if I'd be his girlfriend. I said yes in a heartbeat and we dated for 1 1/2 months, then once school started again he became irratable and cheated on me. then he felt horrible, and broke up with me. Then his best bud asked me out and so I started dating him. then a week later the ex crawled back and said it would never happen again and he loved me, so I dumped the new guy and went back out with the ex. then he went to an away football game and I was grounded. he ended up in the back seat of his truck with a girl. he cried as he broke up with me and said he couldn't be trusted. I told him I could forgive him because I loved him and we truely did. I started dating other people after about 3 months because it hurt so bad. by dating other people it doesn't hurt as bad, but I still think about him and what could have been even 9 months later. It will take awhile, but in the meantime, entertain your thoughts with someone else. The first love is always hard to forget and I fear I will never forget him no matter what. He acts as if I don't exist too, and it kills me. if only guys knew what they did to us.
2007-03-10 16:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he may not exactly be over you. If he's ignoring you then maybe it's because he too is having a difficult time with the breakup and understands that seperation is the best cure.
So what I suggest is follow his example and just force yourself to completely avoid him. It's hard, and it'll take a while before you move on (trust me, it took me over a year), but it'll be worth it in the long run.
2007-03-10 16:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by abcdefgh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a very painful process you are going through right now; but my advice to you, even though its extremely hard, try not to think of him and simply LET HIM GO. you have to realize that if one out of two people dont feel comfortable- thats not going to work, and your crying and thinking of him now wont change the situation. If you broke up, this means there is someone better waiting for you out there, so open your eyes!..and what kind of MAN he is if he couldnt tell you "its over" looking straight into your eyes???!!
2007-03-10 16:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by Iryna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to start dating again.(new people) I had a relationship a few years ago and I still think about the girl just about on a daily basis but due to a whole bunch of circumstances I wouldn't try to win her back....it's made my life crazy the last few years and I've had one relationship since then, but sometimes you just have to roll with the punches and accept it as a part of life, no matter how much pain is involved....there are no simple answers to your question I don't think.
2007-03-10 16:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heh, when in doubt, don't. Look, it sucks, I know it does, and this is probably your first boyfriend, but you can't be a controlling ***** about it, and you cannot force him to be your friend. Look, what you want is the association, not the love. Believe me, he left cause he was unhappy, and you are just mad cause you did not do it first. Just move on, you will feel better, and the psychiatric treatment wont cost as much. Sorry to be cross, but look he's probably moved on already, it is normal, just remeber that it happens, and it sucks. Don't be his door mat, be strong, and just move on, no man is worth that much pain. JUST MOVE ON, really it is that simple
hell, it may allready happend as I posted this
2007-03-10 16:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by paul86192006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i had to read was the first couple of sentances and can already tell you that it can last for a very long time i still love the boy i loved when i was 19 and i'm 30 now, still love him as much as a loved him then. you have to just go on with your life and hope someone makes you feel a stronger love.
2007-03-10 16:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by brandih1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you realize you are tired of feeling like crap, you will stop. The best feeling will be when you see him and realize you have no feeling for him. It will happen. This summer, when school is out and you no longer see him on a daily basis is my bet. First loves are hard...but if there were no loves after , we wouldn't have to label them first , would we?
Good Luck.
2007-03-10 16:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by nostromobb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋