should i be mad or concerned because my girlfriend has guys numbers on her cell phone and on her AIM buddy list (two are ex bf's)...what can i do to tell her i am uncomfortable with this without making her angry?
i dont rly like when she talks to guys because im afraid taht she will lose her feelings for me or when she puts make up on to go out when im not there.
also, we've been fighting a lot over the last two weeks and shes thinking of leaving me but she wants to see if i "change" first by learning to trust her with other guys and believeing in our relationship. what can i do to show her that i am changed and to trust her with other guys because i love her more than anything and i dont wanna lose her.
and today she told me that over these past 2 weeks she hasnt loved me like she once did and she doesnt know what shes gonna do, and i feel like shes gettin bored with me. all the things that used to JUST annoy her, she now HATES. soo idk what to do...any help would be appreciated
2007-03-10 15:30:28 · 4 answers · asked by BoSox 007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, GIRLS HATE IT WHEN BOYS GET JEALOUS EASILY. so what if she has boys on her cellephone..they're friendssss. don't you have girls on your AIM and cellephone? That's what i thought. you really need to trust her because that's the key in a good relationship.
hope this helps =)
2007-03-10 15:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is hard, because you've already started down a slippery slope. You're jealousy is not going to be easy to tone down, and you may or may not be right in being jealous.
Here's my two cents: if she is ok with doing things that make you so jealous, then either she is being insensitive to your needs, or you are being over protective (and therefore insensitive) to her needs, or a mix of both. Think hard about what the situation you have is. What level of interaction could she have with other boys that would be acceptable to you? What types of interactions would be ok? It is not reasonable for you to expect her to have no other boys in her life at all besides you.
If you find that any boy in her life makes you uncomfortable, then you should really examine why you feel the need to have that much control over her life. It is not healthy and not fair. But I don't know the situation, she may be also flirting with other guys on purpose, which isn't fair either.
I would let her go, and both work on your jealousy issues (figure out why you are so jealous and what can be done to change that) and also see if you can find someone who doesn't make you so jealous. good luck!
2007-03-10 23:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't tell her that you've changed when you haven't, she sees that. all you have to do is talk to her, tell her how you feel. she has to understand where your coming from cause no one wants their girlfriend talking to their ex. situations like that put thoughts in minds but, if she's feeling that way its obvious something is going on. if there isn't trust in a relationship its not going to last. and right now you don't trust her so put 2 together and see if you want to continue to be with her.
2007-03-10 23:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Blake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't she have guy friends? it seems pretty unreasonable of you to demand that she doesn't. if you love and trust her, you should know she isn't going to be with anyone else. and at the moment, all you are doing is pushing her away.
as a girl, i have HEAPS of guy friends, and that is all they are. i am married now, but if my husband ever made me give up on my friends it would just be horrible, and would have bad consequences for our marriage.
friends are exactly that - friends.
2007-03-10 23:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋