I found out about an hour ago that my aunt died yesterday from breast cancer. Right now, I'm at the numb stage of my grief. The way I grieve is that I'm numb for a few days, so I don't really show any sign of grieving. By about a week after, I snap and start crying, then get angry, and then get over it. Why is cancer even around? Why does God give some people cancer and not others? Why do good people get it, but bad people live to an old age? This is the 5th death within the last two years of a loved one.
2007-03-10 15:15:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She was 60 years old. My cousin is 28. He was the youngest of 9.
2007-03-10 15:30:37 · update #1
Your Aunt is in Heaven.. Muhammed PBUH stated that anyone passes away by an uncurable disease is beside him in Heaven.
God don't give cancer to good people.. We gave it to the world, we polluted our air and water, and now we are paying the price. When someone good is injured, have a disease, I remmebr what happened to me a few months ago.. I was about to be an athiest becuase of that accident.
A young female baby, whose mother is a whore, fell off the balcony, she's only 2 years old and very loveley. she's now paralized, blind, and deaf.. Her mother left her home alone to go for "something".
When I experienced this, I asked HIM: "Why? if you really exist, you'dn't have let this happen, you are unfair".
The Mother stopped her filthy work and began to take care of the poor baby. one night after this accident I was walking and I found a man.. vey poor, very very poor.. He was smiling in extreme happiness.. I asked him, why are you so happy, conditions seem to be bad for you, he didn't reply and pointed to the sky with a smile.. My Religion teacher used to say: "Clarify your eares, and you'll hear something useful". This night I didn't sleep, I clarified my ears to listen to a very far person reading the Book, he was reading the Verse of Surat Taha: "And I have made you for myself, you have been made for and before my eyes".. and I understood, I understood that we are all his creation, he can do anything for us, he choses what's better and what's worse.. The baby Cured her mother from whookery, and will cure herself someday, and she'll also be rewarded by heaven.. "I've made you for myself" imagine your husband or soulmate saying this: "I'm here for you, I'm made for you, do to me whatever you want but be happy", this is the extreme love anyone can imagine, The ultimate passion between us and God, he made us, loved us, helped us, defended us, take us to his side after death; He said to Mosses: "I love a man more than his parents and folks do, call me and I'll be here for you".
Your aunt was chosen to better world, better life and better living, extreme happiness, This is our code, this is the Love.. this is the ultimate love.. May God help and forgive us all...
2007-03-13 01:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandmother, whom I thought the world of, a year and a half ago. I'm still not over it.
Your process of grieving is perfectly natural and normal. There as many ways to grieve as there are people in this world. It's okay to grieve the way you see fit - just as long as it doesn't involve hurting someone else. But I think that goes without saying.
I'm not Christian, so I can't really give a Christian view-point, however, I might be able to give you answers anyway. The way I see it, God, Goddess, Higher Power - whatever you wish to call it, is nature. It is within nature. It's both merciful and cruel. Cancer and other deceases are natures way of dealing with over-population. Just like AIDS was natures was of keeping people from having so much promiscuous sex in the 60's.
Nature and death don't discriminate against people who are black, white, rich, poor, bad or good. It just simply is. This may not make your pain any less, but hopefully you'll be able to understand and/or have a different view-point. Take solace in knowing that your Aunt isn't in anymore pain.
I truly hope that your broken heart will heal quickly. *hugs*
2007-03-10 23:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Joa5 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear PM, I am really sorry for your loss. I'm also sorry about the fact that although on one hand you claim to be a proud Muslimah who loves (& therefore naturally understands) her religion yet you ask such questions.
You asked "Why does God give some people cancer & not others..... ". Will you be happy if everyone has cancer? Ofcourse not.
The better question is "Why is cancer ever around"? Can you tell me why the best tire brands like Bridgestone, Ceat, MRF etc have not found a cure for puncture? Or why the best car manufacturers cannot make a car that doesn't crash & kill its occupants? Or why millions of worth of electronic equipment requires a lowly mechanic who probably charges $10 per hour to set it right?
The answer is, we create conditions for such things to happen. A healthy lifestyle & diet, regular exercise, regular medical check-ups can probably prevent 80% of all cancers from developing & another 10-15% of the total from becoming life-threatening.
We need to change ourselves rather than blame anyone else, least of all God Almighty.!!
I am again sorry you have suffered these past two years on this account.
2007-03-11 01:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by easyrecognition 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm truly sorry to hear of your loss.
You are experiencing a normal cycle of grief... it works in the following way:
- Shock stage: Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news.
- Denial stage: Trying to avoid the inevitable.
- Anger stage: Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion.
- Bargaining stage: Seeking in vain for an alternative
outcome.
- Depression stage: Final realization of the inevitable.
- Testing stage: Seeking realistic solutions.
- Acceptance stage: Finally finding the way forward.
I have had a similar experience, losing an uncle and an aunt (they were husband and wife, and I adored them), as well as my grandfather within the space of a few years. They all had cancer.
It is not easy to come to grips with a series of events like this, and I hope that you will be able to get over the sadness soon. Hopefully you'll then be able to recall those you've lost with only fond memories.
Out of respect for you and your family, I won't retaliate against the believers that have posted answers here.
The website below may help you understand your emotions a little better.
2007-03-11 00:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony Stark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't give cancer. It happens because sin contaminated the perfect world God created. It's not God's fault. He will help you through it though. I had a year where my dad had a heart-attack (he survived) but I had 6 friends that went home to be with the Lord.....That was a very hard year. The Lord is still with you. Remember He doesn't take you out of the problem but walks through it with you. He will be with you through this....you need to grieve, don't feel bad about grieving....it's a necessary part of life. And I will pray for you my sibling in Christ.
2007-03-10 23:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't GIVE people cancer, they get it through carcinogens. They ate/were exposed to something that causes a reporductive disorder in cells, which gave them the cancer.
cancer, like any other disease, isn't God's fault. God can only work miracles if He's allowed legally: no sin of the asker(s), faith of the asker(s) and and honest care, and God is allowed.
and technically, anyone is vulnerable to cancer (don't be paranoid!), not just good people. Bad things happen to everyone. Thing is, they have claimed cures, but of course, in America everything has to be pattented or government approved.
and sorry about your aunt. I know how hard that is.
2007-03-10 23:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by Hey, Ray 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend, i am so sorry about the bad news of your life. Actually this very body itself is a cancer, since the time we take birth, death take birth with us, he is always next to us, waiting for the proper moment to take us, we are dying every moment, i am 40, that means that i am been dying for 40 years, and the last strike will be when death take away our last breath.
Therefore this world is called the "the planet of death".
The poor animals are being slaughter, and one animal can see the other being killed but he can not understand that he is the next to be killed. We as a humans, should understand that we are been slaughtered by eternal time, we should think that we may be the next, therefore we shoul prepare ourselves for that moment, that is our philosophy in Krishna consciousness. Everyone is living an illusory happiness closing their eyes to reality, old age, disease and death are waiting for all.
The most wonderful thing in this world is that everyone is dying at every moment, but i am thinking i am not going to die.
May Krishna bless you and protect you.
2007-03-11 01:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. We don't know god's will. But your aunt is in a better place now and god has finished her suffering. She is probably in heaven right now looking down at you. God is just testing you to see how strong a person you are and if you would still believe in god even after he takes away the ones you love the most. PEACE!!
2007-03-10 23:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Love Exists? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God gives some people cancer and not others for us to appreciate our health, He gives cancer so that we know that death is real and not forget death is just around the corner.
Good people get it because good people deserve Heaven, and bad people are given long lives so that they have time to relize their mistakes.
Surely! God is Just, Compassionate, Merciful, Forgiving.
Cheer up, if you want more jokes from me, I'll tell some =x
2007-03-10 23:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by Adia Azrael 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's not about whether you're good or bad. Both good and bad things happen to everyone to give them a chance to react, to test them. If only good things happened to good people then it would diminish our personal choice to do good and follow God, as we would be externally rewarded for making every good choices. Now this is not to say that good people aren't rewarded at all. If you're honest, good, etc. it will create a rippling effect; the people around you will like you better, you will feel better about yourself, you'll have less legal problems, eternal salvation, etc. But it doesn't create an all-encompassing barrier. Trust that God is your Heavenly Father and he loves you [and all of your loved ones]. As His children, he wants us to grow and learn.
2007-03-10 23:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by tothebeans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋