My uncle died a few years ago and I miss him so much, we were very close and He was good to me. when I was sad he would make me laugh. he spoiled me to death and I miss that. What do I do?
2007-03-10 15:05:49 · 19 answers · asked by kimberly a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Losing loved ones is a hard part of life. I lost my parents and husband all within a year. I know I will never be the same person I was before. I'm sure people were concerned I was losing my mind. I made scrap books and it seemed like every time I went out the door I was going to one of their graves. At some point in time, I decided that the cemetery was for the dead and not the living and now only go once a year. I decided that there comes a time when you stop mourning their death and start celebrating their lives. I made movie videos out of their pictures as a tribute to their lives. It took me about seven years to get that far and I am now in my ninth year without them. Everybody has to handle grief their own way as long as it is not self destructive. Their is no real normalcy when it comes down to it. It gets easier with time. I still miss them so much and there are times when I still tear up. Mostly I have told myself that they have just went on a trip ahead of me. I know I will see them again someday and live my life to insure that. Sometimes I think we punish ourselves because we are still a part of this world but they are not. I know they would not want us to do that. Sometimes I feel that we think people will think we didn't care if we laugh and are happy. They would not want that either. There is no doubt in my mind that they knew I loved them as I'm sure your Uncle knew you loved him too. Consider yourself blessed that he gave his time and self to make you feel so special and that he was a part of your life for the years you did have him. Give yourself time, don't punish yourself and just take it a day at a time. Do things you enjoy that will keep your mind busy. Remember life is percious, make the most out of today because once it is gone you can never get it back. LOL
2007-03-11 18:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sidney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone at some point looses someone special to them. Religion has alot to do with what individuals believe when it comes to death. I believe that the physical body dies and it is at this point that the spiritual body and soul are released from their earthly vehicle. I believe that our "lost loved ones" are with us more when they pass than when they are with us physically. Maybe you should try taking yourself into a nice quiet, relaxed area, light some candles and incense and have remembrance of your uncle, who knows it may just give him the opening to communicate with you. I also believe that once you pass you will see your uncle again as there is an obviously strong bond of love between you and love is a bond that cannot be broken, not even by death. All the best, God speed to you.
2007-03-10 23:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by australiangemstone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is to mourn him, however do not make this life changing event something that will consume your life. I am sure that your uncle would want you to be happy. Remember the times he made you laugh when you were sad. This is what he would want you to do. Enjoy life and live it to its fullest, knowing that he will always be watching over you. Do not forget him. I don't know if this might help, but my family tradition is to make my Dad's favorite dish and drink, make a plate for myself and for him, then eat. This happens on his birthday. Don't be afraid to communicate your thought or just think about your uncle at this juncture. This way, you still keep him alive in your heart.
2007-03-10 23:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by Fresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You honor his memory by being the best person you can be. You behave in ways that would make him proud of you if he were still alive. Do some charity work "in his name". As an example, if he died of cancer, create a charitable event to raise money for cancer research and donate all the money "in his name". Write down as many memories (the good ones) that you can. Write about the times you laughed. Create a book about him, dedicated to him with all these wonderful memories (include pictures). And then ask God to keep His arms around your uncle until you meet him in heaven.
2007-03-10 23:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Place all those good memories in a special place in your mind and when you get sad remember how he made you laugh, always know he loved you and he would want you to go on with your life and be happy not grieving for him for so many years..Hon, I am sure he is in a better place than on this earth...Just get your life right with God and know that you will see your Uncle again someday.. God Bless You!!
2007-03-10 23:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by halfpint22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on to your memories of him and never forget them. I had an uncle who died of cancer several years ago and I miss him too, as I was the youngest in the family and he used to dote on me. When a person dies, he may no longer be physically prent with you but in your mind and heart he will always be there, as cliched as it sounds. But he'll only be around as long as your memories of him are alive.
2007-03-10 23:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by cradle2resurrection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my grandfather and i were close too he used to make me laugh when i was a kid sadly he too passed away many years ago but to this day i still miss him heaps it does get easier to get by rather than forget i remember him for the good times not the bad when i feel sad cos i miss him i just remember all the good things he done for me and i soon realise that he still makes me laugh
2007-03-10 23:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have several people I miss tremendously. We grieve our loss for awhile, in our own way, then we slowly get back to a normal life. You never really stop missing them, but the pain will lessen over time. You will remember all the good times spent with them. And they will remain with you forever, right there in your heart. My dad has been gone for 30 years now, and I still feel his presence, and hear his voice in my head.
2007-03-10 23:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go on or you don't. Really, that's your only choice.
Sometimes people don't get to share our paths for as long as we'd like. All we can do is enjoy them while we have them.
As nice as he was to you, he wouldn't want you to mourn like this. Go out and be someone who people will miss when it's your turn to move on.
I'm sorry about your uncle.
2007-03-10 23:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a scrapbook of all the happy times you spent togher kind of a mermorial, it makes you feel better remembering the good times and helps you to mourn your loss
2007-03-10 23:20:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋