Moms...why are you always like this?

Question

Why cant you let your teenagers go out and expeince life for themselves? Dont you let them have any fun at all once in awhile? Do you seriously think you're protecting them? Your hiolding them inside life, not letting us solize outselves to meet people, your not letting us get freedom, your not protecting us.

Havent you ever been a teenger? We know what we're doing and if you cant trust us, then how do you expect us to live a happy relationship with you? Why are most moms like this?

Answer 1

We don't want you to make the same mistakes we made. Mothers are human and we make mistakes, too. COuld you possibly be seeking more freedom than they are willing to give you right now?

Answer 2

Teens always want to grow up before they are ready. They think they are equipped to handle all the nastiness the world will throw at them. Moms are pretty smart. They are more aware of what kind of ugliness is out there and just how much rope to give their kid. Yes, kids need to experience life and make mistakes. Its how everybody learns. And you can bet your mom made some when she was your age. Maybe she doesn't want you making those same mistakes. Things are different these days also. There is a lot more danger. Don't be so hard on your mom. When you turn 18 yr old, you'll be able to make all the mistakes you want and hopefully you will be better equipped to deal with them. For now, trust your mothers instincts. Oh, and thank her once in awhile for giving a crap about you. There are a lot of kids who have parents who don't care enough to even ask where they are going and probably wouldn't notice if they were missing for 3 days.

Answer 3

I don't know your mom personally, but for the most part moms are trying to keep you away from the dangers that are out there. The fact that they were once teenagers is the very reason that they try to keep you away from certain activities. I don't know how deep your situation goes, but I can also see your point that you do need to experience life for yourself. The world is not what it was when your moms was growing up. That being said, bear in mind that it is arguably more dangerous out there today than it was when your mom grew up. She has seen and been through all the little games, so your mom can see a train wreck a mile away when you may not. You guys just have to give and take because in the same token, you are of today's generation and you might see things that she doesn't. Just try talking to her and see her response. Be open and don't be afraid to express yourself, with respect that is. You have a bright future, don't rush getting older because you only live the innocence of youth once.

Answer 4

"Why cant you let your teenagers go out and expeince life for themselves?" Because until they are adults or otherwise emancipate themselves they are considered CHILDREN and we are responsible. Now if you WANT to emancipate yourselves and go expierence life for yourselves here is a clue. You will HAVE to get two part time jobs because employers here in the U.S. can not hire under 18 for fulltime work. Then get an apartment and order your utilities turned on...keep in mind that rent, utilities (water, electricity, sewer, garbage) all have to be paid once a month. Then of course there is purchasing furniture which again requires payment. You say you want cable televsion, well depending upon your area and whether you get bare bones basic or all the fixings that can cost you anywhere from $30.00 to $200.00 a month, Oh you want internet? Well dialup usually is between $10.00 and $25.00 for broadband you will be paying more depending on the speed and the company you go with...yes that is another monthly bill. AHHH then there is transportation...even public transportaton costs money and they don't drop you right off at the door of your employer so make sure you have a rain coat and umbrella for those wet days and those of you in the North East need boots and a good heavy coat, scarves, mittens for the walk from the bus stop....which brings us to clothing...yeah you get to pay for you own there too. If you decide to purchase a car don't forget you will be responsible for insurance and if you live in California you won't be able to drive that car unless you DO have insurance unless you want a ticket and have the car impounded...and that can cost quite a bit to get out of impound. Car insurance also depends a bit on where you live...and since you're not over the age of 18 yet it can be pretty damned pricy...first time driver and all. Don't forget the car repairs and maintnence. It costs money to have your oil changed and cars need fresh wipers once a year, not to mention tires...you might want to invest in a roadside service such as AAA but again...that is going to cost you as well. Oh but I've forgotten your tummy you DO have to eat don't you...well yeah that costs money as well Mc'Puke's doesn't take IOU's. And with having to work two part time jobs to pay for everying (heck maybe even three with the prices these days) You'll have to give up an education and obtaining a REAL career because most high end (those that pay MORE than minimum wage) entry level positions require at LEAST a two year degree but you'll be too busy working to pay for everying in order to complete your education...so kiss that Law degree bye bye.

Now you know WHY most moms are like this because we DO Remember what it was like being a teen and we wish like HELL we could go back and not have all the responsibilities we have to face each and every day. But hell if you want it all go for it...but remember once you get it you can't go back to mom being responsible...once you are "expierencing life" your stuck with it. There are NO do overs in real life

Answer 5

It's the things teens want to experience that us mom's have a problem with. Yup we were teens once too, so we know what goes on in that head of yours. Trust a teenager, you really can't, because you are going through hormonal changes, and teenagers don't fully understand the consequences of your actions (if they are bad). It's monkey see, monkey do, with teenagers. They want to do what everyone else is doing. Your life is just beginning, it may not seem like it and you might think you are all grown up and can take care of yourself just fine, until one day you are faced with a situation you can't handle. Your mother is protecting you, take a deep breath and relax, be thankful you have a mother that loves you enough to do so. When you are out of school and pursuing a career or going to college and have your own place, that's when you can start experiencing "life". You'll find out it's not that it's all hyped up to be with all of the responsibility. You may have a child one day, and you will just have to know that you will never fully understand your mother until you are a mother yourself.

Answer 6

Ahhh, if only it were that easy - let you go off and experience life.
It is precisely because we were teenagers that we feel we must monitor, set restrictions, watch over and parent you. We know the dangers that are out there having lived through it and come out on the other side still alive, if not a little worse for wear.

This time is not easy for you or for us. We're all learning the same thing, how to let go and still hang on enough.

Answer 7

well it all depends on what kinds of things you do outside of your home and how many times you have been caught lieing to them.

with me, I'm the oldest and the best behaved out of all my siblings, however, my mom never trust me and always accuses me of doing drugs and having sex with random people, When I spend the night at a friends house she always goes trough my stuff. It seems like she's always critizing me and never notices when i do something right. It's very annoying, but you have to remeber that there is a age difference, what we as teenagers do now may be different then what they did. Just communicate with her, tell her what you are doing and if you go out with a friend, give her a number she can call if she needs to check up on you. Show her that she can trust you.

Answer 8

I am courious to know what part of life you feel you are not experiencing ?What fun are you not haveing ? Curfew ? Going out with someone your mom doesn't like ?Your a teenager for Godsakes you have more freedom than i do at 30, all you have to do is go to school ,maybe work a part time job ,if you don't work a part time job maybe you should go get one, but only if you can keep your grades up .when you become a parent the things that you held in so much importance ,all of the sudden don't seem as important anymore your sole concern is the life of the child ,that child being "you". Your mother protects not because she wants to keep you in and not let you have any fun ,but because you are her responsibility, you are the reason she gets up you are the reason she goes to work (whether that be a job or keeping the house clean) she makes sure you have lunch money ,and clothes she is up when you get home from being out ,she takes you places ,you will have all your life to experience the cold hard truth that life is not what you think it is you think that adults just go out and have a good time and we are out meeting people every day ,NO we get up get ready for work if you have kids like me you also get them up make sure they have what they need get them to school go to work 8,9,10 hours later come home make dinner ,make sure home work is done ,do laundry ,do the dishes , by then its 9 or later by then im so tired going out is the last thing on my mind ,and on top of that you have to make sure the bills our paid .so maybe you should stop complaining about the freedoms you don't have and start looking at what you have . so the next time you take your shower maybe you should remember ,your mom paid for the water when you dry your hair your mom paid for the electricity , when you get dressed your mom bought your clothes when you eat breakfast you mom bought the food when you go to school to learn your mom paid for your books ,when you go to the mall with your friends your mom gave you the extra spending money , when you come home to your house after your day of no freedom your mom paid the rent /mortgage so you would have a room ,and when your clothes are clean and the house is clean you mom spent her free time cleaning it .and remember that if you need anything from you mom she would do all she could to make sure you have what you need .Don't you see you have freedom ,its your mom who doesn't have the freedom ,because all of her free time is taken by you !

Answer 9

I am a mother and I have been a teenager (I have also been a teenage mother) thus the being "like this"...

I love my kids more than anything in the world and if I can protect them from doing something harmful (to theirselves or someone else) I will do my best to do so...while having fun :)

Answer 10

Aye i'm feeling ya, my mom is the exact same way, no your can't move to florida, i'm protecting you, no you don't need allowence you need to get your marks up blah blah blah, ok ye well now that I said my side it's only fair I give you my moms point of view, She's actually trying to protect us because she knows that if anything happens to you she's never gonna get another you, and also she doesn't want you to get hurt or anything, after all she's been living for how mayny years? but ye I knwo what you mean they can at least listen and concider.

Answer 11

I agree with you. Sometimes i feel like my parents are trying to hold me back from the things I need to know and see.
They think im still a baby but im 17 years old. But we gotta respect the fact that they are our parents and protecting us is their job. If they let us go out all the time we probably met people who we'll soon regret meeting. Just be glad that your parents care about you sooner or later we gonna realize the real reason behind their action.