he comes too fast, we've been having sex for a long time, and everytime, he comes after about 15 pumps or so, i get turned off, i don't want to be rude, but i told him that he does, and he says that he doesn't know why and he doesn't know how to make it stop. please help! because it's really wearing me out, i never get to enjoy it without him coming out of me then coming then waiting for him to get hard, then do it again. it happens every time!!! i love him and i want to help him. any suggestions?
2007-03-10 14:43:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i am not 13 jeez.
2007-03-10 14:49:43 · update #1
when he masturbates, then we do it, he still comes fast, less than 5 minutes even. it sometimes gets me frustrated and mad.
2007-03-10 14:50:46 · update #2
Lots of times condoms desensitize guys. It helps them to last longer. If you are already using condoms, there are ones that numb the penis so the guy will last longer.
2007-03-10 14:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jmac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Perhaps this exercise should help with his stamina and endurance. Maybe you can also do it as a couple so you would get to know better his pacing but you guys talk it out.
This is masturbation or a hand job wherein, all the time, he should concentrate in holding it all off.
Let's deal with this with numbers. Let's say that -1 is wherein he doesn't have a hard on. 0 (zero) is wherein he is truly hard and up and quite ready but isn't getting any physical stimulation on his penis. 1 is when he is experiencing/receiving pleasure and, say, 50 is orgasm.
Make sure he doesn't lose the hard on during the exercise. Do not reach a negative number. Keep it at zero.
Pump him/Have him pump himself, in say five counts and then stop. Make sure his numbers are climbing so this requires awareness.
Wait for him to calm down before proceed to the next set which is pumping for eight counts or ten. Again, have that waiting period. Truly wait for him to go back to zero, again, not a negative number.
Build up the sets in an order that he is comfortable.
e.g.:
A. 0-5-0-8-10-0-15-20-0-25-0-30 etc.
After that, move up the numbers. This time, just lose a beat or two to throw him off, just to make sure that he doesn't come.
B. 0-5-5-10-10-20-20
Or you could do a combination of A & B until you both get the hang of it in building up his stamina.
This may not be a one-time big time solution.
Girls have to do their Kegel exercises the rest of their lives to keep in shape. I think the Kegel exercise also works on guys but I wouldn't know physically. They say it works. Some guys don't bother.
Also, you might want to opt for herbal or oral solutions. Perhaps you could see a specialist or visit an adult boutique and see options.
Also, another thought occured to me: Perhaps while doing the sets, you could practise the Kegel exercise yourself, synchronising yourself with him, almost. But with girls, of course, it's a different rhythm: It could be holding it at first at 10 counts, release then proceed to 20, immediately, release etc.
Bonne Chance. And you are a very lucky couple. Stay in love.
2007-03-10 15:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by ficklefeather 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, he needs to learn self control. Make him practice stopping right before he is about to go off.
You should try different positions. Get on top, it takes a guy a lot longer to finish on his back and you can do more of what you need. Change positions often too.
The other tips on here are good too.
2007-03-10 14:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try Trojan Extended Pleasure condoms... my boyfriend bought those once, and he said that they made his thing go numb pretty much... he said it felt like he was going to come, but couldn't.. he went for like, hours.. and could've kept going but I got tired after 9 times (you know what I'm talking about ;))... he had to actually take it off before he could come.
Also, make him do more foreplay, nothing beats foreplay...
2007-03-10 15:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by F.J. 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
May be you need more foreplay or some oral he needs to get you to start cumming before he even puts it in. some sex toys may help like a vibrator on the cl**.Give it a try what you got to lose,because it takes time for a guy to work his way to lasting longer.
2007-03-10 14:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off with him releaving himself with your help, then go for it a 1/2 hour later.
Good luck
2007-03-10 14:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tug gently on the boys(DON"T PULL TOO HARD) if he says he's going to come. That should stall him for alittle bit.
2007-03-10 14:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Kitty knows it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is also a mental thing so maybe he is just thinking about pleasing himself real quick and is too lazy to please you. you should research this, there are a good majority of guys out there that experience this, I am sure that you can look on legitimate websites to find appropriate methods that can help both you and your partner.
2007-03-10 14:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Breann 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
make him pull out when hes getting near and do foreplay for a bit. may help, may not. worth a try
2007-03-10 14:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
making love is somethin u both do ok u have to encourage him its in his mind make him think of something else try to cuddle more b4 sex to make things better
1. see a doctor
2.dont tell him things that will make him feel bad
3.try a penis ring might work koz it keeps the blood longer in your penis
4.try positions that will not make him come faster
2007-03-10 14:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋