Why does my Family have to have so many problems?

Question

My family went though so many extreme events, that I can't handle things anymore. My dad is very rude and doesn't understand that no one likes him or his attitude. He doesn't want to change but push everyone away. My mom is very judgemental, and can be rude at time, but every one has to blame me for all there problems. I can remember when they use to yell and fight in for me, which they still do. I had to get on my knees and cry for them to get me help, but nothing changes. They have said that most horribliest things to me like they rather live somewhere else then with me, or I almost killed myself today. I have this on going fear that I am going to be alone, with no one. Why don't things ever get better for me? I want to be happy for once instead of depress and negative but it never works, no matter how much I try.

I understand completely that many families have problems like me..but you see I've try getting help, and I've try talking to my father. He tunes me out, he walks away, or he just say something to get the conversation over. There is much more to this then you may see, I was raised in a negative atmophere and that is why I am negative. I've gone though so much, and I try to forget about it and move on.... but something always comes along. My family isn't here to work things out, they are here to do their own thing, no matter who they are hurting in the process. I know this may sound very negative, but I have tried to work things out, but they keep bringing me down, even if they don't realize it.

Answer 1

Hey I know what your going through because my family is the same way .I'm sure there are many other families out there that have this kind of problem.So maybe you should try talking to a counselor about it and do you have any other relatives you can possible stay with for awhile until your family can solve their own problems.I moved in with my brother, his wife, and they're 3 kids.i help them out and I talk to my brother if I have problems.I think many adults think that its their kids fault for their problems but we're not the ones who wanted to be born or something they made that choice themselves.So don't blame yourself for what you didn't do.I too also almost killed myself and it wasn't what I helped me so when i have problems i go for walks, hang out with friends, and try to stay focus on just me.Well GOOD-LUCK and i hope your family turns out better than they are now. Much Love!!!

Answer 2

Every family has problems even if it doesn't look that way to you right now. I hope you have an adult that you can talk to outside of your parents (a grandparent, a teacher, a friend's parent, an aunt or uncle). You really need to talk to someone and let them help you. I've walked in your shoes, believe me. Hang in there and don't give in. You are a decent human being and you're better than what they tell you. One day, you will be able to get out on your own and make a new life. You'll have great friends and a great job and you WILL be happy. Just believe that you came to this earth for a purpose and go after your dreams. These days will eventually pass but they will make you a strong adult who can get through adversity. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

It sounds like you are taking the abuse for your parents problems. If things are that bad, do you have a relative you can stay with for a while? Grandparents? Aunts? Uncles? It sounds like you need to get out of there until they can work out their own problems. None of this is in any way your fault. Find a counselor to talk to, maybe they will have suggestions. If you feel suicidal you really need to call someone NOW to talk to. Look up a suicide hot line in your area.

Answer 4

What you need to do is have your parents sit down and talk to them.. make sure that you make it clear that you want to get everything out before they say anything.. and dont doubt that you cant talk to them.. because then you really wont be able to. You have to be persistant. You have to be stronge. You cant just let them ruin your life like that or make you even begin to consider killing yourself. There is way more to live for... look around you. Talk to other people about what they like the most.. there are so many great things you can find & learn about. The only way you can truly be happy is if you tell yourself you are going to be. I know it sounds dumb, but the next time you wake up. Smile. Even if you have to force yourself to do it. Smile. and think to yourself 'today is going to be a great day' and continue saying it throughout the day.. and continue to smile every so often. Im sure you have heard this before.. but positive thinking can go a long way.
For example..

A while ago I woke up .. in a negative mind set.. i was thinking.. man.. i dont want to go to school today.. ugh.. today is going to suck. and guess what? it did. Because throughout the day i continued to tell myself that that day wasnt a good day.. and.. i made it that way.

On another occasion -- When i woke up in the morning i smiled and told myself "Today is going to be a great day"
and guess what? It was! I was so happy.. and I do that everyday.. and ive been happy all the time.. Yes.. everynow and then something will come up that upsets me.. but i dont let that ruin everything for me.

So keep that in mind when you are talking to your parents (if you do infact decide to)

Just because you have family issues doesnt mean you cant work them out. The only way they will be fixed is if you all contribute to it.

When you get them to sit down and talk with you Ask them this;

"Aren't you tired of all the fighting and having to deal with everything that goes on with this family?... then why not do anything about it?"


or think up something else you can think of. Make sure you say everything that you want to .. otherwise you will have this nagging thought with you until you get it out. I know the feeling. and it sucks.

Just dont give up. Okay?

Trust me.. you will never be alone in this world. There are too many people around you :P

Unless of course you move out in the middle of no where and make no contact with anyone for the rest of your life.. which I highly doubt you will do .. b/c that would be ... extremely boring.. ahah..

Answer 5

Many families are like this but the parents are stubborm and dont notice or dont want to notice that thier tearing their children apart, but never give up try to find an adult u can talk to or maybe a a friend if all else fails and you really need to talk i would be more then happy to be thier to listen.

Answer 6

go to the doctor, you sound depressed. Talk to him about whats happening, and say what you nearly done today.

every family has there fair share of problems, my dad was a drunk dad left when i was 3 my sister died when i was 7 my mum broke down from it is constanly depressed.

every family has problems, you just got to work through them together.

xXx

EDIT-

I would suggest moving out then, move to a relatives house, it may make them realise that they are losing their daughter for the way they are acting, if of course they stop thinking about themselves and how they feel to what they are causing by being selfish, I would move out.

Answer 7

just so happens you have the same first name as my step daughter. she has the same complaints that you do, but refuses to see the root of the problem. maybe you need to make your own happiness, and the others will follow. be responsible for your actions.you mention that you remember when they used to 'yell and fight in' for you. that tells me that you do things to start fights and get negative attention. nobody can change your position but you.