The girl I like just told me something....?

Question

Alright, we're friends, getting to be good friends (still not the hang out type friends, but we do talk to the phone). I really like her a lot (I'm a guy, not a lesbian. Because of a past experience, I felt I'd best type that). Well, a lot of times it seems like she likes me too, but...idk. Before today, I've twice asked her to go with me to specific places. Both times she's been "too busy." She really is busy, she's involved in soooo many things. I put that in quotes because today I found out why she hasn't accepted. We have off from school on Friday, and I asked her to hang out with me...she just kinda ignored it at first...but then explained that her parents wouldn't let her. This led to a huge discussion about how they don't let her do anything unless they really know the person. Idk what to do....because of some knowledge of her I have, I think she's telling the truth. But still, what can I do? During our talk, the topic of prom came up, and when I said "you'll need a date," she

said that she's so cute that she doesn't need a date.

We always joke around like that though...she isn't really that arrogant.

Answer 1

You didn't say how old she was, but it sounds like you really like one another.

You have good taste, to appreciate a girl whose parents are so protective of her.

Figure out ways to get to meet them so they can see what a great guy you are. Go to their church, do some volunteer work (like at the concession stand the same time one of her parents does, etc.), make a point of meeting them at some school function. Then, you're a "good" guy. Then they'll say, "Oh you're going to prom with that nice boy I met last month?" Instead of: "No, you can't go to prom. We don't know him."

Believe me, I had parents like this. You need to establish yourself as the guy with the white hat. All they are thinking about is all the crummy guys with the black cowboy hats riding around Dodge that want to steal away their princess.

Now that I am a parent myself, I have to say my parents were definitely right to be so protective. Even though they did their best to keep me "sooooo busy" like your prospective girlfriend and to derail my dating life as often as possible, I had a few nice boyfriends and ended up marrying a wonderful man.

Good luck to you.
(It also sounds like she trusts you enough to tell you this *sensitive* info about how "dark-ages" her parents are, without feeling like you'll blab or make fun of her.)

Answer 2

Hey man, first of all thanks for answering my question about texting the girl back.

let me tell you something. If you really want to find out if she wants to hang out with you. Here’s what you do. (In my cases it's been true MOST of the time).

So, you find out what day she's not busy, rite? And you ask her to hang out with you on that day. be like.... "Hey I was just thinking, since you're not doing anything on _______, I was wondering if we can hang out for a while, I mean it doesn’t has to be long if your parents are worried."

So if she says "yes", then you're in. go with her, laugh, have fun, let her have good time,

But if she says "no" then, to be honest with you, she's not the type u think she is. Maybe even if she likes you, she can't or don't want to go out with you b/c of her parents are very strict. And stuff. and keep talking to her more often, it will make her trust you. And if you really like her and you think she likes you like that, as well. Keep talking, for long, maybe a month, you'll get there!

BUT*** if she is really busy on the day BUT she wants to hang out with you, as well. She might say something LIKE "umm, I can't on that day, BUT HOW ABOUT _________ day*" this means, she's into you, adn wants to go out with you for sure. trust me,

Best way in my opinion and experience.

Good luck

Answer 3

allright read this up(instead of listen up) Parents don't like their daughters to go out with just any body it's normal for parents to say stuff like that..so get over it and just go talk to her parents or you could just call her and say" let me talk to your mom and dad
for a minute please". and you would have to answer every singal question they ask
no matter how dumb it sounds
make sure you don't say that your instered in sex because that will definatley tick them off.
From their good luckand I think you will need to be there for her and her family.

Answer 4

sounds like a loser to me...sorry but if she was into u she wouldnt have said ' i dont need a date im cute' or whatever pathetic thing she said. move on, if she really liked u and the whole parent thing is true she would have asked u to come over and meet them

Answer 5

Look, the "I'm too busy" excuse is plan B for a girl. Sorry to tell you man, shes just not that into you.