My Bf is leaving me next year cuz he goin to High School and I jus don't know what to do, if we should brake up or stay together. But what I'm scared about is, there is gonna be more girls and more variety and he might leave me fo another girl. He says he really love me and I really love him so i jus don't know wat to do. please help me. if i brake up wit him I'm a be devestated!
2007-03-10 14:29:30 · 8 answers · asked by Chris Brown's Wifey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh for god's sake. Stop the drama. You are what, 13? you will meet someone else yourself and get interested in them. People your age don't stick together for very long because you don't even know yourselves yet. Enjoy what you have now and don't worry about a year from now.
2007-03-10 14:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright well it sounds to me as if you're still in junior high correct? Let me give you a little reality check alright??
Junior high relationships rarely ever last very long, they're never very serious, and they're always "devastating". Why? Because junior high is a very stressful time, everyone is self-conscious and unstable, and you're just starting to date and learning what a relationship is. You don't even know who you are.
Alright, I know you don't want to be lectured about any of that but it definitely factors into the reasons you're going through what you are right now. If your relationship was stable and you shared a deep love for this guy, then you would trust him enough to make his own decisions. PLease don't waste these years worrying about boys!!! Worry about having fun and making friends. Relationships bring on a lot of responsibility and take a lot of work and committment, something a junior high student or even really a high school student, doesn't need to deal with.
If all of your self-confidence and stability rests on whether or not this guy is going to be your "boyfriend" or not, then you need to leave him!!! Don't burden him with that and don't make yourself so vulnerable! Leave this guy, experience all the great opportunities for fun & friends & learning, and build yourself up into a beautiful, strong woman. Stop letting yourself believe that this relationship is going to last forever. You need room to grow! Please just dump him & work on yourself. I wish I hadn't worried so much about dating guys in junior high and high school because I think I could've had more friends and would've had more fun in general.
"Going out" with someone doesn't make you any cooler or any more mature than anyone else. Confidence and strength in character are what make people attracted to you. Please take what I've had to say into account. If you care to know my age & experience( maybe as means of justifying my arguement) then here's a little glimpse:
I'm 19, college student, currently in a 2 & 1/2 year relationship, I dated a couple different guys in junior high & four in high school before I actually learned what a real relationship was (and even then I had to read a couple books to straighten myself out). I realized that I was in love with the idea of being in love, instead of actually being in love with anyone. I was too naive and gullable when I was your age. I was very full of myself & thought that being in a relationship made me a stronger person, only to find of course that it had burdened me & held me back from experiencing a lot.
If you take to heart anything I've said then let this be it:
You are in control of yourself. It's your responsibility to push yourself into uncomfortable & scary positions in order to grow. You're in charge of protecting yourself. Just don't let this guy tell you who you are, or dictate how you feel or how much confidence you have. Be your own person.
2007-03-10 14:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by aussie_gurl118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your love is really strong and you trust your love for him, he will not go anywhere. If you keep doubting yourself, then i am sure he is not yours from this moment on..... Just be in touch with him and be his friend becoz romance may fail, friendship never fails. Even if he hangs around other girls, be his friend and accept everythin. Let him know that whatever happens, you are there for him irrespective of the circumstances...
2007-03-10 14:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mooch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always gonna be more girls and more variety no matter where he goes, thats life. but if u trust him just stop worrying so much, take it one day at a time
2007-03-10 14:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loook my gf and i are two countries apart since 1 year i know she hasnt betrayed me n i havent too but this is the real test if he realy loves u he'll b back n waiting for u thats called real love
2007-03-10 14:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must let him go if he cares anything for you he'll be back, and if he dosen't he wasn't meant to be with you.Stop upsetting yourself life has away of getting you what you need if you're pray.
2007-03-10 14:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is with you because he likes you and going to High School will not change why he likes you.
2007-03-10 14:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by iceez81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with him. if he keeps calling you while he's in high school and still loves you, he's a keeper. if he doesn't, break up, there's many other boys out there
2007-03-10 14:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by lovinglife~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋