My daughter often asks "Do you love me?" She says she asks because she is bored and wants to say something and that question comes out. She used to ask more often when my wife and I were frequently having arguments. Our arguments have consideably lessened, but I still get asked this a couple times a week. Our daughter is 10.
2007-03-10 14:11:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You loved her enough to give her life and stay with her to raise her. You love her enough to wipe her tears when she is sad and clap for her and praise her when she is glad. When she does a good job you are there being a big fan, and when she is sick or in the hospital you are there with her feeling that you wanted to take all her pain and illness away just so she will be OK.
you will love here enough to watch her in a few years go off on her first date and hold back the urge of wanting to beat the crud out of the young man who wants to take her away from you.
Yes, you love her.
As a child though- they sometimes get angry and say things they dont mean. It is normal. When children hear fighting from parents they get scared- they want to make sure their world isn't turned upside down.
She loves you and you love her.
I say the next time she asks tell her that you will love her ALWAYS- not just today.... And that your answer will never change no matter how many times she asks you- she is just looking for reassurance....
2007-03-10 14:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A 10 year old does not ask that because she is bored. She in some way is feeling unloved and needing reassurance. This is not good, if she is not seeing love modeled more than fights, she will own your problems. I am a product of my dads behavior towards my mother and the lack of love he showed her most times. Now in my own marriage I don't know how to cope and guess what I ask my husband 20x a week? "Do you love me?" I am not saying that you are to blame, just sharing my experiences because I don't know the depth of yours. I do suggest sitting down and talking to her, she will open up with more than being bored. Make sure she sees you and your wife share kisses (not explicit) and hugs, and laughing. Rent a comedy movie and have family night. Positive encounters will help her in building her self confidence and her confidence in her parents.
2007-03-10 22:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguments between parents are literally terrifying to a child.
She is completely dependent upon you both for everything, and has no control. The least you can do is tell her you love her. The only other thing that might be happening is that you are demanding and critical about what she does, and how she does it, to the point she feels very insecure when she is around you.
Be as kind as possible, and create as many happy memories for her as possible-----SHE is the one who will choose your nursing home, and take care of you when you are helpless and bedridden. When she is called on to do that, don't you want her to remember all the times you said you loved her?
2007-03-10 22:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
young children often feel that arguments are caused because of them so if you and your wife are disagreeing the best thing to do is to not fight around the kids. Just reasure your daughter that you do love her and make some time to bond with her.
2007-03-10 22:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by hermsgirl6503 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is your daughter and u raised her fine im sure. But when u have arguements she wants to make sure you still love no matter what u go through because she goes through it 2. U should love your daughter or your just crazy or cold-hearted. (no offence)
-Me360-
2007-03-10 22:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Me360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her as soon as she gets out of bed in the morning, during the day, and each night as she goes to bed. My parents never told me they loved me, those words weren't said back in their day. I try to make a difference and I tell my children all the time that I love them. Reassure her of your love for her.
2007-03-10 22:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do a better job of SHOWing her you love her. There's still time. Go on a date with her. Do something that she likes to do. Talk to her. Be there when she needs you. If you DON;T do this, you'll lose her respect and she'll be defiant and you'll regret it.
2007-03-10 22:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by isochronous7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should know if you love your daughter, you shouldn't have to ask.
many kids ask random questions cuz they have nothing to do and just want to talk to someone
2007-03-10 22:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is looking for re-assurance. She obviously feels tension sometimes, and kids worry that they are the cause.
2007-03-10 22:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by bob shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep telling her you love her but this time say this
" Sweety..I love you to the moon and back"
2007-03-10 22:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋