I am a single mom of 2, and one won't be in shcool for a long time yet. I have no child support to hire a sitter and have no family nearby. Sometimes I just wonder 'WHAT ABOUT ME?'... is that normal?
i am taking full time school at home to get a better career and to stay home with baby
2007-03-10 14:08:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have been there and done that, and yes that is normal. Trust me life won't always be like that. You will have time for yourself someday, and by doing what your doing you will instill good values in your children, and since your the only one there to do it, be proud you will have your time, it might be in a long time but it will come, and it will be great.
2007-03-10 15:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by chefck26 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Totally, totally normal.
And do you know what? You need some time for you. You can't do it all, all the time.
Do you have a friend who can watch your kids for a couple hours sometime? Even a long walk can be enough to make you feel like an independent, whole grownup again.
If you don't have a friend who can help you out, churches sometimes offer free Friday night daycare, or you could check out local drop-in daycare centers (spend some time there before you leave your children ... but we have one where I live that I really like, and the cost is very reasonable.)
Barring all that ... You could set aside an hour or so each night after the kids are in bed for "me time." No homework, chores, etc. Just do whatever you like, for one hour -- and NO feeling guilty about it!
Good luck, and keep up the good work.
2007-03-10 22:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by ihatesunsets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is normal. But hopefully you will choose your children's needs above your own. You need to also realize as long as you are creating a better life for you and your children, the day will come when you will be able to think about yourself once in awhile. For now though, whenever you wonder "what about me?", look at your children and remind yourself how lucky you are to have two beautiful gifts from God. Think about the women out there who cannot have children. They look at you and your children and ask "what about me?". You are going through a rough time and I'm sure at times it seems as though nothing will ever change. But eventually it will and you will be proud of yourself for sticking it out and never giving up. I urge you to find a church that has a good Sunday school program for your children. You will meet friends and hopefully become acquainted with God. Ask Him to give you strength. Hang in there. It will get better.
2007-03-10 22:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course we do, and you have every right too.
Just because you are a mother, does not mean you are not a person and you deserve to be happy with your life too.
It is unfortunate that you are a single mom, but only because it makes things harder, but not impossible. It sounds to me you are doing a great job, moving closer to family will definately help but if thats not possible just hang in there, your on the right track and an inspiration for other mothers in your situation who want to give up. Enjoy your kids and love them with all your heart, but enjoy and love yourself too. Best wishes.
2007-03-10 22:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by han83b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im married and i think that sometimes, so i know its really gotta be hard for you. i have a hubby that is kind of like another kid, sometimes hes more work than hes worth. maybe try to find a sitter every now and then to get some time for yourself.
2007-03-10 22:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time!!! But I know it is always about me. My kids are my world and eventually they won't need you anymore and you will be left asking the same question then "what about me?". If you lived around me I would take them for free to give you some time off.
2007-03-10 22:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a single mother, I believe a mother should have a career. It helps balance your mentality to be around other adults. You have to be happy and satisfied with your life to make your children happy.
2007-03-10 23:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by smartie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad, it isn't about you. You need to think about your kids first, they deserve it.
2007-03-10 23:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by 1,1,2,3,3,4, 5,5,6,6,6, 8,8,8,10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋