ok i met this guy at the cafe im workin at. he asked for my number and the next day we went out clubbin. we obviously made sure that night that we liked each other, he calls me the next work week, but not the type who called to chat for long hours. "just wanted to say hi" he said. the next weekend we're supposed to watch a movie but its all sold out so we ended up going to my place to watch dvd. we ended up having sex. and on it went. it's been like that for 3 weeks now. but he's still not saying anything to me. like i dont know what we are right now..what just sex friends? he calls and texts me but just saying hi how's your day stuff... is it too early to ask him what's goin on? coz i kinda like him and i dont want him to feel like im rushing him to get serious or something... i just wanted to know what this is up to coz i dont want to waste my time and fall hard for him if he's not up to that too. some answers pls???
2007-03-10 14:04:16 · 7 answers · asked by jerigail1230 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it looks like he isn't thinking of a serious relationship at all, you should dump him before he gets you pregnant. Good night!
2007-03-10 14:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say it, but right now you are just a sex buddy. If you want to be more don't be afraid to tell him. Don't be ambarrassed or feel like your pressuring him just because you want to spend time with him and get to know him as not just a cut buddy, but potentially a close friend and possibly a boyfriend. Be honest and up front and tell him how you feel. If he acts like you are pressuring him or he acts weird about it, then he probably never intended to take your relationship any further than it is. It's a sad thought that some guys are only after one thing, but in some cases it's also true. Why would you want to be left guessing when all you have to do is ask him? You derserve to know where your relationship with him stands.
2007-03-10 22:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jersey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with someone before you get to know him.... what do you expect.
You put the apple before the cart.
Now you have feelings like most women do after sex and he isn't talking.
I guess not... After such a short time he is going to tell you he is in to you!!!!!!!!
He is just starting this thing with you, you complicated it by having sex right away. Bad move.
He is doing the ground work now and has to get to know you.
Don't expect anything from him for a while. You need to work on your friendship and finding out who he really is .....
Maybe you are a sex partner right now.. but you cvan change that if you want more....... make the effort to communicate and talk
2007-03-10 22:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok to ask him what's up in a nonconfrontational way. Don't say something freaky like do you love me.... :)
As a guy, I can tell you what doesn't feel threatening or pushy to me. Ask him to do more dating type stuff, not just come over and watch movies and have sex. Introduce him to your circle of friends, get to know his, ask him to go to one of your family events.... this gets the message across that you're interested. If he's evasive then he probably doesn't want a commitment, but is too immature to be direct about it.
2007-03-10 22:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. It sounds like he just wants sex. If a guy wants to be your boyfriend, he tells you so that you don't go away. He wants to make sure that you know what's going on so you don't go out and meet someone else. But if he doesn't seem to talk about it ever, I think you should dump him.
2007-03-10 22:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Colie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definatly ask him whats up because if yall are just friends with benifiets and you fall head over heels for him and he dont want to be with you mentally as well your not only gonna end up hating him for your time and heartbreak but also your gonna hate yourself trust me i know from experience find out what yall are so you dont get hurt as bad as i did good luck.
2007-03-10 22:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by cassie h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u guys had sex too early...guess dat he jst wnna hv fun wif u notg more thn dat..if he really likes u he'll surely proposing u b4 u guys had sex..dun b 2 cheap like a cupcake whre any1 cn get u easily.bt everybody made mistakes & dun repeat d same mistake twice or u'll b like a fool..cheer up & forget him!
2007-03-10 22:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋