Ok long story short I am a 28 year old single mom with 2 kids who has been dating a guy for the last 9 months. This past Monday I went into the hospital for depression. My mother and sister and I had gotten into a big fight and my sister called my boyfriend and apparently they had a "talk" (I have no idea what was said) I have a feeling there talk included things from my past (lets just say I wasn't an angel) since no one knows Im pregent besides my 2 best friends and I have not heard from him since. He apparently called my sister on Thursday to ask about me and asked her to tell her to tell me to call him well I tried to call him today only to get his voice mail, I tried texting him and im him and he won't respond to me, While in the hospital on Thursday I found out I was pregant with his kid and now I have no idea what to do please help me!!!
2007-03-10 14:02:19 · 11 answers · asked by Sweet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you afford to have another child right now? Look after yourself first - the pregnancy is what you should be spending your time and energy working through. As for him, if he "checked out" on you while you were in a crisis, he is not going to a solid person to move forward with. Think of yourself first. not him. He's the one who should be ashamed for his behaviour. goodluck
2007-03-10 14:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by misseasygoing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well sorry to hear that you are feeling so depressed, I really hope things get better. I know from my life how tuff it is to deal with the past and it takes alot of courage to deal with it and move on with your future and I truly hope that you can get through because anything from your past you do need to deal with in order to go a head in life. As for your sister talking to this guy you have been seeing you should confront your sister and ask her what they talked about because hey let her know that he won't talk to you know since. Now with getting his answering machine and then to finding out that you are carrying his baby if I were you and he don't want to call you back, I would just leave him a message and let him know that you are pregnant and it maybe or is his child and you would appreciate if he would call you back.
Hey listen try not to be to depressed, I know things are tuff to get through but hey you can get through this, you got this far right so just know that things take time especially when it comes to dealing with the past and you also have alot of other mixed feelings now with being pregnant so good luck and take it easy okay.
Chow.
2007-03-10 22:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start off prayer is need because their is a life that going to be birth in the world. You don't need to be stress out concerning anything or anybody. Don't run behind him, it's only bringing on more depression, because you can't get in touch with him. He knows that you are calling so take a deep breath and pray to God for decisions. God has always been there for you and he has never fail you in any way. You have two beautiful kids that you have to live for and one on the way. What you go through as you carry that baby, the baby go through it too and as the baby grow in age she will alway be depressed about something and you will never understand. Those thing that you are going through will fall on that baby. Stay force and don't stress yourself over him. Eventually he will call. Don't text him or call him any more. Sometime men want women to run behind them as if we can't do without them. This is not true. When he call if you chose to talk to him fine if not don't worry about him. Your parents are concerned for you and they love you very much. They don't want to see you hurt in anyway.
2007-03-10 22:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by victory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just assume he's finished with you, and is moving on.
Don't waste any time, emotion, worry, regrets on him---you don't have any to spare, because you are in real life, and must stay there.
You have all the strengths within you to deal with these issues---it will take time and positive thinking on your part.
You are at the age where you have plenty of energy and positivism to deal with life's problems---don't worry. Forget him, and use your mom and sister as a resource. Everyone has a past they wish to forget, don't apologize for being human. Deal with the realities around you, and take good care of yourself, so you can be there for your children.
2007-03-10 22:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take drastic action and rush to him and tell him. I believe you love him. Love might not conquer perfection but able to accept each other imperfections. Some people can be b*tches sometimes. Show him you are changed. He sure tried to contact you and you should contact him back despite the disconnection. Say no to abortion. It is murder. You did not allow the child to see the world yet and learn to be the difference. It gotta start with you. Good luck. Update me.
2007-03-10 22:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby and get him to pay child support either by force ( DA ) or he should agree to be a man a pay for the child. Seems to me you 2 need to talk...and him running from the situation isn't helping. Guy must be part Ostrich...put my head in the sand and it will go away ? Wow ! Good luck.
2007-03-10 22:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your sis what she told him. people change and its nobodys business to tell anyone about your past. if you want him to know then you would have told him. send him another text mess and tell him that its very important that you talk. if he doesn't respond tonight then send him one tomorow that says you are pregnant. good luck.
2007-03-10 22:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by viva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM him again tell him that you need to talk to him that it is very important and that please not to listen to your family it is your relationship not theirs again you must contact him ..if he ignores you..just remember, you know his name and last and whatever else, if he used you..make him pay..Grrrr
2007-03-10 22:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh!
you need to contact him and if he do not answer maybe he lives you
I hope not...
2007-03-10 22:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth
2007-03-10 22:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋