Ok, I met him on line, we end up building a friendship within 2-3 months, so we met and I had already feelings for him, he is not my type physically but I did like him, maybe love him, so last night while talking he said "I love that woman", the girlfriend of his friend, every time he talks about her it seems as if he has a crushed on her, or something like that, so what he said hurt me, so I couldn't talk to him and I just hang up, he call, but I couldn't answer, then he sent am e saying good bye, today I explain to him what happen and at some point I open up about my emotions, so now he is saying that I need help because I have serious issues, without admiting that he did hurt me, I know he doesn't love me, but is it wrong for me to not want to know that he loves someone else? Any advice? Please, my heart is aching!!!!
2007-03-10 14:01:36 · 8 answers · asked by Knella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. All hype aside how was he to know what was going on? If someone has a car you like but you never express interest in it, and they sell it, they can't be blamed because they did not know you wanted to buy it. And passed on you as a buyer.
The online thing is not bad, at least not as bad as people want to make it out, Because a lot of times if you are chatting with a genuine person, they can express themselves in print better than they can say face to face. Maybe that is why you still felt drawn to him when maybe he was they type of guy physically you would have blown right pass at the mall.
There was always the possibility that he would not be into you as much as you were him. After he said he loved that other woman, you could have said how you felt or what you had hoped. The very least, if you could not speak with him because of the hurt, done so tactfully and not appear to blow him off. Then maybe he would have had a kinder perspective about the whole thing. Or at least know where your actions were coming from. It may not have stopped him from thinking what he thought(he could be the kind that can not see any one getting that vested over the Internet).
But if you want him to feel for you as he does for that g/f of a friend is to find the whole in his life and fill that need.
2007-03-18 11:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do have serious issues. You were right to explain yourself. It helps for the other person to understand your reactions so explanations are never wasted. But he does have strong feelings for someone else, he doesn't hide those feelings and why should he? He thinks of you as a friend. He doesn't need to admit that he hurt you - he may be insensitive and not really care that what he said hurt you. Take that as a sign that he is seriously NOT for you. You will get more mature with time and then you will realize that it is right to WANT to know if your love interest loves someone else - so you can back out of that going-nowhere masochistic relationship! He's doing you a favor telling you; he's not being a tease - he's telling you he loves someone else. You have to listen to that. Sorry your heart aches; try to meet someone who will be better for you, that's the only thing you can do!
2007-03-18 16:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many possibilities here. It often ends up that Guys are not on same frequency as Girls are.
1. He may wanna act like jerk (explicitly talking about his friends gf), to just say goodbye and give reasons for that.
2. "I love that woman" does not imply that he actually loves her, but either is kidding to get somekind of response out of you.. or have lightly used the word *love*
3. He may got some issues
4. To be honest, he may be true and you may have some issues.
Honestly, such kind of issues cannot be resolved on a question-answer model. If you have no feeling, or feeling of hurt or betrayal, move on. If you still have the *thing* for him, wait for while and give another chance, sometimes backing off from the situation gives a bit bigger perspective of things.
2007-03-10 22:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by rnv_srikanth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it's that bad find someone who will listen and pay attention to your feelings. And... look other places besides on-line for love. And if you love someone after 2-3 months there might be an issue. You have an infatuation...
As for the other girl He might not have meant that he loved her necessarily. He might just means that he likes being in her company.
2007-03-10 22:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that! He could at least be nice to you when he knows you're upset. And if I was in your situation, I'd be really upset, too. He sounds like a jerk. My advice is to get your friends over, buy some Oreos and some chick flicks, and start getting over him.
Good luck. :-)
2007-03-10 22:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by Colie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him hes not worth it find sum1 who is on the same page as you
2007-03-10 23:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by shar main lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow thats deap
2007-03-18 21:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by manny14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never date someone online
2007-03-10 22:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by rebel5689 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋