Is it ok if i talk to my 13 year old daughter about materbating and that its ok to so it and stuff?

Question

please help me

Answer 1

let her mom do this ok you dont want to scare her lol good luck

Answer 2

I've seen some statistics that suggested only about 50% of girls under 18 have masturbated.

Personally, I thought nice girls didn't do that and didn't really "discover" myself til later. It would have been nice if one of my parents had taken me aside and reassured me that it was okay to experiment with it. It wasn't that my parents were prudish or really implied that I should be ashamed of my body in any way. I think they just assumed I would find out about it on my own (like a lot of other parents are also apparently doing on here).

Though it might be a little easier hearing from her mom, it's better to hear it from you than no one. Try to talk to her about it as an alternative to being sexually active. Her body is developing and she's experiencing new feelings and those feelings are normal, etc. etc. But, she's not really ready for sexual intercourse because of reasons a, b, c. However, masturbation is safe and normal if she's ready for it. Also, let her know it's okay if she's not ready for it. (some girls' sexual awakening comes much later than others.) You don't need to give her a how-to manual, but a little reassurance is certainly okay.

She may act mortified, or she may not respond openly at all. However, I think talking to her openly about it is still a good thing. Plus, it gives you a little more credibility when you talk to her about waiting to be sexually active. It shows you're not sticking your head in the sand about when her body is going through.

Answer 3

I think that more parents should talk to their kids at 13 about masturbating, but it is very sticky. On the one hand, a lot of people don't want to tell a 13 year old how to become sexually aroused and pleased by themselves. Yet, 90% of girls do it (don't know the age this statistic was drawn from, sorry), and it is better coming from the parents.

I think what I will do is tell my daughter that she should wait until she is an adult to receive sexual stimulation, but that masturbating is better than actual sex at a younger age. Then I will mind my own business as far as masturbation is concerned. (Haha, we will see if that actually happens)

Answer 4

I am a mother of three teen boys....I guess its different with girls...but I did it as a joke...I asked my 13 year to let me know when he needs the sign for his door..." Keep out masturbation in progress" He laughed...then I just told him that I dont care what he does...just to be neat about it...I said that I didnt want the neighbors coming over and seeing his unmade stained bed....we just laughed about the whole thing...My kids and I have a great relationship..very open...It must be different with girls...but communication is always a good thing...I cant think of a reason that this would be bad...unless your relationship is not that close and it would embarrass her...Its your daughter...and your call....you know her best...Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Thats sick if you are a dad talking to his daughter about masturbating. The mother should be doing this, and that is even if you think it is necessary. If her mother is not around, then find an adult woman who would be willing to talk to her about this. Did she even ask about it, or did you just up and want to discuss it with her one day? If you just up and wanted to discuss it with her, you may have some serious problems.

Answer 6

Dont bash him for being a guy. He is her dad and could probley do it just fine. I was a daddys girl. My father was very strict, but I would not wanted to talk to mom about it.

My mom was a worthless, lazy drunken Lying whore. Still is. I have no respect for her. She used to cheat on my dad , she had energy to have sex but was too lazy to cook and clean. I was cleaning for my dad and cooking before I was 11 yrs old.

Be tackfull about it dad, but give her the needed info.

Answer 7

If your daughter is masturbating, then its OK to talk to her about it. Explain that it is normal but it should also be private. But if she isn't, there is no need to bring it up. And if you do talk to her about it, and it turns out she isn't, you should also make sure she understands it isn't something she is required to do. A lot of girls don't. That's perfectly normal also.

Answer 8

I think children can figure out the masturbating thing on their own. I really don't believe you need a talk like that. I do believe you should have a talk about sex to your 13 yr old daughter if you haven't already.

Answer 9

She shouldn't be doing that in the first place. You should let the mom talk to her about that. Or just tell her that she can get a disease if she does that. That way she'll hopefully stop.

Answer 10

im pretty sure she probably already knows about masterbating. but if you haven't talked about sex you might want to throw that in there too. you know, about boys and how they lie and STD's and teen pregnacy, just educate her 360 degrees. Masterbating is a normal thing for guys and girls, just like puberty and sex. so go ahead.

Answer 11

i don't think you need to discuss it. she will do it anyway and actually, if you're a guy like your avatar suggests, lets face it, you'll completely embarress her. nothing personal but, if my dad ever talked to me about something like that, i'd probably give up sex, manuel or otherwise, for life.