The couple in question have shared custody of their children (7 and 9) The mother does not want to pick up their children from their father's place and does not want their father to pick up their children from her place when there is no school or day care. She only wants to exchange their children from a MacDonald parking. I want to emphasize that there is no reason whatsoever on her part to want to exchange children in a MacDonald parking. The father wants their children to be exchanged at their respective home because he believes that they are not commodities and is about respect and dignity. The children do not want to be exchanged at MacDonald parking either, especially the boy saying that he is not a hamburger. The father is suggesting, if she does not want his place or her place, at least to exchange them at a family home when they are with her but when they are with him, he wants them to be pick up from his place. What do you think?
2007-03-10 13:54:54 · 9 answers · asked by Sunshine G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She is selfish.
This SHOULD be about the kids, not her. . . .and
any animosity she has toward their father.
These are human beings and need to be
treated with dignity and respect.
2007-03-10 14:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by yarmiah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother needs to grow up. Neither of them have to go into each others homes. The absolutely only reason I could agree with her doing such a think is if she is afraid of her ex or she feels she needs witnesses to the exchange because he's accused her of bad behavior of some kind. If it is just a matter of her not liking him, she should be thinking of the well-being of her children more, because like it or not, she is going to have to deal with him as long as those children are alive. Even after they grow up, they will have their own families and birthday parties for the grandchildren. And both grandparents will be invited and have to be in the same room. They need to learn to be grown-ups around each other. Sounds like the father has the right idea and the mother needs some lessons in how to think of her children's feelings above her own.
2007-03-10 14:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only time I would think it would be acceptable is if they lived a great distance apart. When me and my sister were little (before school age) we would spend the end of March and the beginning of April with our grandparents (my mother was an accountant and my father traveled for business) and they lived about 4 hours away from us. So we would meet at a restaurant in the middle, have lunch, and then go our separate ways. We continued to do it up until we stopped spending all summer with them. In those cases I think it's fine...but if you live in the same town or just an hour or so away...then it's just strange.
2007-03-10 19:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thank the kid be pick up at a MacDonald parking is kind of dumb i had had friend that will meat half to pick there kids but they live about 6 hours away want wrong with at the house if don't want to do that don't know why park here they do why not do it at a park its a lots better then a MacDonald parking
good luck
2007-03-10 14:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by piglet91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like the whole disagreement is not in the best interest of the kids. Somehow they have become aware in the disagreement enough where they feel the need to pick sides. That is not fair. One person has to be mature and do something that they don't feel like doing. What is in the best interest of the kids is for their already divorced parents not carry on the marriage though bitter arguments about ridiculous things!
2007-03-10 14:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the situation has got out of hands and the supposedly "adults" are behaving like brats.
So that only leaves one solution:
The kids have to decide.
The parents should each have a word with the kids and break down to them why and where they would like to pick them up.
Then the kids will agree or disagree and decide on the solution they like best.
(Im assuming the kids are old enough to talk)
2007-03-10 14:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A family meeting ground would be fine, but its not right of him to demand that she pick them up at his house. most courts now days suggest this trade off in the final hearings they did with me and my ex
2007-03-10 14:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is stupid if you hate your husband that much you need to suck it up for your children unless you want to make them mad at you and when they tell a judge what you do there dad can get full cusdady of them.. THINK OF THE CHILDREN FIRST UNLESS BE A BAD MOM
2007-03-10 13:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by rebeccajsmith25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to freakin' grow up. Take her *** to court. poor children don't need to suffer like this. what is wrong with our society>>>>
2007-03-10 14:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by isochronous7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋