I have a 3 year old and my husband and I are on the fence whether to have another child (we both see pros and cons). I'm the primary caretaker as he travels for work most of the time. I feel like I manage one child very well, but I fear adding a new baby to the mix would be send me over the edge. How do you handle two kids running in separate directions? Do you just stay home til they're grown?
2007-03-10 13:42:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have 3. My oldest was such a help and revelled in being the big brother. My husband worked a second part time job and was gone a lot. But the kids were great. They're all grown now 25,23,and 20. And they all come over when they hear that one of the other ones is coming. Still play board games, cards and dominoes. I wish I could do it all over again. I worked part time too after the oldest was in 1st grade.
2007-03-10 13:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Dusie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three children. Two toddlers and a 9 month old. All planned. I am currently expecting twins (unplanned).
The transition from 1 to 2 was the hardest, but 2-3 was a breeze. There are days I seriously think "if I have to clean this mess up ONE... MORE... TIME...." lol...
I think the most important thing I learned in coping with more then one at once (during the tense times) was patience. Slow down- don't try to do as much as fast as you used to. My husband and I are each others rocks. We lean on each other for everything.
Also- we ensure we have one "date night" a week- when we take a few hours for just US to go out on a date. It's important that you take care of yourselves as well as your child(ren).
Sometimes this requires "time outs" for yourself- which is 100% normal.
I am a fulltime stay at home mom. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Before I had kids- I was very anal about having a very clean house, a strict schedule. I was a "List" person- then I realized.... you cannot do that with kids. (Some people do and it makes everyones life miserable)
You'll probably hear a lot of different things from people with one kid and more then one kid- there is a huge huge difference despite what many may say.
Best of luck.
2007-03-10 14:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 boys, ages 7 years & 3 months! I am a single mother, and I work a FT job. My oldest one is in school, and the baby is in daycare. I love both of my boys very much, the oldest one helps me so much. He loves being big brother, and mom's little helper. It's hard being a single parent with two kids, but I am managing. You are married, and even then it can be tough. If you're worried about having two at home, wait til the 3 year old starts school.
I couldn't have done it any other way, I would have went crazy!!
Good luck to ya!!
2007-03-10 14:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by southern_hockeyfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, sweets.
I'm a proud mommy of 3. Two girls and one boy. I'm also currently engaged...but that will change soon :D
Children are precious miracles, but do what's right for your family.
I absolutely adore children, and they're so gorgeous. Miracles.
Anyway, yes. Having 3 little ones running around the house is difficult, but you get used to it.
I work from home. I love my job. It's very flexible and I work off the computer. Simple. It's easy to take care of my kids that way...keep an eye on 'em.
Are you currently working? Maybe you should look for a job that has that kind of flexibility mentioned above...or if you're employed, ask if you have the option to work from home.
Trust me, having more children may seem hard but you do what you feel is necessary. For me, it's all worth it in the long run.
*****If you need ANYTHING or if you'd just like to chat, send me an email sometime. Good luck to you!*****
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2007-03-12 10:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 1/2 yr old, and a 17 month old and am PG w/ the 3rd. Yeah - Its crazy at times but its also lots of fun! My 4 1/2 yr old will start Kindergarden in Sept and that will help.
I would plan a 2nd baby if I was you in the next yr or two max. Good Luck!
My husbands work , I stay home and my 4 1/2 yr old goes to pre school part time which helps me.
2007-03-10 14:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids, ages 3.5 years and 3.5 months. Even though its twice as many kids, its not twice as much work, and the older one is a good helper. So far they can't run off in separate directions, but its only a matter of time.... So far I have stayed home most of the time, but with the weather getting nicer I plan on getting out to the park nearly every day.
2007-03-10 13:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 year old and an 11 month old. My 3 year old is in pre-school so most of the day it's just me and the baby. Our house is small enough so even if they go in opposite directions I can keep track of them. There are always playpens, exersaucers, and gates that help with things.
2007-03-10 14:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 4 year old and a 3 month old and it works out well for us. the older one helps out a lot and is really good with the baby. i was worried about how hard it would be having 2, but things just fell into place.
2007-03-10 14:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 boys ages 2 and almost 4. For me, the addition of #2 wasn't much different...it was like he had been there the whole time...
2007-03-11 10:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by redheadsmum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children here on earth with me ( 2 in heaven) I am a stay at home mama and its Worderful...Crazy...Fulfilling...And I cant imagine my life without them! I would love to have another one.
Good luck to you and your husband in whatever you choose
My email is knight_janette@yahoo.com if you want to chat
2007-03-10 13:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by knight_janette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋