Should I tell my parents my really scary secret?

Question

My secret does involve cutting and writting suicide notes. Ive been cutting for at least 7 months and i cant stop some how i have had a really bad past and i cant stop thinking about it, school is really sressful and realationships are really confusing because i have been cheated on at least 3 times. But anyway should I tell my parents that i cut and try to get help?

Answer 1

You really need to talk to someone, whether or not it's your parents or another trusted adult. You need serious help and it is good that you want to do something to help you thats the first step. good luck.

Answer 2

Most definitely. If you can't talk to your parents, then talk to a close adult that can help. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this and have not been able to confide in someone prior to this going on for 7 months.

I understand the really hard past, but you must not take it to heart and grow from it. I know that's easier said than done, but I've had a really tough past and through my experiences I've become a very strong person.

Please..PLEASE if you are thinking about suicide, please talk to someone about it because the worse thing for you to do would be to take your own life, which will have an EXTREMELY HORRIBLE effect on your parents.

I know if my daughter ever took her own life, I would end up either in an insane asylum, or buried right next to her.

Life really isn't as bad as you think it is. It may seem impossible right now, but that's only because your body is growing and going through so many changes. Try not to get so serious with relationships right now since you're so young. You need to live while you are young, not die.

Answer 3

could you just tell your parents that you really need to talk to a counselor and ask them if your insurance company will pay for you to do this. Tell them that you really feel depressed and stressed out and you don't know how to handle things. When they say you can just talk to them, tell your parents that you would be more comfortable if you could meet each week with a counselor. Or you could find a therapist yourself without telling your parents. I can really feel for you. I grew up in a home where there was a lot of abuse. My parents wouldn't have let me talk to a therapist if I had asked--which I didn't ask. My parents would have been in a lot of trouble if I told anyone what was going on in my life.Because of the nightmares and my coping skills being so bad even after I became an adult and was married I wish that I had talked to a professional therapist long before I did. My husband is and was a school teacher and a good bit older than me. I thought he could help me cope--and he did some. But he was not a professional therapist. My husband wasn't trained in how to help me deal with things. After I finally started going to a therapist I began to heal and learn how to cope with things.My medical dr saw the cuts on my arms--and he understood that I was nearly to the point of a nervous breakdown. My dr sent me to a psychiatrist. I went thru life hiding my cut arms. When I was a kid I hid the physical pain I was in. If anyone says that the cutting was a way to get attention, they are fools. I couldn't of stopped cutting on my own. I just wish that I had seen a therapist earlier so that Iwouldn't of suffered for such a long time. Talk to one of your teachers that you trust and see what suggestions that teacher can give. Life is tough. I feel like all the things that I went thru they ended up developing my compassion, etc. I know how you feel because I have been there. I can now encourage other people that have the same problem. I knew the mental damage that could happen to my own children-- so I knew how to protect them. There are a lot of advantages when you have to go thru hard times. Maybe you will have advice to help others or maybe one day you could be a therapist because of the things you have been thru. I know that doesn't help you now. Just hang in there and find professional help. I no longer cut. I am no longer secretely suicidal. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. God bless you. When things got really bad for me I asked God to bring me to other peoples minds so they would pray for me. The people don't have to know why they are praying for me.

Answer 4

Yes, you should. And don't be afraid to do so. Tell your mom that you need to talk to her about something very serious. Ask her not to talk... just to listen. Tell her you need to get medical help and this is why... show her. I'd be heartbroken if my child was in as much pain as you clearly must be and didn't confide in me. We parents get so caught up in the daily grind of life that sometimes we just don't see things (or want to see them). Still... I'd want to know.

Also, you need to put your past behind you and move forward now. It takes three years (honestly!) to truly get over a relationship. So give yourself some time. There's no rush. Concentrate on your education and what you want to do when you get out of school. Doing so will help you become a stronger person - one who won't tolerate or attract cheaters in your life. You deserve the best - but it's all about YOU getting healthy right now. Take care...

Answer 5

You need to ask yourself one question. Do you want to continue to be so unhappy or do you think you deserve to get help? I think you deserve to get help. You have a long life ahead of you and you don't want to spend it being so sad. When I was your age I lost my sister so I was real sad. I finally told my parents and I started seeing a counselor and it helped me so much. I think that if I hadn't I would have ended up spending my life being unhappy all the time. So tell your parents. You deserve to be happy. And as for the relationships, you will have many more in your future so give yourself a break. And high school is hard for alot of people, it was for me but I made it thru and now I am a college graduate.

Answer 6

Everyone has problems it's how you cope that matters most stuff like getting cheated on happens to alot of people and school is stressful, but you need it to be a better person in life. If you're cutting and thinking of suicide then Yes, talk to your parents and get some help..if you can't talk to them go to your school counselor and talk w/them they'll help or to a priest @ church. You've taken the first step and told who knows how many people on here your problem and we're complete strangers and for the most part we're honest in our answers. Go tell your problem to the people in your life that love you..talk to your folks if not them to a close relative like aunt/uncle/cousin. But Talk!!

Answer 7

I cut myself a lot when I was 15-19. I'm 43 and still have dozens of serious scars. They never go away.
This is more common than you realize. You need help. If my parents knew, they never mentioned it. I got kicked out of my college dorm because of it. There's not a day I regret it. I never got help. Somehow, I just stopped one day and never did it again.

Answer 8

Just know that you aren't alone and there is hope for you. You can overcome this and there are lots of people who can help you. Don't give up. You may not realize it, but your life has a meaning and a purpose and you shouldn't end your life before you find out what it is. I don't want to sound condescending but i hate to hear when people are in pain and they don't know how to help themselves out of it. Also, know that theres someone out there thinking about you. God Bless and Good Luck!

Answer 9

Yes you need to talk to some ppl.Im assuming youre still preety young since you still live with ur parents,but you need to tell either one of your teachers,or your parents.Either one.im sure will be able to help you out.And about having a hard life right now(sigh)...welcome to life.its not alwaays easy honey.Tell someone Now!!

Answer 10

If you feel safe and that you can trust them to help without causing you more emotional pain, then yes. If you would feel safer going to someone else first, then ask a counselor at school to recommend who to talk to.