OK, we have known each other for two months, talked online for a month before going out and have been on two dates since then (in the past month), partly cuz our schedules kinda conflict.
She is really attractive and has a busy life and I want to give her space and have mine too because I have a life as well.
Essentially what I'm asking is should I make myself a little unavailable by seeing her only once every other week or is it better to see her once a week? Please explain your answer.
She has invited me to church SEVERAL TIMES and I told her I need time and she said to take my time.
I'm thinking making myself a little scarce and unavailable is a good thing.
2007-03-10 13:31:29 · 8 answers · asked by Jamal J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This really depends on how much you want to see her. You both need to have some space, but this is still the getting to know each other, novelty time. Feel free to see her as much as you both want, but don't make any promises that you either can not or will not keep.
Being "busy" once in a while is a good thing, but don't be consistantly "busy" without giving her an answer or she will take it as rejection and then she'll either start to resent you or find someone else.
2007-03-10 13:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by Julie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her? Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself that question. If you do, then what's stopping you from pursuing this relationship? Or are you afraid of something? And if you do decide to pursue this relationship further, don't go rushing into things, just take it slow at first, otherwise you just might overwhelm her and she'll push you away.
I understand that both of you have busy work schedules and need your own space. But if the two of you are serious about each other, you both will need to work together to make time for each other, otherwise you just might drift farther apart. Good luck!
2007-03-10 21:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by cruzincuzzin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this could back fire b/c someone else could be giving her the time ur not. I don't see what it will hurt going to church with her would hurt i'd say to have a healthy relationship at first to see eachother 2 times a week once for dinner the other for something excting and fun like go karting, skating, gaming, etc.
2007-03-10 21:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Happily Taken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to play games and seem like your busy when your not. A girl really just likes a guy who is real with her. And to be honest i would much rather a guy clear his schedual for me than pretend to have no time for me! See her a little more often...you guys will become closer and your relationship will develop...good luck!
2007-03-10 21:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by *Mariah* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
man, if it were me, you can take all the time you want. in fact, you can take a hike and not show your face to me. if you really like the woman, why bother to be unavailable to her? you have to know each other better in order for a serious relationship to bloom. being unavailable is like telling the girl you are not interested. oh,man.
2007-03-10 21:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have already made up your mind on this. I would do what you feel best about. Doesnt sound like your relationship has a very good foundation. Or you both could not live your days without eachother.
2007-03-10 21:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she might prefer knowing that your available.
2007-03-10 21:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? Go to church with her!!!!!!!
2007-03-10 21:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by mebh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋