I dated this woman for a period of two months...maybe! She wanted to go to counseling because she was "unsure" of our relationship and what it meant in her life. I think she's nuts because nothing has happened that was even that serious to be going to counseling over. She tried to drag me into counseling with the pastor and I said "no!" She goes in there and said God knows what. Anyway...the problem is that I broke off the relationship with her and am now dating that pastors daughter. I was intimate with the first woman and I'm almost positive she told the pastor that. Long story short...how do I navigate the situation with the pastor? She won't tell me what she told him. Do I ask him what she told him?
2007-03-10 13:05:53 · 13 answers · asked by Tadow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, first of all, the ***** is flat out crazy...She's whack. I mean, totally--come ON.."COUNSELLING"???? No freakin' way! you were right on the spot to dump her sorry psycho mental headcase self....
And IF it ever comes up (which it shouldnt, the pastor should keep that sh!t private), you could just say "she needs more help than you could give her, Sir"....
Wow...that's hysterical...counselling after 2 months of "dating"...wow!
2007-03-10 13:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past, yours is over with women number one. She had a professional relationship with the pastor, it did not involve you. She SHOULD not tell you what she said, he WILL not. It literally has nothing to do with you. Continue to date the new girl (Daughter) and forge ahead with a relationship with her father just as you would any other dad. For all you know, you've been in a similar situation before and did not even know it. Does that make sense? Don't sweat it so much, enjoy your new relationship and all the potential that it has. If the counseling past thing ever does come up. A simple "That's in the past. I was surprised to learn myself that she sought couples counseling. We only dated briefly".
Good luck.
2007-03-10 21:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Robin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't ask him that because it is confidential between a pastor and member what goes on in a counseling session. He wouldn't be able to tell you anyway. I think you have to wait and see what happens with this new girl. If he wants to talk to you about it I'm sure he'll bring it up when you meet him. I certainly would if it were my daughter in this situation. Good luck.
2007-03-10 21:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..If he doesn't mention it..you should not either...I am sure the pastor does not wish to discuss this ..because it is somewhat suggestive that you are considering sex with his daughter and want to clear the air...DO NOT DO IT.. I doubt it is going to cause any problems at all..If the pastor asks you anything ...Only answer what he asks and volunteer nothing ..for you to talk to him about another woman will only make him think one day you will be talking about his daughter..
2007-03-10 21:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by connie b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask, however, what is said to a pastor is usuallyconfidential. Instead of all of that, why don't you just get to know the man? You are dating his daughter. That way you both can get to know each other.
2007-03-10 21:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the paster , the point is , he is just a man , he may have a few things from the bible to make things clearer for you , the point is , if you are dating the pastors daughter , then it will be hard to get him on side if you dont believe or follow the religion that her family follows
2007-03-10 21:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to NOT get involved with someone else in this little love triangle! Date girls who don't have anything to do wtih the pastor and you wont' have to deal with these situations!
2007-03-10 22:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by VillageGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, keep your mouth shut !!!! This is intimate information and he probably wouldn't tell you anyway. If his daughter is old enough to date, then she can make her own decisions in your relationship. Daddy doesn't need to know anything. Believe it !
2007-03-10 21:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by HJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is for real - nice one! That'll teach him to mess with you.
Just ignore it. I'm sure he's trying to block the details out of his head every time he sees you with his daughter.
2007-03-10 21:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ditch her now, she sounds like a fruit loop. And whatever you do DONT marry that psycho
2007-03-10 21:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by nyckib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋