I've known these two girls that I'm friends for about a year now, and we've hung out a couple of times, and we've always had a good time, I'm starting to think they might be using me which is really depressing because I like hanging out with them. The reason why I think they might be using me is because when we hang out I always pay for everything, which I'm ok with, and whenever they need a ride to school (I'm in college, they are in high school, although its not much of an age difference between us) I always say yes. It seems like we have a good time when we hang out but why don't they ever want to hang out after school or on the weekends? I'm somewhat shy, which is something I need to work. I'm not that bad looking. I realllllly like hanging out with them but I don't know if they like to hang out with me or they are just using me, I want to think they like hanging out with me, but its really hard too tell. I know the easy answer is to forget them and move on but its reallly hard.
2007-03-10 13:02:52 · 10 answers · asked by BAS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've never had a girlfriend, and I don't know when/if I ever will which is really depressing to think about. I have a lot friends besides the two girls, although I like hanging out with them sometimes more than I do my other friends.
2007-03-10 13:05:04 · update #1
No, you just havent found the right girl yet! Have faith. You should be careful for those "girl friends of yours". They dont sound true and keeping them for long would only hurt you even more in the long run. Sometimes, for some girls in high school thinks it is just cool to hang out with some guy from college. They are certainly not genuine friends. Shyness makes you cute. You sound like a nice guy to me. If you are beautiful on the inside, it shows outside. You are not a loser. You will eventually find the one when God shows her to you.
Im a girl and have guy and girl friends, they are certainly close to me. But in any relationship, there is always one ahead of the other. Sometimes, i can feel the distance between us. But i do not give up on them. Stay true.
God bless you.
2007-03-10 13:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't get too depressed. I'm 25 and have never had a girlfriend. I'm depressed, sometimes suicidal, but at least you're not as old as me.
Look at it this way: A girl can always refuse an offer to buy her something, so the opportunity to a pay for a girl in itself is a privilege, even if it is just out of being taken advantage of. After all, it is kinda wrong to pay only out of expectation of getting something in return.
2007-03-10 13:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, judging by technique of how she's all snarled in her relationships (2 boyfriends jointly) she may say sure and only use you to cheer up and then dump you. i could say it truly is a touch bit a grey section. yet in case you actually imagine she's that eye-catching and also you do not ideas what occurs later then yep you're suitable 2 perhaps 3 weeks and your golden. the different one will likely get jealous, yet in case you adult males do not talk she'll get over you and flow on and also you may in no way have that threat again... that could suck if she particularly is that rather :L You gotta make certain which lady you want more suitable. because in case you flow for one your gonna omit out on the different. the dancing issue: i in my opinion imagine which could be truly wonderful xP yet some females could be like.. wtf?? i wager it relies upon on the way you pull it off - like once you're an particularly humorous no longer awkward guy you're golden with that. yet in case you come back of tacky it truly is activity over. wish i could help :P
2016-12-01 19:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....ask them to hang out after school one day or ask them to hang out on the weekends, if they say yes, they might not be using you but if you go somewere like the movies or the mall or some place were you would have to pay just say your a little short or say maybe can you pay this time or ask them to pay for you because you forgot your money or somthing, just try that it might work
good luck!!
2007-03-10 13:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by me_yes_me5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound nice and sweet shy guys are so cute and thos girls they seem like they are using you cuz in high school having a college guy buy everything and drive you to school so all your friends see it makes you cool to have a friend thats a cute college guy. i dont think i explained that very good.
2007-03-10 13:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Charli W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to be mean but true. When they call ask you if you can take them some where tell them you can't because your busy. Then if they call you to see if you want to go somewhere go with them just tell them that they would have to pay for their own food. And etc.
2007-03-10 13:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Briann M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are elder to me cute bhaiya! may be u r an indian!
but do not loose hope. but also do not give them much importance for some time then u will see that they would have understood ur importance. but thereafter even they will not care for u then leave them. i am sure that one day u will get ur true love.
best of luck!
bye
2007-03-10 13:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by abhijit cool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a barrel roll!!!
2007-03-10 13:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by foolbird13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u aint there type,sry...
2007-03-10 13:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by *Brooke* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us are just loosers.....
2007-03-10 13:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dusty 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋