I am 25 and my b/f is 28, we have lived and been together for 2 years, but we divide bills up like we are room mates (50/50), is that normal?
2007-03-10 13:01:10 · 11 answers · asked by iceez81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Modern relationships recognize that dating is not for free. The more money you both have, the more dating you do. It is foolish to expect him to buy your time with a date. Are you chattel, to be bartered for?
No, I thought not. And neither is he. He doesn't have deep pockets, but wants to continue to be with you. Also, he wants you to know what it costs him to be with you. And he knows what it costs you to be with him. In one respect, I like it better, now that I've thought about it.
It protects him, and you too, from spending time with a "free-rider", someone who is along for the ride and not seriously involved with the process.
When it becomes too much, when he becomes too much, you stop paying your 50%. He'll get the MSG to move on. So would you, if the shoe were on the other foot.
Most of all, it shows that he is very committed to you. It shows he is smart and that he wants this to work, AND that you do too.
2007-03-10 13:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he's not ready to commit to a long term relationship, even though you've been together for 2 years. ask yourself how many married couples split the bills 50-50
2007-03-10 13:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is an prolonged time, especially for an 18 twelve months previous. you will finally recover from it. that's common which you're actually not involved in any of those adult males asking you out, yet in step with threat take one up on the grant. i'm including your friends in this one nevertheless. go have some exciting. in basic terms be risk-free.
2016-10-01 22:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes it is. By paying 50/50 you are not creating division between you on who pays more. Money is the key to all problems in a relationship.
2007-03-10 13:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal is relative.
It's "normal" if you are both comfortable with it.
It seems you're not so comfortable with the idea or you wouldn't be asking the question. If this is the case, talk to him about it. Give him suggestions and see what the two of you can agree on.
2007-03-10 13:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by kdfirekat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is perfectly normal. If it makes you feel better..why don't you decide what bills you want to be responsible and him the same & pay them that way. Never combine accounts until you are married!!!
2007-03-10 13:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by !Sweetie! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty normal to me. You two aren't married and should split the bills. It helps keep you both on track.
2007-03-10 13:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal. There's no reason one person should pay more than the other person, no matter how long the reltaionship has been going on.
2007-03-10 13:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by VillageGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah at least his paying half of the bills.
2007-03-10 13:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by honeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like that idea.
It shows that you both are equals in the relationship.
2007-03-10 13:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by Dazed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋