I am so frickin in love and everything is fine w/ me and my boyfriend. He is very very very good to me, but lately we've been getting into small arguements over nothing and that has caused us to begin a habit of saying mean things to each other out of anger lately. This is rarely a problem, and we've surpassed things much bigger than this, but the only reason that worry is because this is the first time in our year 1/2 relationship were i could actually c us taking some time apart, or even breaking up for a little while. I met him my freshman year of college (i'm a junior) and I sometimes I want to enjoy college w/o him (but i love being w/ him)...just sometimes want to not have to worry about what he would think....we spend almost every moment together and i think that being too dependent might hurt us in the future...but he likes the dependency...I'm still stuck..any advice?
2007-03-10 12:57:31 · 14 answers · asked by KiKi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He just doesn't seem right to you. If he's for a break in your relationship, go for it.
2007-03-10 13:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by indieforcutie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.......what can i say?? My boyfriend and i have had the same problem the past couple of months......and we have been together for 2 years! I love him but sometimes we get into the most stupid arguements....but anyway do what your heart tells you. If you really love him like you say you do, then don't make a stupid decision that you will have to live with your entire life?? Do you want to wonder everyday what it would be like if you hadn't left him??? If you two are really meant to be together then things will work out for the best. God has a plan for everyone!! So don't give up!
Good Luck♥
2007-03-10 13:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question from you seems to come from a place that says that you are ready for a split. You must look inside yourself and see if that place is deep enough and important enough for you to split. If it is, then you are probably with the wrong guy.
I've heard from many people over the years that anything that bothers you in in your dating life will magnify by 10 times or more sometime after you are married. Can you live with issues that are 10 times as strong as those you've described? Will the good times outweigh the bad over the years, even when the bad is 10 times as strong?
Answer these questions to yourself, and you may be on your way toward having the ultimate answer to this question.
Whether you stay with him or move on, I wish you the best.
2007-03-10 13:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by brightpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have already made up your mind. The relationship is only a year and a half old and that is the right time to start with the simple problems. It really depends on how you both are able to work your problems out how the relationship is going to go in the future. But is sounds like you really want the break from him. Sounds like you two have alot to talk about.
2007-03-10 13:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking a break might help but be prepared for what happened with Ross and Rachel on "Friends" now. If your taking a break, that means you won't be dating anymore and he might meet someone else. So have a long talk before your willing to surrender the relationship. If your both really inlove with each other, I'd say stick it out because sometimes relationships get boring but if your TRUELY inlove, you take the exciting times with the not so exciting ones also. Good luck
2007-03-10 13:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The time apart sounds like a good idea to me, you don't have to 'break up' if you don't want, but you do need some time away from each other, too much time together will ruin things.
I wish you the best! Do what your heart says, not what fear says do.
2007-03-10 13:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
College is a hard place to have a real relationship, like you said you want to go out and experience things, its a hard decison. But just to let you know there is no such thing as a break. Once that happens it will never be the same. Id really sit down and think about it, by yourself, so you dont have any outside influnce affecting your decesion.
2007-03-10 13:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by alongfortheride 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think the only problem here is that you spend too much time together. you both need your own space and your own lives outside of your relationship to be healthy happy people, and a happy couple.
2007-03-10 13:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by fifs_c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should i mean i understand that you still love him and all and explain this to him. but its good to explore other options. no matter what your NOT stuck i know your worried about hurting him but if you feel its time for a break then do it, hell live
2007-03-10 13:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by PyroPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young you should be enjoying college and your life!! If it's meant to be you guys will end up together at the end!!
2007-03-10 13:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by dreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋