Self Confidence help?

Question

in my teens (im 19 now) i suffered really bad cyst acne i also went to a dermotogests and went for the next 5 years. I was bulleyed for it alot at school, the acne has slowly died down, i still have it but just mild, much better then it ever was. anyways its left me with alot of scaring, mostly indentations in my facy mainly in the cheek area. when i was around 15-16 i got very deppressed and kinda let myself go and didnt really look aftermyself too well, i got kinda back on track after a year or so.

My main issues now are i have alot of trouble just talking to people who i dont know at all, or not very well, at the moment im studying my alevels my last year of it and i dont ever talk 2 anyone in the class as im too scared to, just when im out anywhere i try and keep to myself as much as i can and avid contact with people, i feel not good enought to mix with people, really hard to explain. I dont go out anywhere, just when i have to really, im kinda stuck in a rut.

Answer 1

A lot of people have had similar experiences in school, and most people go through acne. If its as bad as you say, I would buy the Proactive. I heard nothing but good things about it, and its endorsed by a lot of celebrities. Use it even if your acne isn't that bad now, it cleans and clears the skin giving it a glow.

Most guys have a problem talking to people, I know I did. I started going to the gym and working on my body, that alone gave me a lot of self confidence ( I differently suggest working out). I met some people at the gym and starting going out with them.
I also met people though the Internet and starting hanging out with them. How you meet people and make friends is ask them questions about them, and compliment them. Don't be negative, nobody likes hanging with negative people. Don't talk about your problems, talk about good and happy things.
Once you've made some friends, start weeding them out. Real friends also care about what is going on your life good or bad.

Go to Barnes and Noble and look in the self help area, but Do Not just do this. Look at a couple, get some ideas and try them out. You don't have to buy them.

One of the all time best ways to meet people is to VOLUNTEER your time.

Good Luck

Answer 2

well you should be confident about yourself and you shouldn't care what people think....A few years ago i got diagnosed with low risk leukemia and i got better and everything but i lost all my hair ....I felt like such a outsider and even though people still hung around me and stuff i had a feeling like they were looking at something but they really went this dude kept on bugging me and id just walk away but one day i took a spazz and went old school on him lol jk and i dont care what people think about me now and if that you in the pic you have nothing to worry about your pretty cute! So the point of the story is if people don't like you they can go suck a egg as long as your happy with yourself no one can put you down.
one more thing you have to trust that your family and Friends are gonna stick by you no matter how your confidence levels are. Like look at where i am now im a gogeous burnette im so mean...I hope i helped and truthfully you are really hot!
sincerely,
Christina xoxo

Answer 3

darlin I'm so sorry to hear this-your picture is very cute- You can get more help with your skin if that would make you feel better, they have made amazing results in people I've seen that suffered from terrible acne in their youth.I can feel for you though, I too use to be so horribly shy, well it was really a problem, but now I won't shut up sometimes I get on my own nerves.Don't make the mistake of measuring yourself by others and what they think about us, we all tend to do that sometimes. If this is a really,really horrible problem for you and one you think you can't get past, seek some professional help,I glad you haven't turned to drugs and I assume that by what you said and by you asking for our help, that is wise right there and definitely not your answer, alot of people feel they have to drink or take drugs to be sociable, but you sound very wise. So Baby Doll stay wise and be yourself and don't waste another day alone,and shy, you're to handsome for that, and I'm sure there's a girl out there that would love to share her problems with you, possibly the same.I got really really sick and almost died and that kinda made me look at life differently,so don't waste a Day Darlin-Live it andLive it now. Your're too young to waste those precious moments.Good Luck-Hope to Hear From You and hope it's something Great!!WHY DID YOU TAKE YOUR PICTURE DOWN? loVE YOURSELF FIRST OR IT'S GOING TO BE HARD TO LET OTHERS IN. IF YOU CAN'T LOVE YOURSELF THEN IT'S HARD TO LOVE ANYONE ELSE- IN FACT I WOULD SAY IT'S IMPOSSIBLE-IT WILL START WHEN YOU BEGIN TO LIKE YOURSELF- MY BROTHER-IN-LAW- IS THE SAME WAY- AND HE'S 52 YEARS OLD- PEOPLE THINK HE'S SNOTTY OR STUCK UP , BUT HE'S NOT- HE JUST HAS A SOCAIL PROBLEM- BUT GUESS WHAT HE IS A FANTASTIC SALESMAN THAT COULD SELL A BROKEN DOOR-KNOB TO A PERSON THAT DOESN'T OWN A DOOR-IT ALL STARTED WHEN HE WAS YOUNG AND HIS DAD BEAT HIM ALOT- ALTHOUGH HIS DAD SEEMS TO BE A WONDERFULLY NICE PERSON- HE WAS RAISED UP THE OLD TIMEY WAY- WHEN YOU DIDN'T DO YOUR CHORES HE GOT A BAD WHIPPING- IT CAUSED HIM TO HAVE SELF-ESTEEM PROBLEMS AND HE BLAMES HIS DAD-WE THINK IT'S TRUE TOO.HE WAS TREATED HARSH! IT MADE HIM SECLUSIVE. GET HELP BABY! DON'T LIVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE MISSING OUT ON THE BEST!!

Answer 4

I have a problem with low self confidence also... One thing you should do is workout start excercising.. it really improves the way you feel about yourself and puts you in a more positive mood. Also you have to stop caring about what others think. You have to do what makes you happy.... Be in a positive mood and do what you want without reguard to the other persons feelings.. your not a bad person so your not going to do anything too out of line. Make yourself think positive thoughts instead of the negative ones you might be thinking... repeat these to yourself instead of negative thinking... soon you will believe them. If you talk to someone and they dont respond well.. then move on to someone else.... if you ask a girl out and you dont get a good responce... so what.. move on to another... I know its hard to do but i know this is the way to go... Im starting to get the hang of it. Good luck to ya

Answer 5

It's hard coming out of that shell..but once you do you'll be glad. Just keep thinking to yourself that nobody is "better" than you. Just start off small by saying hello to people..then work your way up. Hope this helps..Best of luck to you =)

Answer 6

i have to ask you first whether you are deppressed now.
Your problem maybe too psychological.

wat do you think bothers you from interacting with peolple?

dont be too affected just because of those breakouts in the face....
persona is much important than the physical attributes