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What do you do when your son writes a letter like this:- Dear Mum & Dad, I am sorry for being a burden to you and i know you never really wanted me in the first place. I have cost you so much money, caused so many problems and heartache that i wish i could leave and go live on the streets where i belong or i wish i was dead. I am tired of crying myself to sleep at night........
This letter was written after he had been told off several times for being or doing naughty things.

2007-03-10 12:50:25 · 18 answers · asked by Satanic_Lord 1 in Family & Relationships Family

18 answers

How old is your son? Talk to him and get help NOW. There are crisis phone lines and excellent counselors available. Never ignore a letter like this from your child, it is a plea for help and understanding.

2007-03-10 12:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by SouthernAnswer 3 · 1 0

It is easy to take things personally, or better yet to misconstrue the actions and words of others, as personal threats and criticism. It sounds like your son not only needs the parental discipline, but the reciprocal actions. A child feeling as if he/she is a 'burden' can result from constant disciplining, if there are no words or actions to soften the blows. While it is important to play the parent, it is equally important to show your son you are also his friend and unconditional support system. Instead of telling him (which will more than likely fall on deaf or skeptical ears), do more positive activities with him. Be more involved in the 'fun' things in his life. Go biking, go see a movie, play a game of checkers or Srabble(r). Talk to him about some of the interesting and funny things happening in your life. If you open up your life to him, he will feel appreciated, that his thoughts and 'being' is needed by you. Don't make him feel visible only when he needs to be disciplined. His 'naughty' actions may very well be the result of him feeling invisible otherwise.

2007-03-10 13:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by nydaisy22 2 · 0 0

i have examine the different solutions and are available to a end. i will not call you a coward. i will not inform you that your existence is worth it. i will not attempt to sooth you into the life-style. i will not grant you with the pride of a note which will reason others to wade through. i will not inform you what is going to ease your soreness. i will not ask on your existence tale nor will I waste my time on a lost reason. yet, i'm doing so. the reason being because, truly, I also wanted to jot down a suicide note. yet then i realized no man or woman can examine it. it truly is suitable, truly, the interest one leaves after suicide, it truly is likewise sickening. The message itself is a representation of wish because many human beings are not getting to assert their very last chosen words while man or woman who willingly provides him or herself as a lot as death, claiming they are unafraid of something they have not witnessed yet. besides the undeniable fact that, it truly is sickening because those, truly, those are your very last words. they are previous once they have been examine. they are erased once the subsequent day comes. After some months, you're literally not something to them and your note has no longer stumbled on a sanctuary in a museum. Your note isn't something. and that is largely the interest. You, your self, are a diverse puzzle piece totally which could no longer be rated or opinionated only by technique of a few words you wrote above. you won't be able to be something more suitable than you're literally. yet you are able to take what you're literally and do something else. you are able to take revenge. Or, you are able to write a e book. you are able to stop being frequent totally, no man or woman cares. Scream out to the global, blame all those round you, and brutally search for for what you want. because, once you attempt to damage someone or a set of human beings that've damage you...properly, a suicide note gained't help piss them off. the very undeniable truth that you're nonetheless alive is.

2016-12-01 19:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Where to start ... Here's one of your posts under special education "Life and children? I think school should be 12 hours a day, 7 days a week, try and educate these little bastards" and your response to an overweight child "no, you fat pig, eat less" and "Too ******* many, kids are brain dead, so why the **** they trying to answer questions". Your maturity level and views towards children along with your cancer diagnosis and the name you choose to call yourself would be alot for anybody to deal with much less a child.

In answer to your question ... you need to sit your son down for a long time and get your family some professional help. He is crying out for attention. I wish you the best of luck in this situation. Peace :-)

2007-03-10 13:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 1 0

You need to talk to your child and tell him you love him and that he is not a burden to you, you also need to get him some help suicidal thinking is often a symptom of depression which should not be takin lightly i know people say its just attention grabbing but if someone is threatening to end there life theres a 50/50 chance their telling the truth. A kid in my school commited suicide and he used to say things like this people said he was just joking but some people actually believe there worthless. So just make sure he knows how important he is to you!

2007-03-10 16:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by SimpleMinds 3 · 0 0

You cannot ignore it for sure! You may need to get into family counseling because it doesn't sound like you are praising him along with chewing his butt. Kids need to have a healthy balance of praise and discipline. Letting your child know that they screwed up is normal, but you have to enforce the fact that you love them and that is why you are so concerned about them doing "right". It isn't easy being a parent, nor is it easy growing up. Good luck!

2007-03-10 13:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1 0

Sounds like there is a huge communication barrier here, so get professional help before he does it. I know from experience, my son got really upset with me too at about age 14, and threatened suicide verbally. It actually is not an uncommon issue with teens, they say it, but it needs to be looked at. WE went to couseling and got it all straightened out

2007-03-10 13:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Talk to him. If you care about him and want him to stay alive then help him. Don't give him are hard time, thats why he does naughty things. Offer him help, maybe even a family counseller would help you all understand what you need to change to make your lives easier, funner, and so much happier.

2007-03-10 12:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wow, first thing to do is lighten up on the poor kid, sounds like he is constantly put down for just being a kid. He needs to be told that he is loved, and appreciated for the good things he does. The whole family needs counseling right away.

2007-03-10 12:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 1 0

Talk to him and tell him that he is not a burden and u love him and don't care how much money u spend on him because its totally worth doing!!

-Me360-

2007-03-10 14:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Me360 2 · 0 0

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