2007-03-10 12:45:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not that my spouse did, I'm just wondering, how would YOU personally deal with it?
2007-03-10 12:49:44 · update #1
In order to get revenge, I would move on and improve my life the best I could. I would most definitely leave the loser and focus on my career or education making myself MORE sucessful. Then, earning a little more money, saving up a little cash and buying myself new clothes or even a new car. Also, eating better and looking slimmer! Going to the gym. THEN by then I'd be over the douche bag and want to find me a new man. He'd be asking himself why he ever thought about cheating on me!
(Trips to the spa and beauty salon are a must as well to make me feel better and more confident. I'd be glowing!
2007-03-10 12:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Revenge? Never! As my parents used to say to me as I was growing up, "Two wrongs don't make a right."
Divorce? Maybe.
Explanation? Certainly.
But, revenge never makes a bad situation better.
"Never" is such an extreme word, and might be barely exaggerating. I have only a vague recollection of a revenge situation that turned things around and put the two back together. Maybe it was in a movie, which means that it was a figment of the author's imagination.
Revenge? It's not a good idea. It can hurt even more people than were hurt originally.
So, if my spouse were cheating on me, I wouldn't seek revenge at all.
2007-03-10 21:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by brightpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My spouse did cheat on me, numerous times, and it hurt like hell. I thought about getting revenge, paying some bikers to beat up the boyfriend (who knew she was married), etc; then a friend asked me if I really wanted to go to jail for this woman?
And I realized that revenge was not worth it. It could only lead to more pain, and more trouble, and I found it best to let it go, and to go talk to a lawyer and a counselor and find a new apartment.
I did all three, and was angry for a long time, and it was suggested that I pray for her--which I did, it was hard at first, but it helped.
In time, I was able to see that I was not blameless either, and when I asked her to forgive me for what I did wrong she was shocked, and speachless!
After a few years, I was able to forgive her, and today we are friendly, and get along--all this is good as we have a child (now 12) and she sees two parents who love her, and do not hate each other--like many of her friend's parents do (married and divorced)--and that makes a big difference.
Today, I am very glad that I did not get revenge, but did what I needed to do in order to take care of myself and my daughter!
All the best to you, write back if you need to talk--this will be painful, like walking through a room full of broken glass barefoot, but you will get through it and life will feel good again.
2007-03-10 20:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by whyznott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is NEVER the answer.
If nothing can be repaired from this, the only thing you can do is just walk away and move on with your life. The experience from all of this can make you stronger. Revenge just stoops you below your spouses level and could also get you in huge trouble.
Take a deep breath, and forget about revenge.
2007-03-10 20:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not get revenge-I would be hurt, and have to decide if I wanted to stay with my spouse or not. But I would not get revenge. If I were to leave him because of his cheating, it would be his loss, my gain.
2007-03-10 20:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she would charge all his credit cards to mountain high - shopping Paris to Tokyo. Then, she go crash his Mustang.
No! we dont take revenge, women. Cos we be hurting ourselves even more. The right thing to do is to try to work it out. If not, dump him and move on. Easily said than done. Noone ever said life is easy.
2007-03-10 21:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste my time on revenge after obviously wasting my time in a fake marriage. I'd want to get away from him as quickly as possible. Time will have its own revenge on him.
2007-03-10 20:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I left him and never spoke to him again that would be revenge enough. He would miss me, because he will never get a better woman than me.
2007-03-10 20:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by mlock123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will revenge make you feel any better, or will it simply corrupt you by reducing you to the level of he whom you despise? I guarantee you that it is the latter. Just divorce him and move on to someone better with your integrity intact.
2007-03-10 20:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Surprise them w/a gift to a foreign country. w/u. Then steal their passport and leave them asleep in the hotel room. By the time they talk to an embassy official who believes them..you e-bay their **** and change the locks.
2007-03-10 20:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by csiders30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋