What's the best way to get out of depression?

Question

I took a million tests and they al said i was depressed. I dont want to tell my mom becauses she has enough stress with the divorce. Life has been really bad and now i have a chance to fufill my dream of being in a band but i cant belt out a song like i use to! I love singing and i know how to do it because ithey all herd me belt out "Lithium" by Evanescence. I can sing. but if i dont turn off the shyness im going to be kicked out of the band. I'm starting to heal but today its all comming back. I need help. How can i be ok again? SHould i tell the band everything thats happened to me so they can understand? I'm really confused and right now im thinking about it too much and crying my brains out. Please someone tell em how to get rid of this. (im not suicideal. I love to be alive thank you very much)

Answer 1

I have to agree with the first answer. There is your problem. Divorce. The one thing that adults don't get is that they destroy a child's world when they get divorced. Talking about your problem will definitely help as well as keeping a journal. Believe me, that works. Writing it all down without feeling bad about what you're writing. That's just to let it out. Yes, share with the band why you have acted differently and I hope they will understand. Everybody goes through tough times now and then and friends need to be there as well as parents. I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Depression is a difficult thing to overcome without help. if you really cant tell your mom (i think you should) you can try some simple stuff to elevate your mood. stay in the band it is important to have outside activities. also try and exercise a few times a week. the endorphins released are important to elevating your mood. try and surround yourself with things that do make you happy. sing at home more to break some of the shyness. try reading websites/books for tricks on alleviating shyness.

if this continues and it is affecting your quality of life you may need to speak with your doctor for more answers and possible medication. medication is a temporary way to lift your mood and help you cope and then you are weaned off of it when your mood stabilize and you have better coping mechanisms. (usually 6 months to 2 years.. not longer. meds are not a permanent thing for most ppl). depression is difficult and it can feel hopeless but it isn't. you have the right attitude to try and overcome it as you are seeking answers to it.

Answer 3

Dear Em,
I'm not going to say I know what you are going through cause I don't. I think that you should talk to someone about it . By some one I mean someone u trust I am glad to know that u r not suicideal becausce thats no way to solve a problem. don't get out of the band tell them what u r going through if they really care about u they will help u. i hope u the best and if u ever need to talk my Email adress is [e-mail]

Answer 4

Hon, tell your mom. Ask her to take you to a doctor and say just what you said in this post. You cannot pull yourself out of it if it is depression. That is a myth. Medications these days really work.
No matter what your mom is going through, I assure you she will want to know and help.
You're brave to admit the problem, since there is still unfortunately a stigma. Now, continue your bravery and ask for help. There is no need to suffer through this pain these days - in most cases, medications are effective.

Answer 5

Think about the word "Depression" sounds like compression, pushing something down, inwards, etc.

The best way to handle it is to get to the root of your sadness, what you are pushing inside, figure out what it is and let it come out. Divorce is a hard thing to go through, and it sounds to me like you are letting your mom grieve as if it is only her crisis---its yours too! Talk to the band about whats going on, friends should be there to lean on each other and help one another through tough things in life. Also, its okay to talk to your parents about what is going on too...

Answer 6

therapy, help, and meds work for me!!!!