Your feelings on the Women "hook ups" issue?

Question

I've been hearing a lot about a book written by a woman on her beliefs that while women over recent years have grown more "independent", "freedom" even "power" especially regarding hookups/ casual sex to her it has been at a price. Casual Sex or hook ups once tied to bad boys but that this new found power has cost women the ability to know the benefits & signs of a more loving & caring relationship making women either afraid of commitment because of being scared or the belief that commitment will some how take away this new independence & hold her back. She believes that while its good that women have gained this freedom she worries about what seems to be the lack to see the “signs” or benefits of a real loving relationship.

She says that it seem women still want the fairy tale relationship but accepted that it’s just a Fairytale & settled for casual sex as ok but when offered a potential real relationship they see it as negative instead of the positive. Often running from it preventing them from finding that happiness & fairytale. Do you agree? Women especially. Hope I have not offended anyone.

I see your point but am torn as to the drama I mean drama is unavoidable but yet it can often come in large amount especially when younger. I've always sort of tried to keep sex in the background not because I dont love it but because I think that's often where most of the drama comes from. I guess I can see why that might be bad but relationships are ruined because of drama & most of the drama can be avoided for the most part I think. I've just heard & seen to many women appear to run from good things even things they talk about wanting & yet can't understand why it seems so simply.

Answer 1

The lack of equality on this issue in the first place was due to socialization; men were afforded freedom to do as they wished whilst women were not. Now women can do what they want and act as they wish, just like men. This is not the problem; this is the solution. Equality is paramount. We are all human.

Answer 2

In my opinion i think she's right because sometimes there's so much drama in some of the men that we choose it's like why bother with a relationship and sometimes when your in a relationship with someone that's not as serious as you are and it ends after you've sacrificed a lot of things to spend time together and try to make it work after a while it gets old and when someone comes along that may be the right one your not trying to hear anything close to a relationship because you just enjoy the fact of not having to argue, hear lies, or being hurt again. And you can feel free to do what you want without all the hurt and mind games some relationships can put on you to keep you from functioning like you normally would it you weren't bound down with so much emotional stress. I don't get into the friends with benefits either but it's just nice sometimes to take a break from all the stress that a relationship brings sometimes and tend to hold you back from being happy and enjoying life.