Ok I'm kinda going out with this girl I don't rush or push things hard I'm just going with the flow recently she mentioned she'll cook for me.Is she into something more than cooking? She also mentioned if I have wine & stuff in my apartment ? Does this mean do my move? & she wanted to score on me or vice versa?
2007-03-10 12:29:25 · 14 answers · asked by Agent_Detergent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well of course what happens next is upto me ??? she's not gonna initiate that? my experience when getting sex is that she has to be my gf first .But I'm up for it too! so do you suggest asking her about it? Or just look her in the eye makeout & when I'm in the zone take it to the next level?
2007-03-10 12:48:19 · update #1
She wants to do something nice for you. It's a different way to spend time with you. She's basically asking you on a date at home. She's telling you that she's comfortable enough with you that she doesn't necessarily want to be out and about all the time. This way, you can spend quiet time together, just the two of you. You can talk. Going out on dates are fun, but it's a lot less hectic to have quiet time at home than to rush to run around places. It's also easier to share intimate talk at home.
There's no scoring or alterior motives. My guess is that she wants to make a nice meal for the two of you, then sit down and have a nice meal. After that, she will probably want a way to relax and talk some more. If she wants more than that, she'll let you know. Don't go rushing the relationship doing stupid moves. You'll just make her uncomfortable and ruin the evening. Offer to rent a movie or something, but watch her reply. If she seems hesitant, then don't push it. Just offer and see. Leave open the possibility that she may have something in mind but don't want to say no to your ideas. So just be nice and offer, but let her plan the date.
Ask her if she wants wine to go with dinner or if she's needing it for the recipe. Ask her what she's planning and what ingredients she might need. Offer to shop ahead of time. No offense, but more often than not, a guy doesn't have very well stocked spice cabinet. Go find some nice flowers. Remeber it is still a date of a different kind. It's just less formal and it's at home. So flowers for her or to make the dining table look nice will be appreciated. Go buy dessert so you can have dessert after the meal. Help around the kitchen when she's doing her stuff, but don't get in her way. Ask her what she needs done. If you can't dice an onion or mince garlic, now is the time to learn it.
Compliment her and on the meal and tell her how appreciative you are! Have fun :)
2007-03-10 12:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really seem to care about the girl in question. I think you should pick up the right time to talk to her and explain to her what you made clear in your message. The girl you are dating seems not like a lazy couch potato type judging from your message but rather a caring & outgoing kind of girl (cooking for both of you) and at the end if she equally cares about you she will take care of your what you (dis)like. If she doesn't take notice, then it's up to you really what to do next. Besides, you might also consider an option of hiring a cleaning lady to help you out with tidying up. Thus, you will both have more quality time together and less 'cleaning' troubles. PS For what it's worth, a guy who is tidy & neat is not easy to come by, so please keep this laudable quality of yours (more or less) unchanged. It is definitely an asset!
2016-03-28 23:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So much angst and anxiety. Just let her cook and enjoy the evening. Whatever happens, happens. This is a great time to get to know each other better. This may be the maker or breaker evening. Just relax and let things happen on their own.
Just be sure there is no mouse poop in the silverware drawer. You may want to clean the kitchen first. A bachelor's kitchen is no treat.
2007-03-10 12:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by gwhatch2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is kind of hard to answer. Maybe she just likes to cook, and wants to treat you. But perhaps she has the hots for you and just wants to well get more intimate. You kind of just have to take things how you think that they are being presented to you. Judge by her attitude and the tone she asked you this in.
Let her come over and if things go in one way or another just let her know what your thoughts are.
2007-03-10 12:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by mustang_jenn2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl i gotta say... it is likely she is trying to take the next step. but she probably thinks it is ok to take that next step.
let her come over make the dinner and relax. enjoy the wine the food and the company. if it progresses that way then tell her your not ready etc. be polite but honest. nothing ventured nothing gained.
2007-03-10 12:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by pink orchid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're overthinking it! I've volunteered to cook at my BF's apartment before. He's more relaxed and well he has to help me cause I don't know where everything is, then there's the fact that he doesn't have to deal with my roommate.
2007-03-10 12:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by Shawna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just enjoy the night and have a nice dinner with her. If she wants something more, great!, but if she doesn't, don't sweat it. Just go with the flow, and let her decide what to do.
2007-03-10 12:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is wanting to impress you and you should let her. It is dinner, not a marriage proposal. Just let the evening go where it will and quit thinking so much about it.
2007-03-10 12:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cooks Italian Sausage, watch out.
2007-03-10 12:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her cook for you.... ask her what kind of wine she likes, and go buy it..... if someone offers to make a meal for you, let them.... you will find out if she is a good cook, and maybe good at other things too......accept her offer
2007-03-10 12:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋