Can i have some help?

Question

do guys get like "turned off" by a girl that likes to play video games and would rather go go-karting for a date than go to a nice dinner? I understand this is a weird question but it seems all the guys that i like get weirded out or something when they find out im not a "girly girl" for instance my favorite love song is suffocating under words of sorrow by bullet for my valentine. (the title is weird lol but if you have heard it then you probably know why i like it) My friends tell me that i shouldnt tell guys that stuff and like be different but i dont think that is right

Answer 1

For me, I wish every girl was like you, but on a more general scale... It depends on the guy, some guys like it and other don't. So really, for this topic, there's no straight answer. But don't listen to your friend, tell who you like, if he likes you for it, good, but if he doesn't, that's absolutely not your fault at all.

BE YOURSELF!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I agree it isn't right. Be yourself and you will find the right person soon enough. I play video games with my husband all the time I played with him even before we were married. Of course this is weird, but hey it's fun and I don't care what anyone thinks. I'm not much of a girly girl either being the only daughter in my family and having only brothers I became more into what guys like. I wasn't looking for a relationship until I knew my husband liked me and was sure of it. Were happily married and I know you will find the right person for you. Good luck.

Answer 3

You have a great and fun personality. Don't comprimise it. Be yourself.
They just don't realize how much fun they're missing out on.

You just haven't found the right guy for you yet. You would be miserable and bored with a simple dinner date. Even I find that boring.

Stay the way you are. You'll find someone. There are litteraly TONS of guys that would give ANYTHING to find a girl like you. One that loves to have fun and do things guys like to do.

Hang in there! Just wait. You'll end up soon with about a half a dozen guys!

Answer 4

Okay, I can speak very very very much from experience, I assure you. First, don't ever listen when someone says to be different than who you are. I don't mean to not take suggestions for things that might make you more open and available, I mean things like "stop playing video games and start watching the OC". The biggest turn off to guys is a girl who lies about who she is- he will always find out eventually, they aren't stupid (usually).

Now, there are the few guys who refuse to even consider a girl who enjoys usually-male things as a female (I have met several). But, those are the boys/men who aren't worth it. They are the ones whom everyone stares at and wants, but whom everyone knows that deep down, they are scum bags and would make horrible boyfriends, even if their cheerleader girlfriends seem happy.

The ones worth it are always the in-betweens. Smart but not too nerdy. Athletic but not always the captain. You know the type. The ones that make you laugh. The ones you can hang out with. And THOSE guys (usually) think its really awesome when a girl can do things that most girls can't. I can't play video games, but I own a XBox360 and gave one of my guy friends the controller for a day. They talked about how great I was for a week. It was insane. Now think about what would have happened if I had played. Or beat one of them. I'd be a goddess to them.

The only problem with ever having the not-so-girly qualities is that there are always the times when a girl wants a boy to look at her as a female, not as 'one of the guys'. Aka: You don't want to be laughed at when you ask a guy friend out to prom because they forgot you were the opposite gender. (Oh yes, it happened).

Good news is: very easy ways to fix that. Don't ALWAYS beat them. Don't ALWAYS wear loose clothing. Find a skirt once every blue moon and wear it. Or if you really hate skirts, then don't wear jeans that sag down (not saying you do, but just in case) ALL the time. Don't ALWAYS act like you don't care what you look like. Guys hate it when girls wear too much makeup, but putting on a little lipgloss and straightening your hair can actually do a lot.

Key thing is to be yourself, just always keep in mind how they are viewing you. Example: under no circumstances should you ever join in on a burping contest.

The way I've dealt with it over the years (seeing as I own one skirt that hasn't fit me in two years) - at school/work at however I want. The majority of the people there I don't care about. But when I'm doing something during the weekend, I smile. I keep eye contact. I laugh at lame jokes that none of the guys laugh at because they are 'too cool'. I offer to carry something. I put my hair down. I'm telling you, small things are what counts. Not watching the OC (which any of my guy friends will say in a heartbeat is NOT a turn on).

Answer 5

well not all guys u just have to find the type that likes that stuff too and can relate to u like that or u can just work around it and go out to a nice dinner maybe a movie and then after play video games i know im nit much help but my main suggestion is that u find some1 that likes the same thing as u

Answer 6

As a girl who would rather watch baseball, or play video games than watch some sappy love movie.. i can honestly tell you that guys are turned on by all different types of girls. You jsut have to find some one who respects who you are and what you like. Don't change and don't try to hide who you are.

Answer 7

I wouldn't be turned off, but then again each of us is different and that is the real answer to your question.

The act of dating and meeting people is done to let you find yourself someone who gets you and likes you for what you are. Don't modify yourself to fit someone else's mold.

Don't get discouraged. It may not happen this week, this month, etc, etc, but as long as your are true to yourself, you will find someone who likes you for you.

Answer 8

just try and find a guy that likes to do the same thing as you and im sure you will have much fun together

Answer 9

I think you're just being yourself, and that's great. Don't change yourself for guys who don't like you because of their expectations on what you "should" be. Those people aren't worth your time.

To be yourself is all that you can do--- try that song :-) (Audioslave).

Answer 10

of course you can have help! :D
no they wont. guys will think youre brave being true to yourself, dont be afraid to show how you really are, if they dont like it then stuff them! you will have more fun with them being yourself, just tell them!