i feeel so ugly around my classmates.?

Question

i'm not the best looking i'm just average but sometimes i feel so ugly when i'm standing next to one of my classmates who have a beautiful body with all teh curves and pretty eyes and everything and me. i'm pretty short, and pretty small and my face just looks plain out flat and my eyes don't have an amazing color they're jut brown.
when i;m alone i feel fine, i don't beat my self over it. it just makes me feel veryy belittled.
is that normal?

I'm not that bad... i do wear makeup and i dress how i want. It's just when people look at them they take them seriously and get more attention.

Answer 1

susan... we all feel insecure at some points in our lives
it's part of being human....
but...you have to love yourself....
because you are beautiful already.
don't think of yourself as short..think of yourself as petite.
brown eyes are gorgeous...
play with make-up to enhance them!
don't be so hard on youself..
don't compare yourself to anyone else...
just be you!

Answer 2

Actually, it is fairly normal that school age girls either feel pretty or ugly. Seems this will never changed. It has been the case since the beginning of modern civilization. I'm sure it was around from the very beginning of time. The old testament has a number of "jealous" girls and women.

I wouldn't worry about it. You have a couple of choices. Change your look, hair style, make up. Change your clothes - anyone very small can look good in almost anything, but if you are short, ware shoes with thick soles and heals. It makes you appear taller. Shoes should be minimal in style, but with a pointed toe. Makes your legs look longer so you seem taller.

Now, if you don't want to be miserable all the time, warring uncomfortable clothes and shoes and covered in cosmetics; you can remain yourself and let time heal your ego problem.

Answer 3

Your problem is with your self-esteem, not your looks! Try this, when you feel ugly, say to yourself, I'm beautiful! Keep doing this until you believe it. In the morning look into a mirror and say it 5 times - with feeling. Find your good points, and remind yourself of them every day. Every time when you feel ugly, replace this with, I have beautiful brown eyes, pretty hair and so on.This will take time, and work. Don't give up.

Answer 4

Yeah, I think it's normal, but hopefully you can learn to give yourself a break. I did the same thing when I was younger, and still do at times even though it's a bit different with me..an older guy...lol

As far as your looks go, while you may not feel that great looking, you might be surprised as who finds you attractive. Just hang around and see what happens. Plus this sounds stupid, but if you are a sweet person, that will also shine thru.

Answer 5

I've said this to about 4-5 other girls lately...be the best you that you can be. Looks fade and are superficial. If you're that concerned w/the way you look wear some make-up and get colored contacts.Dye your hair. Just be yourself and you'll be better for it I promise! G.
P.S. Anyway who's to say when those type stand next to you they're not thinking something similar about you.Wishing they were more like you! Huh?

Answer 6

It's ok to feel belittled sometimes with friends that u think look more attractive than u, but don't beat urself over it.... just try to boost ur confidence by telling urself ur beautiful, cuz everybody is in their own way, (not being corny or anything, but everybody is... some people have beautiful eyes or gorgeous lips, and a nice nose) try using some make-up, and changing ur hairstyle every so often... and mayb going shopping with ur friends, and get some clothes like they wear (not exactly the same, but that kind of style)
what u should do, is use Lash Exact mascara from cover girl, and maybe some black eye liner to bring out ur eyes, and some shiny-licious lip gloss from Maybelline New York in a color that works with u... it'll make ur lips look juicy, and plump...also try some eye shadow sometimes that matches with ur outfit to bring out the brown in ur eyes even more...
belts and cute shoes/boots look great with coordinated outfits too... try uggs, or boots with (fake) fur and heels....
and don't forget body mist...=) go to bath and body works and get a sweet, feminine body spray.... try a flower type or a tropical fruit one too!!!!!

Answer 7

it is completley normal and sometimes i feel the same way there is always going to be someone who you feel is prettier but as long as you are happy with who you are inside that is what is important right now it doesn't feel that way but in the real world it works you will find somebody who adores you and just tell yourself in the mirror that you are pretty because nobody else can take away how you feel about yourself and don't compare yourself to others because that will make you feel bad look for your strengths instead of your weaknesses

Answer 8

Yes it unfortunately is normal, not very healthy, but normal. I feel the same way some times, but then i remember that all they have are their looks, but i am going to go to a renowned college, get a high paying job and live my life to the fullest. And they are still just going to have their looks, and marry rich if their lucky. Focus on your dreams, not how you look compared to other people. If you don't care they won't.

Answer 9

Try ultra hard to make the things that you can change (e.g.: hair, make-up, clothes, accessories) about yourself look super pretty if you don't feel it now. I'm sure you're not that bad at all! The Lord made just as many good qualities about your body as He did bad qualities.

Answer 10

Yes it's normal. Women are always comparing themselves with other women and even the prettiest girls always find something wrong with their looks. Make yourself look as good as possible(make-up,diet,exercise) and then stop comparing. Work on your personality instead. Everyone loves a warm,caring, friendly person. Looks aren't everything.
Cleopatra was ugly and look how successful she was!

Answer 11

You are NOT ugly! You are a beautiful and unique person- I can tell that you have a great heart and I bet your friends feel the same way when they stand next to you!!!!