I have a special guy friend who used to like him a bit but never really said anything, 'cause we're friends. One time he got an inkling that I liked him and he got very upset, because in his head, a "relationship" is something very scary and is nothing but being "physical". I explained to him that we were just friends, and even joke occasionally, saying "no, James, I won't have your babies." Now I've pretty much gone past liking him and do now LOVE my friend. He's been so sweet to me and he really DOES know how to say the right things to me, even if he doesn't know much about girls. I also gave him the tiniest of kisses a couple weeks back, and I can't stop thinking about it. It was just on the chin -he's tall and didn't see it coming but I've been doing nothing but thinking of how good he tastes ;) What am I supposed to do?! He doesn't understand that I love him for his company and the little things. He thinks I want to jump his bones, and he is NOT like that. HELP!
2007-03-10 11:49:34 · 15 answers · asked by MaggieMaeBrowne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not gay. He's just very shy and religious.
2007-03-10 11:54:32 · update #1
You didn't say how he reacted to your chin kisses, so I'm guessing he didn't mind them. I would keep it light for now. Don't do anything aggressive, since he's so afraid of a relationship. You're just going to have to let this guy work it out on his own, honey. If you push too hard, he's going to run from you and you'll lose a really great friend. Be patient. I think in time he will see that you don't just want a physical relationship and this will work out okay for both of you.
Good luck! I wish you well!
2007-03-10 12:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by ptcruisinflutterby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps you need to just ask the kid out! Let him know you like him and it's because of the little things he does and says. Tell him you want to take it slow (because it seems to me that you do) and that you'd love to be a little more than friends. Make sure you let him know that it's because of those things he does, says etc. That'll get him.
And if he doesn't want anything else, maybe you can just put this behind you and keep working on the friendship. He sounds like an awesome friend!
2007-03-10 19:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lyssepoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that and if he does like you in a romantic way, take it slow and let him decide his comfort level of how physical your relationship should be so that he doesn't get freaked out like you said he might. He might actually believe that a relationship is more than being physical with each other if he gives it a chance.
2007-03-10 19:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW thats sweet with the kissses thing...
Ok, why dont you take him out for dinner and a romantic evening...Then you can tell him how you feel..You may want to have some wine for his nerves...I would just tell him you like him for now he might get scared if you say LOVE him...explain to him just how you feel...You did pretty well explaining it here...
P.S. I think its great there are still men that arent looking to sleep around!
Good Luck~
2007-03-10 19:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by **Mishelly** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to have a talk with him. Sit him down while your alone and ask him if he would like a relationship. Tell him that you just want to be with him and not in that way ( what he knows won't hurt him) and that you just want to spend time with him. See what he says. Good luck!!
2007-03-10 19:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change his mind just like that. It will take a while. Maybe sort of hint about the little things that you really like. Like...maybe the way he does something that most people wouldn't normally notice or comment on. Get him to understnad that those little things really matter to you...try it and see what happens.
2007-03-10 20:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres a way you can give signals to a guy that you might want to take the relationship further in a proper way,but never force anything on someone who you feel is not treating you the way you want to take it,it will just make things worst! you have your hole life and people in it to fall in love!!!!
2007-03-10 19:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by Miruule f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you clearly have a thing for this guy. (You like how good he tastes... hmmm. Sounds like you're ready to move beyond friendship...)
Honesrlt tell him how you feel if you've known eachother for so long and so well. If you two truly trust and respect eachother, than he'll know what you're feeling is love.
However, if when you tell him he still thinks you're just interested in sex, than forget about him and move on. (In that case, he's more in love with Jesus than you.)
2007-03-10 19:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys aren't hard to figure out.
He does want you to jump his bones, unless he is gay.
He just isn't sure that you really want to.
If he is religious, he still wants you to, but someone has filled his head with nonsense about sex (I'm picturing Elias from Clerks II).
2007-03-10 19:52:53 · answer #9 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in trouble. I think the best thing to do is just be honest. Tell him how you feel but be ready for things to be awkard if it doesn't turn out well. Are you ready for that?
2007-03-10 19:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋