Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly a year now but we have been arguing for the past few months mainly about other girls that have popped up into his life. hes always been wierd about his phone but ive learnt to accept that. But suspicious things keep happening and he sends poems to other girls saying how great they are. i dont know what to do, everything suggests he is cheating on me but i love him so much i could never break up with him. ive tried to speak to him but he denies everything and says he loves me. are these girls just close friends he has never told me about or are they other girls he is seeing?
2007-03-10 11:26:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women accusing men of cheating are usually for one of two reasons: Female paranoia. -or- Projecting their own thoughts of straying on to him.
In your case, it sounds like a goodly dose of paranoia.
Guys don't need to tell their girlfirned about other their close friends, because we know it usually makes you all go psycho.
I'm sure you have male friends, yet your boyfriend doesn't accuse you of cheating or want to go through your phone.
It is kind of sad that you've been with him a year and haven't been able to give up your mistrust and suspicion.
2007-03-10 11:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you asked him to not send the girls poems? Do you know these girls?
You may want to say to him that it hurts you to see him send poetry to other girls and then ask him to stop. If he doesn't or he gets angry, he is not taking your feelings into consideration.
I would say if you get a negative reaction from him, he is probably at least flirting with another girl. If you want monogamy, sometimes you have to break up with someone you love. It is either breakup or deal with the fact that he is with another girl.
People who are cheating usually lie about it to their girlfriend.
2007-03-10 11:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of him! Kick him to the curb! But before you do you need good friends to spy on him a bit. Don't get caught though. You really love him and you don't want to let him go. But you don't need this type of worriment. He shouldn't be the only thing in your life. Get some friends to help you out though. Friends are always good to have around in these types of problems.
PS: look for a new guy u may lyke, just in case!
2007-03-10 11:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Hunnie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing Good about this is that he is your boyfriend.The second thing you have only been together for one year if this guy is already being sective in the best years of a relationship the firt three the hell with his poem writting *** . write him a poem about how he will be alone with his pen and paper and good bye.
2007-03-10 12:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by lady bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the same time as he by surprise has activities that he by no potential had to do before...at the same time as he avoids your calls, or isn't there to take them, if his attitude in the route of you is replacing, if he tells you he "merely desires some ME time" in case you stay at the same time a number of those are signs and indications too... a million. decrease want to be with you sexually. 2. by surprise tries new sexual positions. 3. operating late extra many times. 4. Mysterious telephone calls. 5. receives indignant once you seem on the cellular telephone, pager, or computing gadget. Is secretive of such. 6. scent of fragrance on their outfits. 7. Takes a bath once he comes homestead. 8. you discover hairs or different gadgets on his body or in his possessions. 9. starts off taking extra care consisting of his visual appeal. 10. Accuses you of dishonest. 11. he transformations his favourite habitual with out reason or reason.
2016-10-17 11:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by stever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your instincts are telling you there is something wrong you should listen to them. If he isn't being totally honest and open your relationship isn't worth a damn anyway. Give him an ultimatum, either he chooses you or these other girls. If he chooses you, make sure he changes his phone number and works to re-earn your trust. There are plenty of guys out there that will treat you better.
2007-03-10 11:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him that much and allow him to use you, there is not much anyone can say that will get you away from this jerk. But if you are really smart, you'll break away from him for good. Don't talk to him, don't see him again.
2007-03-10 11:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
two choices:
-- trust him and stop talking about that issue and make him feel hapy wen hes with you
-- dump him
if you are suspicious you'll drive him to another girl soon enough
2007-03-10 11:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hay hes just trying to cover it up so u dont leave him! u gotta move on meet new people there is WAY better people put there in the world for u! WAY BETTER
2007-03-10 11:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am in the same situation GO BY YOUR FIRST INSTINCT!!!
2007-03-10 11:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Bee 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋