I need serious medical help. As fast as possible please!?

Question

Hi helpers! This is kinda worrying me to the point of panic attacks. My girlfriend was raped 6 years ago, and again 2 years ago.

During sexual intercourse, she has a pain like period pains, in the same place as period pains. I really really really want to know what this could be, as we are both extremely worried.

Any professional help would be so appreciated. With all due respect, if you are not sure about this, please don't leave an answer. I don't want to have to worry about things that may not be the case.

Thank you so much in advance, everyone!

Answer 1

Please take her to a gynocologist. If it's hurting her, don't have intercourse until this is resolved.

Answer 2

Actually, contrary to what some other person said, there IS a connection between rape and painful intercourse. Firstly, yes internal damage can result (obviously this woman has never been sexually assaulted or known anyone who has and must think rape is just like regular sex), a friend of mine who was viciously raped and left for dead could barely carry her child for the full nine months (10 years later!) because of the internal damage done during the attack--and the doctor confirmed that the assault was the reason!

See, rape is painful and can cause injury because the women is not aroused or lubricated and her vagina hasn't elongated in preparation for sex, because of this the cervix can be damaged (as in the case of my friend), or the vaginal lining can be torn. So you may want to get her to a doctor to see if there was any lasting damage from the rape.

If there is no serious internal damage done, there is almost certainly mental and emotional damage and this can definately make sex painful. She may be subconsciously trying to protect her body by tensing up, thus not relaxing vaginal muscles that should be relaxed during consentual sex, and that can cause pain.

Take her to a doctor to make sure there was no lasting inury from the assault, if there is none, try to be as supportive and romantic as possible, she can take a bit of white wine which relaxes muscles (not too much of course), and even try techniques (foreplay) to get her "warmed up", and avoid deep thrusting until she tells you to do so.

Be good to her.

Answer 3

See, the thing is, it doesn't help to worry to the point of panic attacks. If you feel it's something so serious that it worries you terribly, have it checked out by a professional. No one here can tell you what's wrong. All we can do is speculate, and may very well be wrong.

You can't get professional help here. I'm a nurse, but I would be acting outside my legal bounds to diagnose her, especially online!! If your girlfriend is old enough to have sex, she should be seeing a gynecologist. She doesn't have to tell her mom or anyone why she wants to see one. In fact, her family doctor can also examine her to make sure everything is ok. Or she can tell her mom she's been having abdominal pains that feel like period cramping and wants to see a doctor. And if she's no longer a minor, she needs to take responsibility for her health and make a gyn appointment.

She needs to be checked by a doctor. Until then, it won't help to worry. If she's having pain during sex, don't have sex until she is checked out. Good luck.

Answer 4

I wonder was she properly medically checked each time? Is there possibly any damage still outstanding. Sometimes sex is uncomfortable if there is an ongoing problem, like fibriods or enometriosis. She may want to eliminate the (very low) risk of ovarian cancer, in which case she needs to consult her GP for an ultrasound. Sex should be pleasurable.

Answer 5

I don't see the connection between rape and sexual intercourse pains. Sometimes sex can be painful especially if a woman has cysts or scar tissue known as endometriosis. She should go to a gynocologist, though endometriosis cannot be 100% diagnosed without laprascopy. A gyno will help you both out

Answer 6

I so wish I could help you technically, but I am adding my comment here to tell you both that you have tons of positive energy from me from way over here in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. to help you keep calm and centered and to approach this with maturity and grace and strong self confidence in getting it resolved by someone who is trained to properly provide. It is easy to understand why this would be upsetting to you, so I am affirming here and now for your calming presence of minds and in knowing what to do toward healing this issue completely. I will continue to pray for your wellness for the next sixty days. Please believe that there is a positive guiding force in the world and that it will help you find the proper answer to every single bit of what is so upsetting to you both just now. Sent with much love and empathic understanding of how truly involving this whole thing can be. You have my complete Spiritual support on this one. Sent with love from Chris in Maine. (Saturday night at 8:02 P.M. USA time)

Answer 7

i have suffered the same problems 28 years ago and 4 years ago the main problem is stress and as you say panic you both need to relax and take this very very slowly good luck and god bless you both you are a good man for raising the issue 5 stars from me mate xx

Answer 8

Does this pain happen everytime you have sex? I highly doubt any connection to the rape with this. I sometimes have pain like that when I have sex but not all the time. I really don't think its anything to be highly concerned about, if it is really bothering her she should see a doctor.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear about your girlfriends unfortunate experiences.She needs to see her GP to arrange for an internal examination to rule out an damage that may have been done.Tell her not to be too alarmed about these examinations,they are not as bad as they sound .

Answer 10

i have had the same problem in the past and it tends to be from the guy thrusting too deep and it feels like the pain is in my ovaries and in my womb.

it hasn't caused me any harm and i'm ok now but if you are worried then check it out with the doctor or gum clinic.

Answer 11

Could just be fibroids - they can make sex painful - they are more of a nuisance than a health hazard. However, based on her past, perhaps the symptoms could be psychological?