2007-03-10 11:15:22 · 18 answers · asked by Eric Inri 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You reap what you sow. If you had crappy parents, then you don't owe them anything. If you had decent parents, then return the favor. When they need you, be there to lean on.
2007-03-10 11:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I teach 5 year olds in Sunday School and have to teach them the commandment to "honor thy father and thy mother" and yet I know that some are being abused by parents and on and on. So I have been talking around church, and the Chrisitian perspective is this: Do what your parents tell you to do when you are little IF JESUS WOULD AGREE TO IT. Now, as far as grown kids. Each situation is so different. But generally speaking, if you are grown, but don't have kids of your own, you probably don' t have a clue what it is like to just raise, clothe, feed etc a baby/toddler/child. Maybe you didn't get all the emotional support you needed etc. but if your parents weren't actually abusive, then you can really be thankful that they fed you etc. Now, if you have personality conflicts with them, like I do with my grown daughter, then at least try to calmly explain to them why you don't want to be around them, or what they could do so you would come around etc. I think parents who are decent parents at least deserve an explanation of how you feel the way you do and why. If at all, if they want to have a relationship with you, do it via a counselor or pastor or ????? My kids and I have gone thru ugly stuff emotionally, but are working on it and getting somewhere. We actually love each other a lot, but have very different personalities.
2007-03-10 20:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing you "owe" them is respect.
Parents give up so much in time, energy, money, and personally ambitions to bring a child into the world and to raise them. BUT, children don't ask to be born. Let's be honest--the gift of life is a double-edged sword.
I like the statement Sidney Poitier makes about this in "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner." I can't remember it exactly, but it goes along the lines that everything parents give up, they owe to their children.
All the other things--love, friendship, care as parents get older--should follow naturally if the parents have done the best they could to raise their children. But, I don't think you give your parents all of this out of obligation but out of gratitude, which is a very different thing.
2007-03-10 22:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can write it out in many different words but I think respect and understanding about covers it.
Love , hopefully is a given with regards to ones parents and is not something owed to them.
2007-03-10 19:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and Respect is # 1...both of my parents are now deceased, but I Respected them both for the way they raised me & my sisters. My dad worked, while my mom stayed home & took care of us. It was mom that kissed the the bobos, it was mom that made the chicken noodle soup & babied us when we were sick. I loved her for that!! She did so much for us, so when she was dying with Cancer..we all played a part in making sure she was comfortable. Dad worked made sure we had a roof over our head, food on the table, and clothes on our back....I respected him for that & also loved him for it. Both of my parents did so many things that I loved and respected them for. I took care of my dad when he was dying, things I never thought I would do......but he's my dad I was glad to help him....he helped me growing up, I felt I owed it to him......besides that's what love is all about. My parents are the reason I'm the kind of mom I am today, and I'll always be grateful for that.
2007-03-10 19:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by southern_hockeyfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just about everything. Their parents are the ones who gave them life, fed and clothed them, gave them a home, etc. Parents do everything for their kids, so these children owe everything to their parents.
2007-03-10 19:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have some responsibilities when they are old or die like arranging the funeral or disposing of the stuff in their house.
you should help in arranging the nursing home if they are unable.
that's what i think you owe even really bad parents.
you probalby owe them a relationship with grandchildren unless they are druggies or molesters.
good parents you will feel inside what you owe as you grow.
2007-03-10 19:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not owe my parents nothing but a Thank them for bringing me to the world, actually God brought me too this world. My mother thinks that I have too give her money because she took care of me when I was a little girl.. WHAT!!! that is ridiculous, she was suppose to take care of me and she is not going to get nothing from me.
2007-03-10 19:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We owe our parents our life. Thanx 2 them we exist.
2007-03-10 19:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Acknowledgement if/when the child becomes successful. A house if the child earns or wins a lot of money. And of course respect.
2007-03-10 20:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋