GUY TOUBLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! can someone be nice enough to help me?

Question

ok, there's this really cute guy that i obviously like. the problem is that i don't think he likes me.;(i established the talking to him part. or at least kind of. i called his house to see if he was there, but his dad or someone said he was gone. he said he'd tell him to call me and now i'm a nervous wreck cuz my parents don't know i like someone! especially my dad and i'm afraid he'll call me and my dad will pick up. i'm scared half to death that my dad will think i'm messing around with boys. i'm about to cry now cuz he doesn't understand. i think i have a strategy to get ian (the guy i like) to talk to me though, but i'm not sure it'll work cuz my legs get weak and my heart starts pounding. i know he's just another person but it's different when u like that person! anyways. just plz give me some advice. i'm scared/sad/i guess worried. but if you have any good advice to this plz let me know! i'm 13 and having problems.;(

another problem is that i'm homeschooled and we don't have anything to talk about like school or something. so now i'm lost.;( ♥);

Answer 1

Hello~
Boy alot to figure out here!
First-Try not to get so upset!
So let's try to address your family situation first. You didn't give too many details of how your family is set up.
Are you an only child? Do you have older brothers or sisters that you are basing your fathers reactions on?
I think you should sit down with your Dad and Mom(?) and ask them about it.
Maybe they will be more understanding than you realize.
I think if you talk to them and tell them that you want to start dating or that you have met a boy that you like they might be more favorably reactive to the fact that you are willing to find out and ask them how they feel about it.
However they react---talking with them honestly about stuff will be far better than to try to do this behind their backs.
As scary as talking to them might seem now I think they have always known that at some point you would become interested in boys.
Really being honest with them will be best.

You might be pleasantly surprised!

Now to address this issue with this boy you like.
I am pretty sure he probably already knows you like him.
You need to remember that girls your age usually are more easily prone to wanting to date than boys are. Not always but usually.
Although you didn't say how old this boy is.

I would suggest you just try being his friend first for awhile.
Maybe through this friendship you can better decide if this is someone you really want to further a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with.
Because sometimes someone who excites us externally or by what they look like isn't necessarily someone we might like on the inside.
Being friends first is really the best way to figure this out.
Please believe me. It can save you alot of heartache in the future.
I hope I have helped you out some.
Good luck dear.
Remember you are young yet and you have so much ahead of you. Talking honestly with people --including your folks is always a good idea and best way to deal with your life.

Answer 2

First of all, CALM DOWN!!! Try staying close to the phone and answer it if it rings. Try not to allow anyone else to answer. Or you can take the phone off the hook which will not allow any calls to get through. Then later on, call his house again. 13. That's about the age i discovered boys. Well, you should first try talking to your mom. She may be a little more understanding to your interest in this boy. Then maybe she will talk to your father about it. It's not like you are doing anything with the boy. You just like him. Most fathers tend to overreact when their daughters start talking to boys because they fear the worst. They think that they will get pregnant, or catch an STD.It's really not that serious. If the phone does ring and he does pick up the phone, don't panick. You will make it seem as if something is going on that way and like you have something to hide. Just act normal. Take the phone when he calls you and talk to him for a little while. Then when you are off the phone, if your father should ask who that was on the phone, simply say a friend from school. Answer all his questions in a calm fashion. Don't tell him that you like the boy. Things should be fine. Your at that age. He should understand.

Answer 3

Umm, no worries... If he calls just tell your dad, that you have a question about home work from class so you call ian. But if anything please, don't fall in love yet take it easy... Just relax and be yourself when you talk to the guy, love is suppose to be fun with joy.... Next time when your heart pounds just take it easy and take a breath or two, okay? But if anything don't worry your dad understands, he been in love or like some girl back in his days... You are 13 you can't help but starting to fall for guys, he knows that tooo... But the best thing is to be honest to your dad some times, I hope he'll be undestanding... Also if anything your dad is trying to protect his little daughter from guys who doesn't take girls seriously too, the just don't want you to have a broken heart and be all saddd because of boys.... Okay? Good Luck...

Answer 4

All you can do right now is try to relax. He may call, he may not. And you won't know what your Dad will do until the guy does call. You can try to get the phone first, or you can just let your Dad answer to see what he can do. It's been awhile since I was 13, but I can remember what that feels like. I know it's hard, but you'll survive. You were pretty brave to call his house, that's a good thing, so hopefully it works out well for you. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Any guy who notice's a girl who tries to talk to him ultimately makes him feel good, since u called him it will definitly give him the feeling you like him and a boost in confidence in return because he know's you have feeling for him he then feelsa the need to get to know you more. As for your dad if your too scared that your dad will be mean or something like that to Ian if your dad is not up tight about that stuff simply tell him that your expecting a call froim someone you like, if this wont work, try telling him something like you and this boy are working on a school project and you need to talk, or even say that he's someone else's boyfreind of one of your freinds and that your helping him to try and do something nice for one of your freinds and that he needs your advice or something like that. Trust me i was the same exact way when i was your age, im 16 now and in highschool, if i get a girl's number im calling them that night, or soon as possible, i went from a really realy shy kid to almost too confident, if you really like this guy,your heart and mind will put you on the right path and you wont be afraid to go for it. I know you'll get him! Good Luck!!

Answer 6

yeah dw i am in your situation, too! It's all going to end up OK, though! See, a boy is certainly not the end of the world, esspecially when you are 13. lol. So anyway, for the advice, don't worry if your dad picks up the phone, tell him it is your friend...just pals! It isn't a lie either, because that is what you might turn out to be.Just totally relax when you see him (i know it is hard) and feel good around him. If you are too nervous around him, it probs won't work out! So, just be girly, but, act like he is another friend. he should like that. Don't worry, again, if your dad picks up the phone! Relax! ♥ good luck~

Answer 7

Woah, Nelly. Do not try to move so fast. My advice to you is just talk to him at school. If he calls you back, just talk to him. If he doesn't, he is not interested in you or he is not interested in getting involved with girls. So, if he doesn't call you back, leave him alone.

As others will tell you, you are too young to have a boyfriend right now. These young relationships are always bad. It is better to wait a couple years. There is nothing wrong with having boys that are friends at 13. This way you will feel more comfortable around boys when you are at an appropriate dating age.

Definitely do not call boys if you think your parents wouldn't allow it.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

Well if your Dad answers the phone just tell him you called the guy to ask him questions about a class in school and they told you he was the smartest in class. also just don't about ti and just talk with him. What will happen if you can't get over your shyness and some other girl gets to him first what will you do. Just go up to him and start talking to him and if you legs feel weak just sit down and keep talking and find out more about him and talk about how he makes you feel.

Answer 9

Well, I hate to say it, but i'm having the same problem with this boy that I really like...and he goes to my church, so I see him a lot! My friend says that I should just act myself around him, and everything will work out, but I don't think it does when I'm talking to him. I'm so afraid that I'm going to do something stupid in front of him, that I don't really get to talk to him, and I kind of do that little giggle thing when I'm nervous. And I feel like I'm about to pass out, and when I'm around him, and actually talking to him, all those thoughts go away, and I LOVE talking to him. You might feel like a nervous reck around him, but when you see all the fuuny yet stupid things that he does in front of you to impress you, you will forget and just laugh and have a good time with him....so the next time you see him, ask to hang out somewhere and you guys can have a real nice conversation, and you might even learn something about him. WOW! After typing all this stuff about your problem, I have realized that that's what I need to do with the boy that I really like too! Well, I wish you the best of luck with Ian, and I hope that everything works out!!

Answer 10

okay, your dad is gonna freak no matter what...he's your dad, that's basically his part wen it comes to guys. once he realizes he cant stop you, he won't like it, but he'll lighten up!! this ian guy, boys out age (13) [[im assuming he's 13 also]] they dont know what they want from girls at this point, this is the point where they change for better or worse. some of them figure out that they dont want a girl that they can have anytime, they want a girl that they have 2 work for, but in turn, she has 2 work for them equally, but some guys figure out, that they dont like being tied down to just one girl!! ian should be flattered that any girl is going to such great lenghts to get his attention, but you will never kno for a fact if he like you, untill you ask him yourself!! you dont have 2 be so direct about it, just make sure his respose comes staight back to you, it shudn't go thru anyone else's!!! ♥GOOD LUCK♥