How do i give my sister more self esteem?

Answer 1

From a female here, to a male, you must realize that we girls love flattery. To truly build self-esteem however, your sister needs constructive criticism and needs to do things which will strengthen her independence. There is no quicker way for a girl to build her confidence and glide into womanhood, than to find she does not have to be dependent on others; particularly men.

I'm not a feminist by any far stretch.. just another girl who has been supporting her own and paving her own path since age 17. It's been a difficult journey to come into my own skin and learn I have a voice. It was not until I ignored my fears and confronted my adult responsibilities, that I was able to revel in my independence and gain self-esteem: both leading to self-respect.

As her brother, the best support you can give her is to encourage her to go out and work for what she wants in life; then be there when she returns to congratulate or teach her (realizing she may make many mistakes - it's up to you to show her the right way). But always show your support and encouragement.. show her she is strong and capable on her own.

If it is personal (physical) self-esteem she lacks, again, she just needs to become comfortable in her own skin; which often means growing a 'thick skin'. Girls are aweful to one another.. whether you're beautiful or not.. they will always find something to pick on. The key to overcoming (and particularly, the defining line between being a girl and a woman) is just taking what others say with a grain of salt and being confident knowing who you are and what your strengths are. This isn't something that can be 'given' to your sister, but something she has to realize on her own. She will see some day, that you cannot please all of the people all of the time. She will just need to suck it up, keep her chin high, and work to find her own contentment. That is where her true self-esteem will stem from anyway; the inner contentment and the encouragement that she has made herself into the proud, accomplished woman she is today and will continue to be tomorrow.

Answer 2

She is going have to build her self esteem on her own but here some things you could do to help, give her self help books but the really simple ones that are easy reads, compliment her on the good things she does and give her pep talks and point out all her good qualities. If she is shy try to help her come out of her shell.

Answer 3

Point out the areas in which you know she is good at. Example.. drawling,always dresses nice, good heart , good with kids . Self esteem doesn't always have to be about the way you look. Show her she beautiful in other ways

Answer 4

Confidence needs to be built from within. You can help her build it by giving her a lot of praises.

Answer 5

Compliment her often, like tell her how smart she is, things like that. Don't tell her things like "You're sexxy" 'cause that'd be freaky. lol