i spank her when she disobeys and i talk to her about her attitude and when she talks back i tell her she cant talk to me that way if she has a really bad day my husband takes her upstairs talks to her about her bad choices and spankes her and i poraise her when she makes good choices what else can i do?
2007-03-10 11:06:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Start teaching her "Please and Thank you's" This start's to show that you are in charge and not your 5 year old.
--When you spank don't just leave it at the spanking Always tell her why you are spanking her, and ask her if she know's what she did wrong. And ask her what you and her can work on together about changing the situation. This is what my parents did with me when I was a kid way back when and this is how I learned from right and wrong. Plus talking to them provides bonding time with your 5 year old.
2007-03-10 15:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to tell you it only gets worse the older they get the smarter they get.My daughter was about 5 also when she would kick furniture around the house and scream at the top of her lungs.We just took all her favorite things away,It did stop for a while.But now she is 14 and dear lord it's here again,just with a different attitude,the bigger she gets the smarter she gets.We do as we did when she was younger we take her most prized possesions away,and of course there is her freedom(which she has never had so how can she miss it).Trust me sooner or later she is going to get tired of losing her favorite things.Trust me it wont last forever.Good Luck.
2007-03-10 19:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop spanking her. It's not working. My daughter is younger but she has been talking back, I put her in the corner with a timer if she talks back again she goes right back but for a longer time. I have also started taking away privileges. TV, trips to the store, whatever fits. After they they start losing there toys and TV and other things they change their tune. You have to be consistent. I was spanking my daughter but it was just making her more aggressive.
2007-03-10 19:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by pieceomind4me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is not the thing to do. That will only make matters worse. It hasn't been effective so far, has it? If she talks back have her sit in a "timeout" chair for ten minutes & tell her that kind of behavior is not acceptable. Is she having problems in school causing her to act out when she gets home? Continue to praise her daily & remind her daily how much you love her. When she gets home from school, ask her how her day was & get her to share what she did in school.
2007-03-10 19:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my 7 year old. He'll be 8 in May, and when he doesn't like something, he talks back to me. I tell him not to argue with me, and then he'll YELL that he's not arguing with me. I can get so frustrated with him sometimes!!
What I've started doing is sending him to his room. He's got a short fuse, and he needs to think about what he's saying. I send him to his room, and tell him he can come talk to me, when he has a hold on his attitude.
He's also learned the value of sarcasm. I've got a saying that works wonders on him. I'll look him in the eye, my voice dripping with all the sarcasm I can muster, and say, "Argue with me, it's a GOOD idea." Not one single time, has he talked back after that comment from me.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 19:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEll first it is obvious that your daughter has no respect for you. I have always spanked my kids, but not as an eeryday punishment it is reserved for serious infractions.
You have to get control. You are the parent.
2007-03-10 19:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by norwooddrafting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good about the spanking, make sure her pants are down and it stings, at least a few whacks until she cries [or there is no effect.] when she talks back put soap in her mouth, afterwards when she begins to sass you; remind her you will get the soap and guarantee she will stop. I only had to do the soap one time. i just brushed it once against his top teeth.
then you can all get back to the business of loving and joy because you asserted yourself as the authority figure.
lots of parents say 'oh no don't spank!' but they don't tell you how they spend endless time talking to their kids-- until they are blue in the face---but they'll contend Johnny is well behaved, well, I would like to ask their relatives and neighhbors opinions! lol
2007-03-10 19:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well,
You Could Call Super Nanny?
Or You can plan a fun day every week to have her looking forward to so she is good so she can go to that place.
Another one is Warn her before you spank her in time out and get in her face and tell her thats not right!
If you want tip's from super nanny
Here is my e-mail H_U_L_A101@ yahoo.com
She will give you tip's or come to your house whatever you want.
I hope This Help's.
P.s I'm 13
2007-03-10 19:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by h_u_l_a101 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
did you know that spanking is a crime these days so watch what you say cause theres always some hero with no life thatll try to make yours hell get her on a reward system and take away things when she acts up
2007-03-10 19:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
start taking away the things she really enjoys playing with. My son's favorite thing is the playstation so take something that means alot to her away, intill she can respect you. I've also locked up all the toys before, and he had to earn each one back, it might sound cruel but it can also work
2007-03-10 19:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋