and he wants to know how he can gain it back .... the reason why he lost it was b/c he lied to me alot over alot of small things and a few big. any suggestions on ways to tell him how to get my trust back........ anthing will help thankS!!
2007-03-10 11:00:54 · 10 answers · asked by Jessica S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has to be honest. He has to put up with you checking up on what he says. He has to understand that there is no point to lying to you. He also needs to understand that he shouldn't do things that he thinks he would have to lie about. If he does lie again, he also needs to understand that you will be pissed and its his fault for lying.
2007-03-10 11:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be willing to be treated like an untrustable person. Not meaning that you get to punish him, I mean he needs to be willing to answer to you and prove that he's not lying. And not just by telling you he's not lying, he needs to be able to back it up with proof. Like, if he's at a friends house, you should be able to call that friend, or go over and see that he's there. If he wants to win your trust, he shouldn't get mad for you checking on him. Eventually, he will earn your trust back when you find him telling the truth enough. If he gets mad at you trying to prove him truthful, then he's not really holding himself accountable for the previous lies. He has to be willing to live through the consequences of his past actions.
It's actually a similar process to curing phobias that I'm trying to suggest. They use something called Systematic Desensitization that they use to get you over a phobia. So, think of it as if you have a phobia of him lying, and look systematic desensitization up....
2007-03-10 19:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Pahd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lied to you many times. That's a deal breaker! I'd tell him the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Then I'd find a new boyfriend.
2007-03-10 19:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a must in any relationship.Ask yourself is it worth going back to after all the lies.
2007-03-10 19:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship is doomed to fail if there is no trust. think about whether you can ever trust him again and if you can work on your issues if you cant i would suggest moving on, he didnt trust you enough to tell u the truth before so why should you trust him now.
2007-03-10 19:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,ill tell 1 thing.if theres no trust,then you might as well hang it up,because it wont work.you got to have trust on both sides in a relationship and marriage,if you dont ,you will be wondering,every time he makes a move.
2007-03-10 19:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give urdelf time 2 gain it n if u cant gainthen u neeed 2 separte be alone
2007-03-10 19:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him tall him how you fell then lesen to him as will
tall the turth and lay it all out in the open then work onthe thing that need the moust work .
2007-03-10 19:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by christy p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't you will ever be able to trust him again. that is one thing that is very hard to earn back
2007-03-10 19:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then give him up....
2007-03-10 19:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Dusty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋