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Well there this guy i really like and he has asked me out but i keep making excuses so i dont go out with him. Basially my parents won't let me go out and they won't let me have a boyfriend. They just want me to be focused on my education. The only time i'm allowed out is when it is summer, when there is no college, they say that i can go out but when i want to they say no. Plus i really don't want to disappoint the guy i like and i think he is annoyed with me at the moment because i told him im going out and he has replied to my text message at all today!!!!! please help !!!!!!

2007-03-10 10:57:42 · 29 answers · asked by Miss_Party_Girl 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

29 answers

if you are in college then I would be going out with him. your parents are going to have to trust you and let go someday. I think they should have a few years ago.

2007-03-10 11:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 2 0

How old are you? If you are in college i guess that means your old enough to date.
My advice would be to be honest with your parents and the potential boyfriend. Tell them all what the deal is and how to get a compromise.
Don't lie to any of them, what is the point. Im sure all parties will appreciate your honesty. Plead a good case, if you study hard then surely they can cut you some slack.
To be honest I would expect the studying thing may be an excuse. If you have a bf, they might be worried about what u r doing with him. Hey they worry, they're your parents, its their job. Reassure them, and tell the guy what is going on. If he can't handle that or makes fun of you, do u really want to date this guy?
It will be fine.... don't get angry, keep cool.
hope it helps

2007-03-10 19:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by pulsatron69 2 · 0 0

the thing with parents is that they see your life as theirs. they do not understand that it is your life and that this guy will be disappointed and that you will be embarrassed to tell him the situation.

they do not see the impact on your life and how their decisions affect you.

their thinking is typically parental, they don't want you to waste your life, or get pregnant. even though you know full well that is not your intention, parents tend to assume their kids cannot make the right choices.

we all learn from our mistakes, as did i.

being a teenager was hell and i would never go back

but now i am a mother i can see the reasoning behind my parents actions.

you have to try to show your parents that you are mature and responsible enough to date a guy without it affecting your education.

every girl needs to have some crushes in school and some snogs behind the swimming pool.

maybe see him at school and stick to emailing or texting when
out of school.

i know its hard and embarrassing but one day i promise you'll understand why yout parents are doing this.

2007-03-10 19:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

First - How old are you?
If you are in college, I would think you would be old enough to think for yourself. Your parents seem to want to keep you as a child. Focusing on an education is great, but you also need a social life.
I guess I would tell him you can't go out with him right now because you don't want to be distracted from your studies, but that this summer you would love to go out, and hope he waits that long.

2007-03-10 19:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1 0

I am not allowed to go out with anyone either, for the same reason too, but I still do. As a matter of fact, I am going out with someone right now, but my parents don't know and I told my bf the truth about them and he is all cool with it because he knows that I would do anything to go out with him. I like this guy a lot and so I checked with him first and told him the situation first, and we both really wanted to go out with each other, so we are making it work. I hope everything works out for the best for you and you make the right decision. Just remember that if you do go out with someone, don't let it distract you from your school work or family matters. Good luck!!

2007-03-10 19:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

First off, your parents want your life to be the best it can be. They are not the enemy. Their approach is definantly different than mine with my daughters. I meet the young men they date and warn them about hurting my daughters and respecting them. Since you are in college they do not want anything sidetracking your future. Dating this young man would not do that unless there were issues. So I feel you should sit down with your parents and talk with them. Show them you are in control of your emotions and are an adult enough to make this decision. Let them know you understand their concerns and that you want them to trust you enough in the way they have raised you to know you will stay the course in your education! Good Luck and I wish you the best!

2007-03-10 19:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by ShoelessJoes 2 · 0 0

Although you must be thinking about your education, there must be some time to 'go out to play'! If they are really that strict, try to arrange an outing with a few other people, and explain your dilemma to this boy. Maybe you have a a girlfriend to back you up?

2007-03-10 19:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by Thia 6 · 0 0

try going on study dates that way he will be happy and your parents will be happy. or you can tell the boy that he has to wait until the summer and if he really likes you he will wait until the summer time and may be you can go on a doable date that way it will be a date and at the same time not be a date . try talking to your parents and see if you can work it out like you can only go on dates on Fridays and Saturdays and have to be back by 10 that's what i do .

2007-03-10 19:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you are in college then you are old enough to make your own decisions go out with the guy your of age and your parents need to stay out of your social life when you get one you should get a job and move out because your parents are trying to control you and you have no life

2007-03-10 19:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 3 0

think you need to talk to your parents. it's not helping your study if you're thinking about him all the time! see if you can get them to be reasonable.

if you approach them in a mature manner looking to compromise you might surprise them and get an agreement out of them. maybe agree to do so much college work then go out, that sort of thing. it's hard for them to accept that you're growing up and need some independence by the sound of things but i'm sure it's only because they want the best for you

xxx

2007-03-10 19:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by aria 5 · 0 0

I think you should try explaining to your parents that you can handle school along with a bf. My folks say the same thing "Worry about your schoolwork!!" But I have a bf anyways, and my grades are fine A's as always. Just prove them wrong (in a good way)!!!

2007-03-10 19:01:38 · answer #11 · answered by Lindz911 2 · 1 0

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